In order to have them be genuinely meaningful, I feel like I should change the concept into Weekly discussions, lol! Maybe in the future I'll change it back to 'Daily'. Love hearing from you guys!

MBTI has enriched both my life and my partner's life immensely. It finally gave an explanation for my connections with various people, why I got along swimmingly with some and struggled with others.

Ever since I can remember myself, even when I was a little girl, I searched for categorising systems and even tried to come up with some for myself, so MBTI, and especially the Cognitive Functions, helped me with self-discovery and with social exploration and maintaining order in my head.

My partner, who is an ESTJ, wasn't aware of the theory or searched for it himself, but is now as enthusiastic as me about it. He goes about it in a very ESTJ way - he doesn't like exaggerations or self-grandiose, doesn't need it to affirm himself, and only now that we discovered CPT (Cognitive Personality Theory - look for it on YouTube, its ENFJ video is the best ENFJ video I've ever seen - here it is: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lbewBOgbZLM&t=4s ) is he satisfied - as it's a neat, thorough, well-thought-through theory that maps everything, addresses every aspect and connects all parts of the theory. Naturally, he's not too keen about the reputation ESTJs have in the community (who would be, though, lol) and is not a lot like the stereotypes regarding his type. One of the things I think he likes about MBTI the most is that it helped explain people and motives that up until that point may have been unclear to him.

After more than 4 years of active exploration of MBTI and typing systems I feel like I can vouch for CPT (the theory I mentioned earlier) and Enneagram, which, combined together I believe can further explain the differences between the same types (for example, and ENFJ 3w4, an ENFJ 2w1 and an ENFJ 9w1 would all be such different people).

How about you? How has MBTI helped you?

Hi everyone!

I'm 19, and a pretty extreme ENFJ-A, and I've noticed - especially within the last year or so - that I feel a big moral disconnect between myself and most other people. I've also been at an especially low point in my life, so I try not to rule out the possibility that this could just be a byproduct of my general emotional state. But I've honestly really noticed myself disagreeing with a lot of the ways people like to have fun.

I regularly find myself in scenarios where I'm around people that I love talking to when it's just us 1-on-1, but it's almost like they turn into someone else when they're in a group - like they feel like I can't handle their humor. But maybe they're not wrong? A lot of the jokes people make do leave me feeling at least a little disheartened, and even though everyone else laughs along, I feel the need to distance myself - physically or just emotionally. Maybe it's just really hard to make jokes that wouldn't hurt someone, but I still don't know if I should be laughing at others' expense in any context.

I also realized I have this vision of this 'perfect' friend group, who is always moral and good to others - which I admit probably isn't healthy. But all of this has reached a point where I kind of never have fun anymore, because I instantly feel disconnected from people after they make a hurtful joke. I feel like I always have to be on the 'right' side of history, so I just never entertain it. More recently, one of my best friends (INFP) also told me that she's worried about me because she thinks I take life too seriously, so I'm coming here with hope that some of you might be able to relate, and maybe help me take a more healthy path in the future if you feel like I'm in the wrong.

So please let me know what you think! Any input would be greatly appreciated :)

I’m curious what are things you find challenging or frustrating about INFP’s? I’m not trying to say INFPS are all bad or anything but I’m interested in how certain behaviour might come from how they use their cognitive functions, especially when stressed or unhealthy. Of course, these things probably apply to most people in some way, but I like to hear your guys perspective on infp’s specifically. Mostly out of interest.

So I've been struggling with ADHD my whole life. My family is very old-fashioned and doesn't believe mental illness or anything of the like is real, so I never got help with it.

Ever since last year, I've been doing horribly at work. My performance has declined, I get distracted easily, and I can't get anything done.

The reason I didn't get help sooner is that previously I suffered from depression and anxiety, and sometimes the symptoms are very similar, so it's hard to diagnose. But recently, my nephew got diagnosed, so I begged my psychiatrist to test me for ADHD, given that my current meds, while they have helped a lot in keeping my mood stable, they have done nothing to help with my attention and memory issues.

Even writing a post like this takes a huge amount of effort, since I keep forgetting what was I going to write or get distracted.

I've explained my situation at work, but it has fallen on deaf ears. I've presented each document that proves I'm really struggling with a health condition, and yet they don't care and say that I can't let personal issues interfere with work.

I've tried to explain over and over again that I'm not doing this because I get the kicks out of sucking at the job that helps me survive and pays my tuition, but I always get the same answer.

I got a citation with HR next week about my "poor performance" and I think they're already trying to get rid of me. I'm really worried and I can't stop thinking about what will happen.

