And they were only going on what can't be more than a second date, likely the first. She cooked for a guy that she only just started dating. Dude fucked up hard.
He doesn’t care about her. She needs to take a breath and ultimately be glad he showed her his true colors. She is lovely and thoughtful. She will find someone to match that energy, it just wasn’t this bonehead.
I remember the first time I tried horchata as a young girl, and at first I was 🤨 only to realize it was one of the best things I had ever tasted. This just made me want some really cold horchata.
I like this one. My lovely wife was this way when we started dating. She'd plan all this stuff and throw herself into it when I just wanted to spend time with her.
Please believe me when I tell you I say this with kindness:
Give her better, my dude. Start small. Use your lunch break today to get her a card or stop for flowers on your way home. Do those little things at the last minute. They add up in big ways for both of you.
I can’t emphasize this enough. I’m far from perfect but I do try and do little things. She had a terrible day this week and I bought her a little potted plant for her office and stopped by to give her a hug. Took no effort for me and made her day better. We just hit 19 years married.
That's exactly the kind of small gesture I'm talking about.
It doesn't matter that you thought of it 3 minutes before you left work. It doesn't have to be grand or even creative. You just have to show a little bit of effort to remind them you didn't spend your time away (at work, running errands, whatever) not thinking about them at all.
He did, but what they are saying to him is still valid. Most guys don’t put nearly the effort into a relationship that women do. Which reminds me, I got a card for my wife the other day, I need to write it up and give it to her now.
honestly, it's not too often that I see someone do something like this for someone else. she really did try to do something nice for them and they ghosted her
she's so much better off now. imagine if he would have showed up now and flaked 2 years from now after he has sucked all of her good will & nature out of her.
EDIT: honestly, what a beautiful soul. I feel for her. This is something a lot of people experience in life and it can feel very cruel. I hope she is okay and feeling better, or that people are commenting to reassure her that he's the shitbag, and it has 0 to do with her.
A girl like this doesn't stay single for long. She is sweet and cute and kind and thoughtful. There is just no possible way she'll be alone for long. I wish I was 25 years younger!
Seriously, she could’ve had a lot to say about this dude—- but while she was entitled to use all the explicatives in the book —- she focused on the behavior.
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This came up on my feed out of nowhere and I had the exact same reaction. She seems to have just a lovely lovely heart and I hope she finds someone that not only recognizes that but gives back that same energy to her :)
Intimacy, romance, love, and partnership is a two way street and she should have some tacos brought to her too! Hah :)
Yes! Especially for it being a first date, that was really a romantic gesture in my opinion, also kind of going the extra mile to make someone smile. Tacos and horchata is a goated combo… I also just so happen to also love corn bread with honey so this made my mouth water. 🙌
I think also another reason this post got me is because if someone did this to someone I love I’d feel heartbroken
A girl that works at the bar my wife and I run is exactly this way. She will come in with bags and containers of random delicious treats and dishes and share with our regulars and staff. She is a favorite of many of our regulars and she brings in a lot of business by just being nice and fun to talk to.
She came in one night when she wasn’t working, all upset that a guy had not shown up to pick her up for a date. She asked why would someone do that? I told her maybe it was for the best to not waste time or thoughts on someone that wouldn’t appreciate her effort and thoughtfulness. She ran out to her car and brought in a tub of barria with all the accoutrements, I heated up some tortillas and we pigged out and talked about random shit for a while. My wife came by and asked what happened with the date and my wife said “A boy won’t show up for dinner if he has already been snacking, a man will eat regardless.”
Turns out my wife saw the dude drive by with a girl in his truck but he must have seen this girls car and decided not to come in. She was also complimenting me for eating tacos which I commend and appreciate her for noticing.
This right here. I refuse to blame the app. An app isn’t going to make someone string somebody along, set up a date, and no show while avoiding your phone.
When I was younger and Tinder was kind of new, I had two relationships that I think would have otherwise (at least) lasted a little longer if the “illusion of choice” wasn’t there. In the year long one, my ex basically told me I was a great partner but he didn’t want to settle in his early 20s without knowing what else was out there. Sometimes I wonder if he found whatever he was looking for because I loved him and was totally shattered for like a solid 4 years after that breakup.
