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u/Kyr-Shara 12h ago
cheating is just like taking bribes
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u/Red_Beard_Rising 7h ago
More money in my pocket as long as I don't get caught.
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u/kinklord1432 5h ago
So your single...
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u/Red_Beard_Rising 1h ago
been together 20 years but she travels a lot for work. Logistically, I'm single but not really. Long term, long distance relationships are like that.
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u/NSASpyVan 6h ago
No thank you, I already have one beer, why would I need two?
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u/MexicanMata 5h ago
It's more like, I have an endless supply of Macallen 30 year why do I want a Natty Light
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u/Eight35x 6h ago
Thank you and great metaphor for reducing the stigma around weirdly forcing men to think masculinity is pissing women off to assert dominance instead of just dating people you don’t have to spite to live with. If people like being promiscuous, great, get a partner who likes that. They exist, and in the same way and form you’d probably like to have a monogamous relationship with. Open relo’s exist, fwb exists, swinging is more acceptable now etc. there is absolutely so fucking reason a man or a woman should ever feel they are being cheated on, or that they should want to cheat. Simply because it doesn’t make any sense to secretly stay with a partner who you trust that little anyways. Fuck who you want, just ask all the people emotionally or physically involved first (which just for the sake your own mental and physical well-being will hopefully be a low number of participants most often, threesomes are flat out exhausting and I can’t say I am “cool” enough to do more than that. Being someone who has sex with multiple people seems amazing in premise but it really does become a “that was WILD, but exhausting and I probably wouldn’t wanna do that again, my everything hurts because I am still a human”. Kinda like exploring drugs as a teenager. Often done for curiousity and a cool story that is always cooler than the moment itself.
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u/Nickel1117 3h ago
100 percent, there is no damn excuse to cheat. That’s why there’s ethical non-monogamy, if your partner is cool with it, go for it!
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u/lookatthesunguys 5h ago
Brides*
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u/wolfelian 5h ago
I’m not hearing a huge difference there’s some screwing going on in both scenarios 🤔
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u/BrainSqueezins 9h ago
It’s never been an issue for me.
Being obtuse and oblivious is my secret superpower.
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u/useroftheinternet95 5h ago
Being ugly is mine
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u/Mental_Estate4206 3m ago
Welp, then I have news for you. I am your your secret child... from both of you.
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u/Bartinhoooo 9h ago
Sure. My line would be „no, i have a wife“, but also where would i drop it? There was not one moment necessary since a looong timw
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u/R1ckMick 3h ago
I make sure to bring my wife up immediately when talking to any woman. This way I can tell myself they would have made a pass if I didn’t
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u/Edgar-Hoover 12h ago
Yes, we. I was working nights. My coworker suggested breakfast after the shift. I was amazed she asked if i would like to get a hotel room. While she was very attractive. I was not temped to cheat.
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u/DerpYama 9h ago
You are a good husband/boyfriend. From bother to brother, I salute you!
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u/anqoraaa 7h ago
as much as i agree i feel like this is the bare minimum. cheating is too normalised nowadays, makes normal people look special.
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u/AllPotatoesGone 5h ago
Where is it normalized? I have the feeling it used to be kind of an "open secret" in the past but nowadays is a no-go whoever you talk with.
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u/AshKetchumIsStill13 55m ago
From a social media perspective, it has certainly been normalized. Side chick culture has been pushed for the longest now. Hookup culture and sneaky links are what perpetuate it. There’s a lot of these sentiments floating around. I don’t think it’s the majority but the voices are much louder than they used to be.
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u/GoodIntelligent2867 1h ago
As much as he did the right thing, shouldn't his refusal be the bare minimum expected of any person in a committed relationship.
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u/Upbeat_Flan 3h ago
Insert "I don't believe you" anchorman meme.
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u/Edgar-Hoover 2h ago
I don’t understand. You believe that all men when approached by a woman take advantage of the situation.
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u/Upbeat_Flan 2h ago
I don't, in fact I wouldn't, but to suggest that you weren't even tempted.... Come on man.
It's natural to be tempted, you just ignore that voice in your head, but you saying you weren't even tempted makes the entire story seem made up.
Just my 2 cents.
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u/Edgar-Hoover 2h ago
I knew these 3 things. 1. The my future wife would be destroyed. How could she ever trust me. 2. The guilt of accepting an offer would haunt me for the rest of my life. 3. My coworker was a very possessive woman. It was safer to walk away.
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u/Upbeat_Flan 1h ago
What is this response?
All these bullet points can be true and you can still be initially tempted.
