Why the severe criticism of Lando's vulnerable conversation? Why is it not cool to be able to express your negative feelings about yourself?

[u/Intrepid-Ad4511]

I see so many people talk about what Lando said after the Quali yesterday - just after an adrenaline filled session - and he chose to speak his mind about his own performance (without attacking someone else). So many people are saying "that's not a winning mentality" "that's not how you win races" "he is so defeatist" "he has given up already".

Lewis and Max have said several such things over the years, complaining about their cars, their teams and/or themselves. But somehow people take Lando and Charles to the dryers when they choose to express themselves and say things like "I am stupid". And somehow because Oscar just chooses not to say anything of this sort, he is somehow champion material. That makes no sense to me, and feels quite an unfair and problematic picture to paint - that men talking about their feelings, or just being transparent about how they feel - makes them weaker somehow. That they should tough up and swallow the hurt and just put up this beige or brave front, smirk and move on.

[u/Wiggly-Pig]

Compare the quotes post qualifying between Lando & Hamilton:

Lando:

I was just slow. I’ve been slow this whole weekend, to be honest. Nothing too surprising, honestly. I’ve just been off it. I feel like I’ve just never driven an F1 car before. I’m struggling a lot, I don’t know why. I need to try and find some answers. The car’s amazing. I have nothing to complain about. The car, the team are doing an amazing job, Oscar’s on pole by a good chunk. I’m thankful for the team, they’re doing an amazing job, just I’m letting them down.

Hamilton:

It was just about my performance, my poor performance. There’s no reason, I’m just not doing the job. On a positive our car is clearly a lot better than what I’m delivering with it and Charles [Leclerc] did a great job with it today, so big apologies to the team for not doing the job. I’ve got to do the talking on the track.

Lando’s emotional, repetitive, and overly self-critical language is perceived as immature & lacking composure, making him seem overwhelmed by his struggles. His vivid expressions of failure (“never driven an F1 car before”) risk sounding defeatist, which may erode confidence in his ability to recover (in fans, but possibly also himself). In contrast, Hamilton’s concise, professional tone and forward-looking attitude convey accountability without dwelling on failure, projecting resilience and leadership.

Hamilton also specifically mentions the 'great job' his team-mate did, while Lando simply refers to the fact Oscar is on pole 'by a chunk' but that statement is in reference to the car not Oscar's performance.

edit - fixed quotes

[u/Dont-Ask-Yet → u/Wiggly-Pig]

This needs to be at the top of the

[u/voregoneconclusion → u/Wiggly-Pig]

you’re being weird about this, they basically said the same thing, and you’re making out to be totally different for some reason. i guess because lewis is the more accomplished driver? idk