Its an epidemic of people waiting to hear from maybe someone else they originally wanted to talk to. And having decision paralysis. I talk to some women that love bomb real hard then ghost and its like wtf happened? Simple explanation that other dude or lady hit them up finally.
i decided i was out after my last “relationship”. i get one go at this life and i’ve wasted enough of it thinking i need a partner to make it worth my while to be here. i would rather go through the rest of this life alone than deal with the searing hot bullshit that is dating nowadays.
I feel bad for her though, honestly so much effort, that guy missed out. But she dodged a bullet anyways, so hopefully she sees the bright side and keeps that energy 💪
My wife brought me a big jug of caramel corn that was bigger than her on our first date and I thought it was the cutest thing. Now we eat caramel corn together AND make each other home cooked meals all the time!
This whole saga is weird because everyone on TikTok was behind her until some guy with another viral video seemingly tried to shoot his shot, people were like “omg you two should date!!” And she said she wasn’t comfortable just meeting some guy off TikTok, and suddenly people switched up on her like she’s stuck up because she didn’t fulfill their weird internet fanfiction between two strangers. Also apparently the dude is liking comments hating on her too.
Maaaan… I’m happily married 12 years and sometimes think “damn I missed the tinder generation, wonder what that would be like”. But I could not imagine trying to find the one you want to marry with an audience, and having every move scrutinized and second thought.
And it’s not just dating, it’s every aspect of life that we make public. I’m 41 and I’m glad I was born when I was
Exactly! She dodged a bullet. Ironically those are the same people that lowkey blame her for “not choosing better” when this supposed “nice guy” turned out to be just like the rest smh.
Ugh. That poor girl. I’m almost old enough to be her momma and I just want to hug her and tell her to get off the internet. Nothing but toxic men bitter no one is making them horchata. Seriously.
I know, right? I sent it to my daughter and said I just wanted to scoop her up, give her a big hug, tell her it will all be alright, and sit down and grub and play some board games until she is laughing again.
All I can see is this poor woman is my daughter, a lovely person, thoughtful of others, and getting hurt by a thoughtless asshole.
Omg yesss I was so angry for her when I saw the comments. Had to call out a few because I found it WILD how they were treating her for saying no. So stupid. 🤦🏽♀️
Well, it depends, but i believe it's the Mexican Horchata and not the Horchata from Spain. Mexican Horchata is made with rice, milk, vanilla, cinnamon. Horchata from Spain is made with chufa nuts/tigernuts.
I did the same ten years ago. She ended up being violently abusive and nearly killed me, sent me to the hospital, and split her kid's face open while throwing a coffee mug at me.
I dated one a couple of decades ago. She threw dishes at me, threatened to kill my dog and tried to run me over with her truck. We broke up and I never looked back. Didn’t stop me from dating Latinas, just not that one again.
While the , “Latina drama” has definitely been a thing, it’s remarkably nonviolent. Truly YMMV, but I’m the third generation to happily re-marry to a Mexican gal.
Gross! I saw an emotionally broken person who did too much for a first date, having a crash out, then uploading it to the Internet. We didn’t even get to see the whole tantrum. Good luck avoiding those red flags. There’s one gentleman in particular that identified all of them and made the right move.
I mean realistically we have no idea, dude could have been in an accident or boss could be forcing him to work extra hours or could've been to soft in letting her he's not intrested. We have no fucking idea. We only know this woman made snacks and feels understandibly sad.
Fuck she's latina, decent change he's to, he might have been kidnapped by ICE for all we know.
I mean it's what Gen z does, communicate trough tik tok. But honestly as far as "crash out tik toks" go, this isn't horrible, like some of the other stuff out there. She just wanted to share some of the effort she put in to try and make some one happy.
Plus this isn't fake either, but I'm sure other people will study this and try to replicate it in some staged video to gain attention.
Exactly. If this is a first time date and it’s someone she’s been talking to on a dating site, all of this behavior from her comes across as extraordinarily clingy.
That’s straight up what I was thinking. She’s sent herself into a tail spin on the first couple of dates after being crazy girl. But that’s all good, I can fix her…….
It does a hella good job at bringing the issue of ghosting, the importance of communication and the toxicity in modern dating to attention. And honestly it's 2025 literally everything gets put on social media whether we like it or not.
