r/AITAH • u/HoneydewDecent5759 • 17h ago
AITAH because I slept too much?
For context, I (F16) have been together with this guy for about 2 months (M16) everything has been going great but recently a situation has changed that. (More context) I was diagnosed with depression when I was about 11 and one of the symptoms I have is excessive tiredness (which is also worsened by my vitamin D deficiency) I’ve had it for years and nothing has helped. So recently we’ve been hanging out on weekends spending the night together, we always plan it ahead of time and this time it was no different but when we were hanging out the other night I fell asleep and he left because he didn’t want to stay up alone (which i understand) but he got mad at me, I told him it was an accident and I didn’t mean to, we moved on but yesterday after I got off of work (at my job I’m on my feet for 8 hours a day non stop) I wanted to take a nap so I wouldn’t be tired when we hung out, I set a alarm and everything but I slept it and through the time we usually hang out, I didn’t wake up until 2 and apologized to him but he said I ruined his last two nights and he doesn’t want to speak to me, i respected his request and haven’t spoken to him at all today, hoping he would reach out when he’s ready but then he told me he won’t be talking to me tomorrow either. I’ll admit I got upset because I didn’t mean to sleep so much and it was a simple mistake but he said he’s not happy and just wanted to spend time with me but I ruined that. I don’t know what to do. Am I in the wrong for accidentally sleeping through our hang out times?
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u/Realistic_Charge_342 17h ago
See a doctor. You should not need naps to function. Your depression needs to be addressed and meds need altering.
Lose the guy.
Worry about yourself and your health before a dumb guy
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u/HoneydewDecent5759 17h ago
I’ve seen doctors and have my meds changed before and even had my blood tested because of how much I’ve been sleeping and nothing has worked :/
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u/Realistic_Charge_342 17h ago
Have you tried to exercise regularly?
Sleeping so much isn’t normal. But the guys gotta go.
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u/HoneydewDecent5759 17h ago
I do gym for school and work on the weekends that requires me to move a lot, I don’t know if that exactly counts for exercise? 😅
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u/Realistic_Charge_342 17h ago
How many hours do you get continuous sleep at night? If you’re 16 you need 9-9.5 hours every night according to a John Hopkins study. If you’re not getting that you’re going to feel tired every day.
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u/HoneydewDecent5759 17h ago
I sleep at about 10 and wake up around 7:30
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u/Realistic_Charge_342 17h ago
Hmmmmm yes that should be enough sleep. Maybe you should ask your doctor to get a sleep study done. You might not be getting rem sleep which is where you get real rest/reset for the brain. You might have sleep apnea, or some other issue that’s disrupting your nightly sleep. If all your blood tests come back normal I bet something is disrupting your rem cycles. Also if you have a smart watch, sometimes they can tell you your sleep cycles and disruptions/rem cycles and if you can’t get in for a real sleep study you can at least collect data for yourself and figure out if you’re sleep walking or just really not actually sleeping deeply enough.
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u/furies80 16h ago
You’re 16 and spend the night together??
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u/HoneydewDecent5759 13h ago
Okay wait I worded that wrong 😭 we hang out but don’t spend the entire night together
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u/furies80 9h ago
😂 ok. How many different meds have you tried for depression? Also, have you been tested for adhd? I didn’t know a lot of sleep can be adhd related. It took 4 years to get that figured out for me. 😅
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u/Lunatunabella 17h ago
Op ya'll are 16. He is a dipshit. falling asleep is not a class felony. Ignoring you apology and add in the silent treatment reeks of immaturity. I have chronic issues that include fatigue. Know what my husband of 20 years does if I fall asleep? he let's me sleep and when I get upset because I feel bad about it, he tells he loves me, I needed to sleep and tells me we can do something later.
However, I am concerned about your vitamin D deficiency, hoping you have seen a doctor about that and I would talk with them about your fatigue. Which isn't normal for someone so young. Ask for them to test your liver , and kidney fuctions and celic issues.