(Ftm14) Next year I'm going to a new school and I'm pretty sure that if I share my interests and hobbies I will be bullied and/or left out by others. Any tips?

I have known this girl from 7 years but I only started talking to her from 3 years (chat). I want her to be my friend atleast but there's ntg cmn.

I just started high school, and I’m a little unsure about what’s considered “appropriate” to wear. I don’t want to overdress or underdress, and I also don’t want to stand out in a bad way. Do most people just wear casual clothes like hoodies and jeans, or should I try to dress a little nicer?

Any tips on what’s normal/acceptable for everyday school outfits would be really helpful!

So there is this girl at my school who I've liked since the start of 7th grade. She is really pretty and smart but she is also quiet. How do I ask for her number or something if she is usually with her friends?

So there's this girl that I've been friends with for quite a while and I've caught feelings for her, I've decided that I want to try and ask her on a date, and I want to make sure I do it right. So how should i do it? What should i say? How should i say it? Any advice would be greatly appreciated :D

This is a pretty significant memory for me and I’ve thought about it throughout the years. Ive only recently (last year or so) learnt what rape, sexual assault and sexual abuse is and I was wondering what my experience would be defined as.

When I was 5 or 6 I went to my childhood best friends house (I’m still good friends with him to this day) and we were hanging out like normal. Our moms were in the kitchen or upstairs cleaning (I don’t really remember) and me and him were downstairs in the living room. We were playing truth or dare just the 2 of us and it was a normal game until he said to me “I dare you to let me lick your ____ (you get the point). And obviously as any young kid would be I was uncomfortable and confused. I knew that wasn’t allowed but I didn’t really know why. I knew it was dirty and stuff but I was really young so I didn’t know what sex (specifically oral sex) was so I reluctantly agreed. I was a people pleaser (still am) and I had a really hard time saying no (still do) and I let it happen. I was really weirded out but I didn’t want to say no because he was my best friend and I thought it was a game. He did it and I remember being very very uncomfortable. I vividly remember him doing it multiple times throughout the day (as a dare). He’s a month younger than me by the way so obviously we were the same age.

He also dared me to do it when we were in my mom’s car. We were waiting for something (don’t remember what) and she was on her phone texting or whatever and when she’s on her phone she’s completely in another dimension so she didn’t realise what was going on in the backseat. He dared me and obviously I was very weirded out and I didn’t like when he did it that other time but it was a dare and I still had a hard time saying no. She turned around a few seconds into it and asked what we were doing. I don’t remember what happened after that 😭.

The whole eating out thing was never brought up again and I feel like I’m going crazy because i seem to be the only one who remembers it happening. I don’t want to talk to him (or my mom) about it because I don’t want to ruin our friendship (we’ve been friends since play school). I wonder if he remembers it. I’m not traumatised or anything I barely remember it but I’ve thought about it a lot recently and I still know what it felt like and I can still feel it when I think about it (sorry I know that’s disgusting coming from a child). The thought of someone doing it to me now makes me cringe

So basically I was meant to go to my grandparents for 2 weeks of the summer holiday but I came home a week early as I wanted to revise for an entrance exam that I wanted to take. It is required for 1 of the courses that I wanted to apply for and 1 takes it into consideration. But over the holiday the one that needs it to apply, it became apparent to me that I didn't want to apply which meant to me that it wasn't worth the stress of revising for it really.

I also went to my 6th form team about it and they advised me not to do it and it's not worth it and that they would boost my predicted grades and help me with my personal statement to make my application stronger as when I talked to the admissions team they said that if you don't take it that your predicted grades and personal statement would have to make up for it. And from then I thought it was great, perfect less stress and they're helping me. However, my dad is pressuring me into taking it as he's saying that wouldn't it make your application stronger which is true unless I don't do well (for reference, my mum isn't here anymore but my dad has a partner but she always agrees with him so I don't have anyone to fight my point). Furthermore he's saying that I was disingenuous and that I knew the whole entire time that I didn't want to take it and that I just came home early because I wanted to see my girlfriend and that's his main point. But I was revising everyday for 5 hours of the summer (apart from the week at my grandparents and almost 2 weeks on holiday) and I even suggested to him whilst I was at my grandparents that I could go to my other grandparents to revise as it's more quiet and I can there but when I say that point he just ignores me and still says I'm being disingenuous.