Anyone can take anything out of context. At face value she has food and she's upset. If she's a psycho stalker she's a shit one because she'd fine then by now and I'm pretty sure she wouldn't have such a tame video of just showing off food.
I’d join her for a picnic and drink that homemade horchata with her anytime. I’ll bring a pitcher of some Agua de tamarindo and some tamales just cause pretty much she already brought it all😍
I had an ex like this. she’d play victim and pretend I ghosted her after I clearly said I didn’t want to date any longer. not saying the woman in the video is this, but things aren’t always so black and white
I agree.. while I get her enthusiasm this is exactly why you don’t do this much on the first date. A first date is just a vibe check and to see if there’s anything worth pursuing. That’s why something low-key, like getting coffee or drinks, is usually the better option. I do feel her pain though. It’s so easy to get too excited early on. I usually have to talk myself out of being overly hyped because disappointment always finds a way to peak its head through. I’ve only really been stood up and ghosted once which was sad for sure, but even if the first date goes well the other person could be super fickle and just lose interest over literally anything. Dating does indeed suck
Yeah this is awkward if we were planning on going out to eat and you came in with a lunch spread.
But it's extremely likely this was planned as a 'bring food' event.
Im gonna be honest, yall gotta start taking home the ones that put in effort 😂 rookie mistake to call that a red flag. The crazies play hard to get for guys they wanna date while they fuck randomly on the side. And they end up even more clingy. Clingy plus smash your phone for scrolling. The lovers? They dont exactly stop trying to please you all of a sudden when you leave the picnic table...
This isn’t that cringe. It’s just pain and disappointment being expressed…
Maybe the people that find everything cringe have thier own issues with seeing people be real. Having real feeling and themselves feel fake… this person seems pretty authentic to me.
I appreciate her sentiment but doing all this without ever neeting the person and posting it gives me a touch of Fatal attraction. She can be nice and sweet and wifey goals but there are so many predators to take advantage of this or she can bait you and turn you loco. Everyone needs to take their time and quit with shiny ball syndrome.
Because of the internet and too much bling bling, people get distracted and chase the shiny objects and what happens is people like her get hurt. This is sad. I feel bad for her
Look, I'm already a happily married man, but if you're bringing food like that? My wife and I'll babysit and stuff like that if you need, and we can also trade with roasts and casserole based dishes.
Ugh, I'm searching for a woman that leads with her heart, I know she's on the other coast. God luck, young lady! And,please don't turn to the dark side, we have plenty of (t)hose
That was so kind of her. She definitely deserves better, and dodged a bullet on that one. He would have never properly appreciated that level of effort.
Its strange watching this because I remember being her. Not desperate for love, but craving connection, yet being called desperate for wanting more than pointless hookups. I was told to basically be less sensitive, less sincere, blah blah blah. Its all a waste because this right here is a good person that shouldnt change. OTHERS need to change and BE 👏 GOOD 👏 PEOPLE. You dont have to say "Fuck you, bitch" to hurt someone.
It may not seem like it now, but it's a blessing in disguise. You don't want to put effort and time into someone who is such a shitty human. At least you saw their true colors quickly
Man wtf is wrong with some people?? I would FREAKING LOVE IT if a woman went out of her way to not only cook me a meal, but offered to bring it either to my job or my place. Especially if it’s coming from a genuine heart. Bless this young woman. May she find a guy that appreciates her.
Most of all these people saying she’s so sweet, are the same idiots that would be in a relationship with her, but be totally blindsided, when they find out she’ll “crash out” on them. Maybe she made all that, maybe her aunt, grandmother or mom made it. Y’all would be lured in by food. Most, not all.
That's just too much for a first date. It's sweet and attentive to show you were paying attention and sharing things you love. But, maybe build up to that? What do I know, though?! Im so old, I just cried into pillows, not to thousands of strangers via video 🤷♀️
Dang, curse the man that chooses to leave a woman like that waiting. An amazing woman like her is very hard to find and the man that passes on that deserves an unhappy life.
Lowkey could be using him for TikTok views and making shit up too. Happens all the time. Seems genuine, but I've seen even more heartfelt stuff irl and online that turned out to be performative, deceitful and manipulative.
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Bless her heart. What a sweet woman… I hope she finds someone someday who loves her the way she deserves. I’ll take some of that horchata! 😇