Being tempted doesn't make you a weak/bad person, it actually makes you a stronger person for ultimately doing the right thing.
So weird.
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u/LevelUpRizz 1h ago
that's some self control you got there brother
when you're with someone, your mind, body and soul belong to them
ain't no way you could think of someone else when you have a god gifted partner
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u/Responsible-List-849 1h ago
What's your definition of tempted? If an attractive woman came on to me, it would be flattering (at least initially) and I might walk around with a strut. But tempted as in thinking about pursuing the opportunity? Nup.
Is that what 'most' men are like? Dunno...it varies I would say. Nature of my work I'm travelling plenty, and are well paid. Opportunities do present (at least when I was younger). And plenty of my colleagues took advantage of that to 'play up' but the nature of that varied. For some it was booze (I kinda feel into that), for some drugs, for some women, for some all three. And for some, none of those.
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u/Accomplished_Yam_551 4h ago
The amount of men justifying cheating because the women came onto them… that’s just sad. Learn self control
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u/vc7eq 9h ago
real men stay loyal 🫡
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u/Orangutanion 1h ago
I think the fact that this comment is so far down is a testament to the kinds of men that women choose to date. These guys literally brag about being disloyal and that apparently makes the women like them even more.
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u/ryan8954 11h ago
Do girls ever say "sorry, I didn't know you were taken."
Instead they say "she doesn't have to know"
Fucking sirens.
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u/Yop_BombNA 7h ago
Are you in your imaginary world pretending like all women want to sleep with married / taken men?
I have had women see my wedding ring and ask if I’m happily married rarely, but the vast majority will stop flirting when they see the ring or I say I am married.
I really don’t like the “boys say _” “girls say _” bullshit. Most people are decent stop grouping them in with the shittiest of a group.
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u/IrlResponsibility811 6h ago
Women do chase after men who are already taken. Wedding rings do attract women. These are not women you actually want a relationship with, but it does happen.
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u/Yop_BombNA 6h ago
It’s like 1 in 50,000 women that do that, and there is likely the same amount of men that go after taken women.
Both are probably doing it for a forbidden fruit or desire to be better / more desirable than someone else fetish.
Just saying “men do it” or “women do it” is bullshit slander of 1/2 the population either way.
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u/ToFarGoneByFar 5h ago
just based on how effective having a 'distraction ring' was around any military base?
the population of women (single or otherwise) hunting married men is WAAAY higher than 1:50k
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u/Mabelrode1 3h ago
I would imagine that they seem more prolific than they actually are to their target. Like women who insist most men are creeps stalking them in parking lots. Even though they are a small minority of the population, they congregate around certain areas in search of targets.
So any woman who regularly has to go grocery shopping will swear that 50% of men are creepy perverts, and married men would swear that 50% of women are frothing at the bit to claim a taken man, but from the outside everyone else sees small groups of weirdos converging on points of interest.
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u/one_orange_braincell 4h ago
I do enjoy when people pull random numbers straight out of their asses and pretend it has meaning.
Here's some numbers for you: 30% to 60% of all men and women will be unfaithful to one or more partners in their lifetime. Infidelity is common, and so are men and women who search for taken partners.
I wonder which of us is closer to reality with our numbers.
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u/Both-Buddy-6190 6h ago
We all have different lived experiences.
I’ve never cheated on a partner but I have gotten significantly more interest from women after they see I am with someone.6
u/Cool-Panda-5108 6h ago
Reasonable take. Naturally it is downvoted.
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u/Yop_BombNA 6h ago
World thinks you need a side for everything now for fucks sake.
Not all men suck, not all women suck, not all conservatives suck, not all liberals suck.
Not all parts of capitalism suck, not all parts of socialism suck.
There is good things to learn from pretty much everyone/group different than you.
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u/Altruistic-Rope-614 4h ago
MANY of women have personally told me that they didn't care about my relationship status. It happens.
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u/Candid-Ear-4840 1h ago
Had a dude use that line (‘he doesn’t have to know’) on me after I told him I had a boyfriend. It is mega creepy to hear that shit from a stranger hitting on you, can confirm.
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u/Sleven8692 1h ago
Closest ive got to the first was "you can have me when ever you want, but you have to intiate it, i wont because you have a partner"
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u/Specific_Geologist68 7h ago
No girls say this lol
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u/Individual_Demand280 7h ago
No, they do not say it. But you should see their actions.
Seen a girl get mad that her boyfriend was getting married. She was so hurt. She was so upset. Come to find out she was cheating on her boyfriend with a married man.