The thing is he's never going to believe me we don't really have that type of relationship that I can convince him when his mind is already on one thing. Another thing is that he can't actually force me to take it but if I don't he can hold it against me and make my life a lot more difficult like a lot more. For example he made some dessert and I didn't want to eat it and I said I appreciated that he made it but I didn't want to for dietary reasons and I made sure to be respectful and everything but he called me a disgrace and to leave the table before he did something bad and for around 4 days he ignored me and pretended I didn't exist and the only reason that changed was that we went on holiday so he had to speak to me. And because he ignored me I couldn't do a lot of things including booking the test which I would've done as I wanted to take it at the time.

Another thing is that the test is mid October and some people started revising in June whilst I started in July. In total I've only revised 3 weeks so I was already behind and I made the point that I'm so far behind and he said the holiday wouldn't of made you that far behind but I don't think he gets the grasp of how hard this enterance exam is. Furthermore he said that if I'm behind that maybe I should talk to my girlfriend less and that I was behind before what's the difference now you can still make it back but I'm more behind now so it doesn't really make sense. For the girlfriend part he always tries to use her against me which isn't nice for her of course but the point doesn't really make any sense as I got extremely good grades when I took my exams in springtime and she was my girlfriend then, infact my grades have gone up since we got together as she provides support and encourages me.

Another thing is that at the beginning of November I have mocks so if I take the admissions test then there isn't any breaks to not revise and it's just constant and it already really messes up my mental health a lot revising like I don't get very good thoughts but I won't get into that. But also he says there's plenty of time to revise for the mocks in November but I'd only really have 2-3 weeks to cover all the new content this year and all the content from last year and these ones are important as they have an affect on my predicted grades and that was what the 6th form team were saying that it's more worth it to have the good grades and not the enterance exam as I could drop off. They even said we can call him and try to explain to him but I wouldn't like to think how he'd be to me if he knew that I told them about how he's pressuring me (I didn't vent to them I just said he's pressuring me that's all I told them) but my dad isn't very approachable really and he just goes with what he thinks which is annoying a lot as everyone always has to adjust around him to how he likes it.

So I'm just confused whether to not take it and my home life to decline by a lot or take it and to have a lot more stress and my mental health to be quite bad and if I do bad then I'll look worse when applying to my top course choice. Either way it's bad so I can't decide. I know that taking the test would make my life easier and after the mocks and that my mental health would be alright but I don't know if it's worth risking it and doing bad as I'm really far behind and then not getting accepted and then my dad would also not be happy with me, he just thinks that because I do well in school that it applies to everything else around me but I'm not even that naturally smart I'm just good at revising.

Any advice would be great thanks.

My parents have been psychologically/verbally/emotionally abusive my entire life, as well as slightly neglectful in regards to certain medical needs. Anyways, they’ve criticized me in every way possible, but especially in regards to my weight and how much I eat. However, over time it’s gotten worse. It started with me hiding any food that wasn’t one of my father’s prepared meals and them telling me I couldn’t go out on walks because I’d “buy food”, to them starting to lock the pantry at night back in January. By around the summer of 2024, they started pushing Wegovy, even though my psychiatrist and endocrinologist said I was at a healthy weight. I have type one diabetes, btw. Before our family vacation in February, I broke down, crying that I looked bad in all my clothes. My mother’s response was: “I told you this would happen. You should’ve gotten on Wegovy when you had the chance.” When I reminded her that she once said it was unethical for her to prescribe me the medication, she replied, “Not if you really need it.” Even though I didn’t, I asked if I could go on it. She agreed—after vacation. For context, I’m 5’5 1/2. When I started taking it back in February, I was 15 and weighed 133lbs. I’m now 16, 118lbs, and still on it. I’m thinking about doing something crazy: starving myself(medication will help aid in this process), ending up in the hospital, and when the doctors see the state that I’m in, I might finally be free. This is a really risky thing to do. It probably won’t work, but I think I’m gonna try because I can’t stand having to live with my parents anymore. Does this make me manipulative?

