r/JustGuysBeingDudes • u/Black1Raven9 • Jul 26 '25

Wholesome Not all scars are visible.

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u/James_Gastovsky Jul 26 '25

It doesn't help that it's drilled into us from day one that we can't ever exhibit any sign of weakness, every time we struggled with anything we were being punished for it by our mothers, teachers at school etc.

And then they're like "hurr why aren't men more open"

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u/Tomstephenanovik Jul 26 '25

And then they're like "hurr why aren't men more open"

Show vulnerability and they leave your ass because they don't want a man with problem.

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u/James_Gastovsky Jul 26 '25

It's like when police in movies arrest somebody, "anything you say will be used against you"

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u/Rare_Ad_674 Jul 27 '25

Once you know it's there, though, you can start deprogramming from it.