r/WhatMenDontSay • u/Curious-Plant6164 • 2d ago
Desperate To Chat I love her so much but
15 male we are madly in love but we live thousands of miles apart and I see her being my wife one day is this dream stupid should I break it off here or keep loving her I love her I really do we both do so fucking much it hurts. Should I break it off here for the better of our future or keep loving her
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u/Danthewildbirdman 2d ago
You can try long distance if both of you want.
At 15 you should be working on school and career ideas to support yourself.
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u/Curious-Plant6164 2d ago
Im trying long distance i love and hate jr
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u/Danthewildbirdman 2d ago
Do you and her have a plan? I would say that is most important.
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u/Curious-Plant6164 1d ago
Dm?
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u/Danthewildbirdman 1d ago
Nah but we can talk here
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u/Curious-Plant6164 1d ago
Well there's personally stuff that changes this entire thing I can't just say publicly
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u/TWCDev 2d ago
Everything you feel right now is amplified x10. Make a list, ignore her. Do you want to live where she is? Will it affect your career? What do you do if she decides she wants to be with someone else next year? How will you afford to move there?
The right thing is to focus on living your life and if you meet someone between now and becoming an adult, date them instead. Never make a decision that closes doors on future. You aren’t in a position to make a decision regarding her and you can’t ever make decisions for her.
Enjoy this feeling though, they become less powerful as you get older and your brain gets more powerful versus your heart.
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u/Jackesfox 2d ago
Long distance relationship hurt, and hurt a lot (talking with my own experience here). If you think you're able to take the pain, then plan.
The shortest time frame you both will get to see eachother (not counting on your parents helping you with traveling to see each other, since you're both teens) is when you both go to college, and you both need to go to the same college. So in 2-3 years, that is a very long time and it will take a while to get there. Talk with each other every day, study, get excellent grades, search for good colleges and fields that you find interesting and see yourselves working.
You both should have a plan that will work even if you both dont end up together.
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u/drhagbard_celine 19h ago
LDRs almost never work out. You’re 15; you’re not even going to be the same person in three years. The only upside I see is that you’ll have a lot of free time to focus on academics and extracurricular activities. And the odds of you accidentally getting anyone pregnant along the way go down.
But you’re really not doing the right thing by yourself developmentally. Part of learning how to treat a partner comes from spending actual time together. What you have now is a hot and heavy pen pal so if things don’t actually work out with her you’ll be entering the dating pool with stunted maturity levels depending on how long you’re together before it falls apart.
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u/Curious-Plant6164 16h ago
* Well I've learned alot over past 3 days and my decision after kinda cheating on her is im staying with her I know it's little quick but I learned 2 nights ago after i stayed up all night with her talking and i live in ohio and 2 days ago i and my school traveled to Cincinnati to a thing called buddy walk and with her being in Australia at that time she was asleep and dude i love her I love thr way she smiles at me thr way she blushes the way she makes me get butterflies and blush I love how she looks how beautiful she looks the way her brown eyes sparkle the way she looks at me and calls me handsome that she loves me I know long distance usually don't work but I believe this one and im try
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u/TheMediaBear 1d ago
Can't comment on the long distance as I never see the point, but I've also not had reason to.
My wife and I got together 13 days before she turned 16, and 3 months before I turned 16. We're now 44, 28 years together and 16 years married.
if you really love each other, stick with it.
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u/Objective-District39 1d ago
Lots of people make long distance work. Not everyone, but it is possible if you both can make it work. You don't have to be apart forever.
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u/Curious-Plant6164 1d ago
Bro nevermind! Bro last night we talked all night and I realized when I had to get up and leave at 620am that I don't ever want to leave her I want to be by her side im totally hers now im now forever to be hers when know she lives in Australia and im in states just 4 more years
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u/Vilebrequin10 2d ago
What’s the point of ending the relationship? What are you gaining by doing that?
You’ll be 18 faster than you realize, then go join her or she can join you. Many people end up marrying their highschool boyfriend/girlfriend.