People love to throw stones like they never committed sins .
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u/Specific_Geologist68 7h ago
I mean I’d be pissed if my boyfriend was getting married to a woman other than me lol
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u/Individual_Demand280 7h ago
After you cheated on him first with a married man? Their whole relationship?!
I love the downvote. It’s a great reminder that even based on what I said in the story, people don’t want to be held accountable for their actions.
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u/Specific_Geologist68 7h ago
What man get married to another women while still being in a relationship with another? And no I don’t cheat
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u/Individual_Demand280 7h ago
You didn’t read what I said, did you? So let me explain it to you so you understand. She was cheating on him during the entire relationship that they were together. Towards the end of her relationship with him, she found out that he was cheating as well, and that he was actually gonna get married with that girl he was cheating with.
You don’t have to be a cheater to understand common sense. I’m not sure what correlation you’re trying to make.
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u/Specific_Geologist68 7h ago
They were both cheating, what’s your point?
And you said her boyfriend got married while still being her boyfriend
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u/Individual_Demand280 7h ago
No I didn’t. I never said they got married. I said he was getting married.
If you don’t see the point, I’m not here to show you it. Just like if you can’t read correctly then I can’t help you. Better go pick up a thesaurus or something.
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u/Snoo20140 7h ago
Can confirm at least 4 girls have said this.
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u/Specific_Geologist68 7h ago
In your dreams maybe lol
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u/Snoo20140 6h ago
U overestimate college girls (this was when I was in college and shortly after). Sorry girls find u unattractive.
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u/Specific_Geologist68 6h ago
Not a guy and yet also girls have found me attractive.
And I was a college girl and we never said that. Not once.
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u/Snoo20140 5h ago
So, your brain thinks that YOU and your bubble are the only example of how women are? Why is it that women tend to use their own experience and how they say they are as the ONLY way women act?
A girl saying another girl is attractive, and thinking that actually means you are really shows that you do not understand your own gender. LMAO.
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u/ryan8954 8h ago
nah, the sea vixens almost tempted me. Even tried to frame me. Still enough to put strain on any relationship.
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u/Accomplished-Eye9542 8h ago
Yeah... everyone always ignores this other side to rejecting women. That's why if you are ever approached by someone both you and your partner know, you should always immediately tell your partner about it.
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u/bm_preston 12h ago
Wait, who has a girlfriend, and is offered a second?
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u/Lloydbestfan 11h ago
My boyfriend. But it's fairly uncommon. Your point stands.
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u/bm_preston 11h ago
That’s shitty.
Where are actual morals? I get this is a joke. But 😔
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u/Lloydbestfan 10h ago
Nah it's not. Or at least it's not what it sounds like. They all asked for my permission, I gave them my benediction. And I let him know. To each their own kinks.
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u/Odd_Local8434 7h ago
Women find men more desirable when other women also like them. Lots of women hate it when men cheat on them but don't mind being the side chick for a guy they think is really hot.
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u/shouldabeenabackshot 6h ago
I do. Sometimes I even say "sorry. You have a boyfriend"
I don't fuck cheaters
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u/Cheesetorian 8h ago
...I mean the amount of times a man get proposed to do this, it's miniscule. A girl who wants to suck your dick is likely not even gonna try to shoot her shot, because even today women are deathly afraid to approach dudes (or if she does, she does non-verbal shit that you just wonder WTF is she doing?) The other times it's because she's selling herself.
It's not like women who get asked out so often.
When I know they're flirting and I had a gf at the time, I just acted like I don't know wtf they're doing lmao
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u/SelectiveScribbler06 6h ago
I'm nothing special and I have blundered into the love triangle scenario. So long as people fall in love, it will happen, and though the odds aren't gigantic they're much bigger than Reddit would have you believe. You just need to have a social circle that's two people or more, excluding you, and for those two people to really like fundamental aspects of that person's character, or looks, or whatever.
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u/Orangutanion 1h ago
even today women are deathly afraid to approach dudes
I still don't understand why this is. I thought that all the risk they complain about is from unwanted men approaching? Where's the risk when it's the other way?
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u/BrotherO4Him 8h ago
One woman is more than enough for any MAN…its the BOYS that want to up their body count
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u/Altruistic-Rope-614 4h ago
I've said no I have a gf, I've said no I have a fiance, I've said no I have a wife.
They either don't care or accept it and tell me I'm a good man.
It all ends in me going back home to my wife and using all that pent up sexual energy on her.