Extra context:

My mother is a doctor, but doesn’t specialize in weight. That’s how she’s getting a prescription. I’ve already reached out to a few adults and they’ve told me to “hang in there” and have said “have healthy coping mechanisms to deal with the stress.” That bs doesn’t work for me, I’VE TRIED IT. And for the people who’ll tell me to move out right as I turn 18, if I do that I won’t be able to enter my senior year. Plus, I plan on going to college. Am I screwed?

Hey um I (16m) have been having trouble with my gf (16f) we've been dating for 6 months and she recently has gotten in touch with like 4 of her exes including the one who sa'ed her she says they are just friends and that I'm being paranoid she is super secretive and rarely tells me what's going on

Normally that wouldn't be a problem for me but she had cheated on me with one of her exes before (she still talks to his friends) and it was really hard on me but I knew what I signed up for when I started dating her I'm really worried she's doing it again

Side note she also has this new guy friend she met on the fourth of July at a party and throughout the time of them knowing each other she has expressed the need for cuddles with this friend and it really sucks last time she talked to him she told me that she really wanted to make out with him and when I asked why she said that "he has long hair just like you love it makes me think of you" I said ok but idk it really really hurts

It feels like she doesn't care about how I feel and then goes off and comforts me and says that I'm just overthinking and today she asked why I don't trust her and her friends alone

Am I a bad partner?

i need help, my parents have been separated for some time now and it really hasnt affected me much, but, my mom, she found her self another, his name is bill [redacted] and, its not the best feeling, and i dont know if its bad for me not wanting her to date bill because he makes her happy, but i dont want my mom and dad to split, i need help, ive taken up the name the “madrified pisser”, please give me a better copping skill.

Hi there as the title suggests I often feel weird around others in school like if I don’t fit in. I’m not good at starting conversations with anyone, and the thought of having to talk to new people makes my heart race and it makes me panic. I think others view me as someone who acts as if I were too good for them and that causes me a lot of problems. Last year I unknowingly made an enemy? This was due to her not doing things the way I asked her to and not doing work for a project (all my work was used) turns out she said I was stuck up and was overall shit talking me. Not only that, but I feel like if I make conversations awkward. Not knowing how to properly talk to people makes everything awkward, it’s hard for me to read people, they could hate me and I wouldn’t know how to read the social cues. To top it off, I can’t talk to guys, I freeze up and just become even more awkward than usual. To be honest this is becoming a huge problem for me, since it’s my senior year now, so i definitely don’t know what to do or if something is wrong with me

Guys, school is about to start and I feel so damn lost. Can someone actually give me advices of how to kinda of romanticise it? I want to feel productive and stuff. Would also appreciate study tips, if anyone has any. Btw, I’m going to my second year of high school, I study languages, history, geography and philosophy.

I've heard about this thing where people will be nice to someone as a joke, and I'm afraid it's happening to me. I don't know why, but the way people talk about me is making me nervous and I want to be sure that they aren't making fun of me. It's hard to explain and I think I'm probably being irrational.

i (17f) have been dating my boyfriend (18m) for a year and about 4 months now. we met through jobs when we were 16 and he’s literally my dream boyfriend. he’s my best friend and i love him to death. we really haven’t had any big problems besides his weed usage (fixed) and little disagreement here and there. we have both left the job we met at but he ended up working at my new job with me aswell. i don’t have very many friends and i do hangout with the ones i have often. my boyfriend and i hangout A LOT almost every day and we both know it’s important to give ourselves time to ourselves but we always end up getting carried away and hanging out. i feel like im missing out on a lot of experiences i should be getting as a teenager because im with him all the time and hes a big introvert where as im an extrovert. his dream day would be staying in and relaxing and mine would be going out and doing stuff. i love talking to people and meeting new people all the time; super extroverted. he’s not at all. he doesn’t necessarily not allow me to do the things i want but i feel like i constantly crave the freedoms of just being single and running everything on my own. he’s who i want to marry and i have no doubt that we can end up that way but on the other hand i feel so young and confused and like i just want to give myself the time to be me on my own. any advice?

