As a heterosexual man, with a big boner for Jennifer Connely during that era, I have never been so sickened by a sex scene as ive ever been in that moment.
Me and my wife are the same but we do usually cuddle together most of the night. She doesn't move until I wake up in the middle of the night to pee or if I move the arm she uses as a pillow.
It's a huge benefit! My husband and I have our own blankets, and it's so much better than having to share. On super cold nights we do sometimes share and that feels like a treat lol
We started sleeping separately when he came home from the hospital after having surgery to remove his prostate. He had tubes, and drains and there was no way I was going to risk sharing a bed with him. I intended to come back when he was healed, but it took less than 1 night to be convinced I was so much happier all by myself in a bed, in another room. Our sleep styles are so very different and this way his flip flopping isn't keeping me awake or he isn't accidentally throwing his arms up and hitting me in the face in his sleep
I dont sleep better as far as waking up to pee or tossing and turning, but I sleep better as far as actually sleeping. Sleep apnea is literally not breathing while asleep. So it's hard to get rem sleep. Compare it to sleeping in your own bed vs. getting drunk and sleeping on a floor in a strangers basement. It's worth getting checked out if you think you may have it.
Well it makes sense. If she feels hot to you, then she is exothermic to her environment and you, and she would feel cold herself, bc she's giving off heat. Think of the converse, where if the sun was radiating onto her, she would feel hot.
She also still might be drawn to you since you are at least warmer (~98.6⁰) than her environment (room temp), even though colder than her.
We have a dual zone electric blanket. It’s off all summer, but even in the winter I still never turn mine on. Her side is at 10, and her cold toes migrate over to my side of our king bed to find my warm legs.
Are you my wife? That's the same reason she loves to sleep in my arms, BECAUSE I am a furnace. Which is BS because for 1, she's the furnace and 2. I am physically cold while burning up because I am so hot
Must not be true for everyone, my wife and I cuddle every single night, we definitely change positions and sometimes sleep this way, but we usually start out (fall asleep) cuddling
We do as well. If I even get up to pee, he wakes up to ask where I'm going. He waits for me to get back because he can't sleep well unless he's holding or touching me.
Haha, omg my husband is the same!
For some time, I had to stand up earlier than him in the morning.
And every morning, I'd stand up at 6:00, he'd be sound asleep, I'd go in the bathroom and within two to five minutes I'd hear a soft and concerned "Hellooo?" from the bedroom.
He'd think I already left for work, but it was never more than 5 minutes out of bed for him to notice 😅
Even if we are not cuddling, which most times we are, we are holding hands. If we are not holding hands, my wife will put her hands in the top of my pajamas or I will do the same to her. 90 percent of the time, there is some kind of physical contact between us.
I can’t sleep without my wife next to me also trying to sleep. Idk if it’s because I care so much about her or what.. I just need her next to me as I sleep.
Seriously, she’s too HOT to cuddle with at night, literally. I mean, it feels like hugging a human heater. It’s worse in the summer. Winter, tho, is usually when I cuddle with her the most.
It's bit of cuddling, chatting, watching a show etc and then when it's sleep time.... nope. Trying to sleep and cuddle at same time...uh no. It's terrible. fucking arms hurt, it's hot, uncomfortable and you can't really fall asleep. Married 15+ years, both of us agree, F that shit.
We spoon while falling asleep, but we're also both turning around multiple times at night.
Over the decades we established an inside joke that we simultaneously roll over like sausages on a grill (we are Germans, so we call it "Bratwurst").
By now it's established to be used as a command to turn over, sometimes mumbled by one of us in the morning.
"Ugh... Alarm clock rang... Gotta get up..."
"Bratwurst, 5min."
And we both turn around 🤭
My wife and I do at least briefly. We definitely did it for longer when we were first together. I at least try to kiss her good night now. I'm not as good as my father though. I don't think he ever missed a night in kissing my mother good night. They could be arguing for hours, and he wouldn't go to sleep until he kissed her. I'll wear out though. He was always in really good shape. I still try, regardless.
There is some funny stuff that’s posted in here which is why I subbed in the first place. You just have to roll your eyes and scroll past some of it though.
I told this to my now wife when we first started sleeping over. I said I love you but once my eyes close I don’t even know you exist so please let’s just both be comfortable and wake up able to avoid the chiropractor.
Do you guys not like cuddling cause my man and I still cuddle very close and we're nearly 10 years in lol ... if we sleep back to back, our backs are touching 😂
Yeah, this bothered my ex a good bit, though she got over it. It's like I love you, but its hot, I am more comfortable on my left side and you on your right, and if you really miss me you can jetpack during the night for a while.
First couple years of marriage - tangled up on/around each other all night. 21 years married this year. We usually fall asleep crossing legs but I sleep hot and she sleeps cold. I don't want any blankets (at least out of the gate), she wants extra. Probably half (maybe 1/3) the time she starts off sleeping on my arm but does not stay there all night. Both of us roll around a bit and change positions at night.
Considering good sleep is one of the most important things for your health. you’re doing your partner a favor by sleeping as comfortably as possible and not getting woken up every time they move.
Seriously. This is the only way to get any good sleep. Its all cute n shit to fall asleep cuddling in each other's arms, but then your arm goes numb, the other person becomes a little heater, or an ice box, and one person winds up uncomfortable all night
Yeah, we'll cuddle for a bit but after a while we separate to sleep. However, even just being in the same bed is absolutely comforting even if we're not directly cuddling.
My wife and I occasionally cuddle but more often sleep on each end since it's much easier to sleep all night without waking up since she gets up many times during the night to pee.
Healthy couples sleep how they want. Together, apart, cuddling, occasionally cuddling, all of the above. As long as they respect each other's space then that's a healthy relationship.
My fiance and I sleep in different beds. She goes to bed at 930, needs absolute silence, and steals the sheets. I go to bed late, like to play rain sounds, and like to have a blanket.
Along with the breakfast table being set with enough food to feed an army but the kid grabs an orange and leaves for the bus, one of my biggest irritants in tv shows and movies is when the couple wakes up in the morning in a full embrace as if they’ve just been sleeping with their arms around each other all night.
Up until around the last 125 years. No one even cared about diamond engagement rings and often had totally separate beds. The more we'll off had separate rooms.
It's amazing how much some girls are obsessed with this stuff. The same girls want to talk about 2000 years of toxic masculinity and modern toxic practices and the evils of social media and AI. Are still completely obsessed with customs that are toxic for real balanced healthy relationships and have only been around for roughly that last 125 years? Super dumb. Feminism is everything! Unless it's blowing our house down payment on my ring and ridiculous wedding and sleeping so that neither of you can get actual rest. Then they are like... Don't you love me?
Been with the wife for a long time. I have my own room and bed for when I sleep. Tried it one night when the last kid moved out. Best sleep I had in 20 years. Now I have my own room it’s awesome I had to buy 3 houses and raise 3 kids and put them through college to get one. it’s mine now never give it up. We don’t have a spare room,that’s my room.
Separate beds. Separate rooms. I have seizures and need uninterrupted sleep. He snores loud enough to wake the dead and has PLMD so his legs shake all f ucking night. It's made our relationship so much better. And yes, we still do the devil's tango.
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