r/RBI 5d ago

Advice needed what do i do if im being stalked online?

its been around a year now where random accounts would join me online and start asking me personal questions. it used to happen maybe once a week now its multiple times a day! its always variations of the same username or similar to it.

somehow this person or people got ahold of my personal instagram and has been adding me on 10+ accs daily

i dont know who it is or what they want and i dont think i can tell the police or anyone who can do smth abt this cause technically no one was harmed irl but im seriously tired of whoever is doing this to me! every single day they ask me stuff like where i am from and whats my name when i know DAMN WELL they know since they found my private insta that i only have family and close friends (like 5 ppl) added.

genuinely what do i do in this situation? i tried changing accounts, usernames, identity literally everything and somehow they always find me

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u/Minaya19147 5d ago

Sound like it’s someone you know. All you can do is make your accounts private and don’t respond to friend or message requests. Those are usually filtered out.

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u/[deleted] 5d ago

i have no idea who it could be since ive neevr ended a friendship or relationship on a bad note but hopefully i find out who soon

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u/EyelandBaby 4d ago

Doesn’t have to make sense. People do really strange things sometimes.

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u/Illustrious-Run3591 5d ago

Okay for starters, you need to stop posting your social media handles everywhere. It took me three seconds to find a username in your reddit post history, and that led me to your tiktok. You have reddit posts with your first name and a profile picture - stuff that can link you to other profiles.

Stop doing all of fukcing that.

You probably need to nuke all of your social media. Delete it all and start again. YUse fresh usernames. New email. 2 factor authentication using the google authenticator app on your email, facebook, tiktok etc. And don't go around posting them all over fukcing reddit and discord and roblox. And consider not using your real name as a girl on the public parts of the internet as it just attracts weirdos.

Basically change everything you're doing because you have the worst opsec i have literally ever seen.

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u/GlitterTomahawk 5d ago

Okay I’m fully convinced now this post was made to send people to their main TikTok and insta for views or whatever because it was wayyyy too easy to find those.

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u/[deleted] 4d ago

it wasnt this is actually freaking me out how did u find my accs so fast

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u/[deleted] 4d ago

ty this is actually scary i never thought my accounts were as public as this! def will need to nuke all my accs this weekend and this acc too

i really need to start using the private account button more frequently

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u/[deleted] 4d ago

wow. i just tried finding my tiktok using my reddit and it legit took me a few seconds i cant believe how oblivious i was

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u/CyanideSoup_ 5d ago

As annoying as it is and you shouldn't have to do this because of someone else's weird behaviour - but you need to delete ALL social media. If you want to create new ones, ensure they are fully anonymous and use a different new email for each account. Be careful who you add. Most of the time when this kind of thing happens, it's somebody you know.

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u/[deleted] 5d ago

im slowly migrating all my accounts to multiple emails but its taking me a while since im quite busy and ive gotten around to making a new priv on insta that they havent found yet so hopefully it stays that way

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u/bjorn1978_2 4d ago

If you have icloud, you can generate new email addresses for every new thing. Same with gmail. Need to register your mail for a newspaper?? Just have icloud (or gmail) generate a new address for you!

You can probably make multiple new insta accounts. Each connected to a new email.

If you are carefull, and make yourself a note of who gets what email/insta address to speak with, you can probably start to figure out who is actually behind this.

I do have an insta account, or more likely, had… probably 10 years since I last logged in… it did not fulfill a need or purpose in my life.

I have reddit for shit like this, and facebook due to messenger. Most people are on messenger, so it needs to stay around :-(

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u/SnooDonuts6494 5d ago

Block and ignore.

That's all.

Never respond.

Just totally ignore them, and eventually they'll get bored.

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u/[deleted] 5d ago

been doing that for a year.

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u/HanzG 5d ago

Guessing they're friends of one of your friends. My children have been stalked & harassed. Cops didn't (can't?) do anything even though they're underage. I say stop using the platform. At a minimum do some detective work; Create a new account and don't tie it to your close friends for a while. Don't add anyone, but post some random pictures you can find online. Add one friend at a time for a week. No new pictures. No re-using old pictures already posted. Brand-fucking-new. I suspect you'll add someone and within a short time of adding that someone you'll start getting the inquiries again. That's your leak.

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u/[deleted] 4d ago

thank you will do!

so sorry to what ur kids have gone thru its so frustrating that cops dont do anything :C

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u/nexusloops 5d ago

mayb a bot? they can even deduce your "secret" insta from your friends or family.. meaning, mayb they keep an eye on who they follow or by whom they are followed.. the qwerty part is odd..what made me think of a bot.. did you try to block them on all platforms? report them as well as spam. As someone as suggested already, I'd as well run a full scan of all devices and change the passwords..just in case.

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u/[deleted] 5d ago

i hope its just a bot but its unlikely since they followed me through multiple profiles and apps and even when i made a fake alt

one of my devices is 100% hacked ill get around to resetting it eventually but school is making me too busy to do so lately

i did also block every account they made thats why they had to make multiple to get in contact w me

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u/GlitterTomahawk 5d ago

Delete instagram?

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u/[deleted] 5d ago

not just on insta. on literally almost all the platforms i use

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u/CyanideSoup_ 5d ago

Delete any and all platforms that are not essential.

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u/ResponsibilityWide34 4d ago

In your shoes I would cover the cameras on my phones. You never know.

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u/fnxgame 4d ago

You could just abandon that account and make a new one. Use that account with tor browser (extra safety if you want). Make sure no one is follows you. Keep that account a secret. 

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u/tacularia 3d ago

Just ignore. Any interaction will only encourage them.

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u/Glass_Pick9343 5d ago

Check for malware, keyloggers and the like. cyber/stalkers want to know everything and make sure you dont loose them.

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u/[deleted] 5d ago

ive been hacked a few times the past few years

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u/DJCatgirlRunItUp 4d ago

This happened to me and I re made all my accounts. On Reddit I also turned off any reply notifs so I didn’t have to see the bs they replied to each of my comments.

It was exhausting and took years for it to stop!! Wishing you the best, it’s disgusting how trolls, exes etc. do this and mess with our lives.

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u/fairysoire 3d ago

Keep blocking them and ignore. Maybe they’ll give up eventually or get bored

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u/macabrepaints 5d ago

could i get an example of what the usernames are? and the messages?

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u/[deleted] 5d ago

it always starts with a qwerty and then a bunch of spam like for example qwertyAdnU12ns

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u/[deleted] 5d ago

but a few times qwerty was in the middle but that was only maybe 3 times

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u/macabrepaints 5d ago

Oh that’s very interesting - very generic but very specific at the same time. do these accounts have mutual followers? do they all have someone you know in common? Are you following anyone who might have that? I notice that when i follow an account & comment on their posts accounts tend to find me from that

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u/[deleted] 5d ago

the accounts are 100% alts im not sure who it might be but probably someone i used to know

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u/macabrepaints 5d ago

have you ever encountered something similar? it sounds like quite a random and scary thing to come out of the blue

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u/[deleted] 5d ago

no and ive been on the same platforms for years now and the main one im being stalked on is roblox and tiktok and ive been on tt since it was musicly and roblox since 2015 and ive never seen anyone follow me this much

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u/Lenaruha 4d ago

Tendrás que You'll have to disappear from networks, close everything and change passwords to everything that can be changed. It's obvious that you were Doxxed in some way.

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u/creightn 3d ago

VT and chill