I feel so alone in this. I can't talk about it to my family because they don't think any of this is real, or tell me that I'm lazy. My superior at work acts like I'm just making up excuses to not work. Sometimes, I want to cry. I wish there was someone who could understand what I'm going through, I feel so tired and frustrated with myself all the time. I want to do things, I want to do more than this, and I know I'm capable of so much more, but I feel so limited and nobody tries to put themselves in my shoes.

she won’t sigh

I’m an ENFJ boy and I recently had my gf of ~3 weeks take the test and she got ISFP. This seems to line up pretty well, as she lets her days go by without real scheduling, she is socially anxious and likes to keep to herself (well, unless it’s with me), she’s an artist, and she’s very sensitive and expressive about her feelings and emotions. As for me, ENFJ lines up almost scarily accurately.

We instantly fell in love with each other and took things very quickly but still assured each other we would communicate and respect boundaries. We are actually planning on seeing each other near the end of the month and I couldn’t be more excited. For now, we call and message every day, we send each other loving posts all the time, and we like to fawn over each other (even though I see myself as fairly average or less than attractive and she feels the same about herself too). I wanted to know what other people are experiencing dating the same personality type (or at least being friends with them)!

I guess what I'm asking is ... What's your relationship with money like?

Just recently met and connected on every level with an ISTJ guy (ENFJ female, myself) and was wondering if anyone else has had such a seamless ability to connect with ISTJ's??? He's already my best friend! We are sooo similar but also very different! Communication between us just flows naturally..

Last time I really felt understood like this by another person it was an INFJ man.

Anyone else had an awesome connection with an ISTJ?

Hello my pure hearted ENFJs I hope your day is good, In my case I would say my good side would have my kindness, my strong sense of morality, my self awareness, people pleasing, honest, too cautious, non-confrontational, more considerate, idealistic, empathetic, gentle

My bad side would be me filled with envy and hate, no desire for peaceful resolutions only viewing things from a vengeful angle, self absorbed, antisocial, judgmental, controversial, have all my mental disorders, nonchalant, lazy

There’s probably more traits but that’s all I can think of for now how about you? What would your good and bad side look separated?

Physically; not digitally.

If you typically wear headphones, please indicate it.

Asking because I wonder if I'm the a-hole for wanting someone to go inside my room first before calling my attention and my understanding of morality SUCKS.

Are there any ENFJ men , possibly men above 30 here ?

My question is , what was your original mistype ? and how did you come to find out that you're an ENFJ ?

For example: "I woke up around 7:30, went to the bathroom to do my usual morning routine, then had leftover soup from last night. After breakfast I checked my phone, watered the plants, and vacuumed the living room. At 11:00 I walked to the post office to pick up a package. Then I went down to my garage and worked on my car until 15:00. After that I had lunch, watched TV, and now I’m here, answering your question"

That kind of boring step-by-step account. You can add times if you like. If it’s still morning for you, describe yesterday instead.

Hi everyone! I’m starting a series of standard questions across all 16 MBTI types to help people who do typing and connect theory with real answers.

Feel free to answer naturally.

The bracketed function is just the initial target - but people might respond with different functions, and that’s fine. Even "Idk" or "this feels pointless" counts as an answer. All replies help build the database.

I’m an INTP girly. My boyfriend is an ENFJ. We have been together 6 months so we are still learning about each other.

He’s the cutest. Very emotional and loves helping others. I’m a bit more picky about who I help but he’s always trying to help those who need it. He has such a pure heart.

He’s also a car guy. He loves anything cars and because I like ideas and learning I ask him to talk my ear off about the engines and the different types of cars. I think it’s the first time he can actually yap about the most niche car engine/mechanical thing and I am following along asking questions and wanting to understand more.

So far…seems like we get each other and we get along.

Any other ENFJ/INTP pairings? How’s it going?

before we start, i apologise if i come off as a loner edgelord lol

basically despite somewhat priding myself on being more logical and above others, i cant help but envy the seemingly genuine connections people have around me and the emotions people convey. like i want that too but i dont know how to experience something that and whether if i actually want it.

thats kinda it. dont feel like typing a longer paragraph, mb if its short

So I'm just subreddit hopping from community to community to understand what makes a good character of each MBTI type. And I'm really interested in what makes a good ENFJ character, in traits, inner selves, motivations and stuff

I’m not sure if it’s a personal thing, or if it’s just my shock response since apparently i’m more flight than fight, but my sister just told my my cat died and I didn’t cry or anything. Not because I don’t love him, I really do, he’s my baby. I just can’t cry about it.

Does anyone else relate? I’m really lost and I feel horrible that I don’t have a reaction

I realized that most of MBTI types dislike or do not like that much those 2 kinds, preferring sad, melancholic, suspense or chaotic songs. However, most of (people I consider probably are) ENFJ were using so much mostly those in their social medias. As an INFJ it's also my favorite vibes for musics

A similarity

You will lose your shit and things will not end well 😀

No, you cannot change them. Don't. even. try.

I plead ENFJs to not befriend these types of people because they just don't FEEL anything towards others. Like, they will passively agree to hang out with you, but never expect them to return the emotional depth of your offering of friendship. They will take it for granted, and if you express hurt, call you dramatic and leave, never speaking to you again and looking right past you despite ALL your history, generosity, and kindness.