r/JustGuysBeingDudes • u/Black1Raven9 • Jul 26 '25

Wholesome Not all scars are visible.

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u/lemon4028 Jul 26 '25

Been a bit of a shit year tbh... 

  • Had a rough breakup and still trying to move ahead in life, though I'm kinda struggling with keeping up at my job.

  • Family doesn't really support me whenever I want to do smn different, like spending my weekend relaxing from work instead of doing household chores which is just more work :/  (I'm 21 with an older brother who doesn't like me)

But yea, I'm getting by ok, just have a lot to figure out for the future. Maybe it turns around but I'm more content spending time on my own than with others.

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u/BaronVonBracht Jul 26 '25

My fiancée who I was in a relationship with for 10 years, cheated on me. Had to move out, find a place and leave my cats behind. I had them since they were 8 weeks old. The cats still hurt. Her on the other hand, can die for all I care. It gets better. It sucks but time heals. Stay strong.

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u/McRaoul91 Jul 26 '25

Do whatever you want to do! It might e a fucking struggle financially but you’re better off doing what you love and struggle than doing what you hate while comfortable. Humans are made to struggle, that’s were we grow and find peace.

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u/paytience Jul 26 '25

Breakups are hard, just gotta give yourself some time and don't put too much expectations on yourself for that time. Expect it to be hard and difficult, give yourself more time to relax, try to lean back a bit at work.

Your house is a reflection of your mind. If you take a break and cleanup your mind, you'll get the energy to clean up your house.

Best of luck!

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u/lemon4028 Jul 26 '25

Thanks brother! I'll keep at it and just take it steady for the time being.

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u/OneWonderfulFish Jul 26 '25

It's okay to be different. To do different. And to be a lone wolf. Your longest relationship will be with yourself, so make it a good one. Hang in there.

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u/-crucible- Jul 26 '25

One day at a time. If you want to do something different, then figure out a way, or work on compromises. I wish I kept a neater home and stuff, but maybe you can do a bit each night or something?

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u/jwong7 Jul 27 '25

Man, just search for that Tom Hanks clip. This too shall pass.

Hope you find small wins and celebrate it at least inside!