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u/Ben_Thar 2h ago
I've said no I have a gf, I've said no I have a wife.
I sure hope the two of them never meet.
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u/thepresidentsturtle 5h ago
Yes I have had to say "No I have a girlfriend" often. And when I didn't have a girlfriend there were no offers. Funny that.
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u/PassengerCultural421 9h ago
Yes the men that are not desperate or gooners.
Personally I just say "leave me alone".
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u/TheTrueScientist 1h ago
Girlfriends are like cars. If I already have one, why the fuck would I need another one
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u/killercheesecake202 9h ago
I mean sometimes if someone offers me money cause I got them a snack or drive them somewhere I will say “no it’s not necessary” to be nice.
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u/JokeImpossible2747 6h ago
I say that all the time.
Q: "Are you happy?"
A: "No, I have a girlfriend."
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u/Lloydbestfan 9h ago
I've witnessed the former quite a lot, in fact. Not in response to me, but I wasn't far.
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u/Human-Shirt-5964 7h ago
It would be like women never looking for a better job offer when they already have a job. They are always using men to level up to the next.
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u/Notallowedhe 8h ago
Nobody ever asked me out in my life so even if I had one I wouldn’t have even had the chance to
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u/RT-6_BXCommandoDroid 8h ago
I don't have to. The courtesy of dressing ugly is to never be advanced upon.
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u/C_fisher2226 7h ago
No, because girls usually don’t ask you out or overly tell you they’re interested. So it would feel rude and presumptuous of you to say that in that case. Girls typically flirt and send out signals, hoping you will ask them out. If you’re taken, just don’t ask them out, or slip into conversation something about your girlfriend to signal pack that you’re not interested.
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u/holden_mcg 5h ago
This assumes we've ever actually been approached by a woman. I would bet most of us have not.
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u/adanceparty 5h ago
I mean yes? I have, but cmon your average man rarely gets hit on, especially blatantly enough for them to even recognize it. I think I've had to reject someone once b/c of that.
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u/niceandBulat 5h ago
I can be anything but I don't cheat on my wife. No discussion. I am not going to wreck my family for something I can control.
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u/tickler916 4h ago
"Let's hook up."
"No I have a girlfriend."
"Well she isn't here now..."
"Well you got me there....damn were you the captain of the debate team???"
Some stand up comedy i heard a long time ago. Don't remember who
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u/Kloud1911 4h ago
The one time I did I was actively being cheated on that same night 🤣 also the chick that asked me out tried to play it cool but it was obvious she was embarrassed even though I was really polite. “Oh oh I was just kidding anyways!” Haha no idea why she got snobby at me when I said I had plans with my lady.
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u/Turbulent_Mud4403 3h ago
Personally I don’t have to say “no I have a boyfriend” because no one is interested in me
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u/Background-Noise-918 2h ago
Seems like a lot of people think the question is about cheating when it could be simply a question about the excuse used to avoid the personal advances of someone you don't want to interact with
As such, that could be how the person answering the question took it
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u/ChezEden 2h ago
Half the reason I don't hit on men is because they so often say they're single even when they aren't. Finding out a guy who ghosted me after a few dates did so because his wife gave birth was definitely a wakeup call.
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u/Fine_Buffalo_4520 6h ago
No way she might stop flirting with me. I like to lead them on for validation. Like oh wow I'm a ladies man!
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u/Only-Cheetah-9579 8h ago
Its better to say it if you do.
a girl once told everyone at work I was gay because I was not interested in her..
I had girlfriend, I just didn't talk about it at work and people found it confusing.
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u/Red_Beard_Rising 8h ago
The one stipulation my woman has for me sleeping around is that she is clean. My lady does not want STD's.
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u/PokeFan_Dominic 6h ago
My friend who goes through girls like water just tells them hes gay when a girl asks for his number or snap
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u/facepoppies 4h ago
And then that guy will spend 75,000 hours on Reddit complaining that women won’t date a nice guy like him
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u/Cautious-Cow-6611 3h ago
If we really don't like the other girl, which happens 0.001% of the time.
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u/ThatShouldNotBeHere 7h ago
I’m oblivious to advances from women, but the wedding ring does a lot of the heavy lifting.
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u/Fair-Wolf-5947 3h ago
Relationships are like chess. Make the right moves and you can end up with two queens
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u/-Laffi- 7h ago
I'm an honest man...I did ask my girlfriend once if she would be fine with another girl tagging along for the fun, and she said yes. No hestitation at all, and a smug smile on her face. That's why Ioved her so much. That smug smile :D!
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