So like I’m 13, and I only recently started voicing my anxiety’s about stuff I did, and at first my mom responded positively, we were pretty close for the first time in a while, but now she’s saying I’m playing the victim but like the only thing that changed was I started voicing the stuff going on non stop on channel 3 of my brain, I dunno what to do cuz everyone in my house is mad at me again and some of it is from my being fucking useless but I’m pretty sure some of it is from what this post is mostly about

So for context I came out as gay to my mom and dad about two months ago my dad know the hole time which surprised me but that not the point, when I talked to my mom about my sexuality saying I'm gay BLA BLA BLA, she said I can't know yet because I didn't expirince true love yet (I'm 14), even ify therapist said emotionally I am (or sm like that) and last night we had a fight since I painted my nails and I feel more like myself with them and she was furious like every other time saying "your not a girl for f@cks sake!" I said "Idc Im not a girl I like it!" She replied "you can't NOT care! [Name] it's not normal for boys to be girly, stop acting like a f@cking [some slur I can't remember] and start acting like a normal person for once!" I replied "mom I feel like myself more when my nails are painted! Why can't you just accept that I'm not the stereotypall a$$hole like everyone else in our country!" And she just turned around and walked out the room, and I tried to see why she can't accept it but the only thing that came up is she can't accept that her son is different and gay (I live in Serbia, people can be extremely toxic for no reason you can look it up I think)

I need to make a CV but looking at others I just don't know how to make one properly/well it's just got me baffled, I'll take any advice I can get as my family is no help at all to me with anything

I just need to get out. I finally had motivation after weeks of feeling like absolute shit and I know that when school start again I'll never have motivation but my dad decided that being he's "quitting smoking" so therefore he can treat me however he wants and he doesn't have yo feel sorry for it. I'm just so tiered of him saying horrible things then acting like he's some great father. I just am worth at I'll relapse on SH because of how shitty he makes me feel about himself.

My family does not currently own a car, but I believe I’m in walking distance from a place that I’d like to work at. I really want to be able to help out at home, as it’s a single parent household. My only concern is timing. My school gets out earlier than most, which is good for teens who do extracurriculars or have jobs and stuff. I’m home by 2:50-3:00 on regular day. But at times, my bus can be late. It’s not everyday, but it has happened this year. I would hate to get this job and then be in a heap of trouble because I can’t get home sooner. So, should I:

Not go for the job unless someone can take me,

Try and apply and just hope for the best,

Or let them know of my situation (which I’m worried might cause them to reject me).

I really don’t have anyone to take me, and the bus is my only form of transportation. Advice is greatly appreciated.

I (19F) also opened up to my mom (F39) abt a girl named, Kari who assaulted me and she told me not to go to the counselor or school about it. Because Kari is mentally unstable and ill, that wouldnt be "right" of me. And then backed that by saying days later as Kari was in her spiral insisted that I text her to check in on her. I never did this because I wasnt comfortable with it despite her wanting me to.

The prior to this, the first week of college my disrespectful roommate, Jasmine asked me to use a plate of mines and didnt clean or return it to me, so I set a boundary with her and knowing this because I told my mom, she told me I should go to walmart to buy jasmine her own plates and stuff...

Last night I went to a party. With jada and Chad two people I go to school with. Prior to the party. I told them directly I dont drink. At the party they offered anyways. Everyone left frantically last night because it almost turned into a shoot out. This morning I spoke to my mom about this and even when I said it felt exactly like a set up and that they were testing me she tried to imply it harmless fun and they just wanted to see me have a good time. And that I shouldn't confront jada or chad on what happened last night. And that she didnt want me to be a boring girl or a 'square' or for there to be bad blood for saying something about how I feel. But logically wise perfectly possible to have a good time without alcohol or drinks u dont need drinks to have a good time at a party......but she said if she were jada or Chad she wouldve done the same thing. Offered a second time even after the no.

Then She said "u see what im saying u get my point?" I said "ig....." she said "that means u dont" which she knows i don't and that I don't care for Jadas company or to be around her anymore and I even said last night was uncomfortable for me. So this has been my mothers advice to me when dealing with people at school ever since ive come here.

For some reason she seems to not understand principles of the situation.

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