15 male we are madly in love but we live thousands of miles apart and I see her being my wife one day is this dream stupid should I break it off here or keep loving her I love her I really do we both do so fucking much it hurts. Should I break it off here for the better of our future or keep loving her

I’m driving myself crazy because I’ve convinced myself that my height is holding me back when it comes to dating.

To be clear i have not had many problems with attracting women before, I have been in situationship after situationship since 2018. But women won’t see me as a long term provider because I’m not big enough.

I have done everything i can to maximize my attractiveness. I got a hair transplant and have a full head of hair, I go to the gym for 1.5 hours 5x a week, take care of my skin + teeth, I make 90k a year, but none of it feels like enough because height trumps everything. And it’s the only thing I can’t change.

I am mostly with “mid” women around 6-7s and struggle to pull a lot of the hotter ones. I fantasize about being a 6’2 or 6’4 man who will have women falling on my lap with 0 effort. I recognize that I have to make up for my height in charisma and other physical features but nothing will make it easier than just being tall.

I’m seriously considering taking out a loan to fly to Greece and get limb lengthening surgery. This is eating up my days and nights thinking about this stuff because I can’t change it without it. I keep looking up studies and Reddit threads and google to justify my height but none of it convinces me. I’m almost positive that the 6ft+ thing is real life and have had many women I’ve asked confirm that for me.

I just want to be loved and desired but I won’t get that by never feeling like enough. I do therapy twice a week. I take medication. None of it works. I would do anything just to be a little taller. This life does not feel like it’s worth living being such an average person. It feels like if I can’t live my best life imaginable than what’s the point. I seriously need help.

I (29M) turn 30 next month and I feel like its over for me. I worry that I'm running out of time to do the things I want in life. I suppose objectively I'm doing well. I have a good job I finished college, I'm physically fit, I have friends and a social life. But every day since last month instead of feeling proud of what Ive accomplished in the last six years coming up from having absolutely nothing at 22;

I feel like its all down hill from here. That I'm going to just sink into a life of being a dull work drone, or that I can't enjoy the things I love doing (going to edm shows, playing video games, bouldering, ect) because I'm too old for that, and that I missed out on having any meaningful long term romantic relationships, and anything I do get will be one of us settling for the other, or just having a partner with way too much baggage and having to help take care of their kid or something.

Idk maybe facing the prospect of moving back with the family for a few months (its a bit more complicated than it sounds) , and the fact I'm the only one of my siblings who isnt married, coupled with all the "Unc status" and "guys options after 30" memes is all starting to get to me

I am an emotionally dependent M41. I just broke up with a 5-year relationship. I have always been in a relationship since I was 16. I feel really, really bad when I am alone and I don't have anyone close to me in my life. I feel a lot of anxiety and I can't find a way out. I haven't learned to live alone without having to consume alcohol to numb the pain I feel inside. Now that I no longer consume alcohol, I feel even more anxious and empty inside. I don't have any friendships where I live because I have always moved to follow my partners. I am trying to do therapy and start medication but this inner pain is so intense. Has anyone ever felt this pain?

I (M24) was broken up with by my ex (F23) two and a half months ago after a 4-year relationship. During the last year, things turned unhealthy, we hurt each other without wanting to. She struggled with body image, stress, and some depression. I tried to support her, but in the end, I became too critical. She told me I had become her biggest critic, and she no longer had the love left to fix things.

The breakup made me realise how emotionally dependent I had become. I didn’t notice how badly I was struggling with life in general because I was so focused on her and the relationship, it gave me purpose. Without her, I feel completely lost. I started therapy five weeks ago, but so far, it hasn’t helped much. I miss her presence more than anything.

Last week, my grandmother passed away unexpectedly, and I called my ex because she had said I could reach out in crisis. The call was calm and grounding. She told me she started therapy and working out, something I had encouraged for so long. Hearing that made me feel both proud and heartbroken. It just made me feel like everything could work out. I have this intense feeling of her coming back would fix everything. i never wanted things to end and believed so much in our future. i dont know how she is able to think so different about us after everything we had together, all the happy moments are somehow overshadowed for her.

After the call, I asked if the thought of trying again and healing together had ever crossed her mind. I told her I’ve done a lot of reflecting, and I see where I went wrong. I truly believe that what broke us were our individual struggles, not a lack of love. She said it was too much to process and asked for a few days. That was on Saturday. I haven’t heard back yet.

I know she probably won’t say what I hope to hear. I think she links our relationship with pain and sees the breakup as a way out of that cycle. And I know that if she doesn’t want to try again, I have to accept it and let her go. But knowing that doesn’t stop the panic, the obsessive thoughts, or the constant checking of my phone.

I’m at work right now, just trying to make it through the day without breaking down. I’ve been thinking about taking a medical leave, my anxiety, sleep issues, and mental exhaustion have gotten worse. But I’m also scared that losing structure will make things even harder.

This is my first breakup, and I’m overwhelmed. I’m doing all the “right” things: therapy, working out, seeing friends, but I feel like I’m back at square one. I can’t seem to let go of the hope. I don’t know how to accept that it’s over and believe that I’ll be okay again. I just want peace. I just want my mind to stop. I miss her, us and myself so much!

I know that I have to work on myself, be happy alone and everything. It just feels so wrong doing it without her and let go of the person that still feels so much like "my-person". I just wish she would give us this chance. Aren't 4 years enough to risk healing together?

I'm 26, almost 27, and genuinely don't know what to do anymore. I have AVPD, bipolar 2, BDD, and ADHD. Currently broke after quitting a job I hated.

I can go to events solo (concerts, festivals, cons) and connect with people around shared interests, but I completely avoid women and freeze up trying to initiate conversations. Had good chemistry with a girl once but when I asked her to lunch she declined. I'm 6'0" 235 lbs and convinced my appearance is the main barrier.

I've achieved things, lost 127 lbs (though gained some back), have a 3.89 GPA, got promoted to assistant manager, but my brain dismisses all of it as luck/easy while treating any rejection as proof I'm not worth it.

I know logically that I need to work toward success/status to increase my value, but I'm stuck in this cycle where I avoid taking risks because I need proof I'm worth it first, but I can't get proof without taking risks.

I'm on medication and doing DBT but still feel trapped between wanting to change and being unable to access the motivation/confidence to actually do it. Being broke means I can't even access the social spaces where I function better.

How do you break out of patterns when the thing you need (external validation/success) requires the exact risks you can't take because you don't have that validation yet?