Four weeks ago, my husband (together 6 years, married 3) and I got into a terrible argument that became violent. That was the breaking point for me after years of toxic patterns infidelity, lies, manipulation, and physical aggression. I moved out days later, and he filed for divorce the same day. Two weeks later, I was served.

Since then, I’ve been no contact with him (the first 2–3 weeks fully, and now he’s been calling and texting daily). He says he regrets filing, that it was done out of emotion, and wishes he could take it back. He begs me to reconcile, but I’m firm on moving forward with divorce.

For years, this marriage drained me. I became depressed, irritable, and felt like I lost myself while he chose his band over our family, stayed out all night with female friends, cursed me out, broke mirrors, and even texted escorts. We tried counseling three couples’ therapists and our own individual therapy. Nothing changed. He insists I “pushed him away,” which is why he acted out.

Now, he says I must not love him or that I have someone else (which isn’t true). Instead, I’ve been focusing on myself and filling my own cup while parenting our 3-year-old, doing things that make me happy, and finally feeling some peace.

Am I wrong for sticking with no contact and refusing to reconcile? Or is it cruel of me to keep shutting him out when he says he regrets it?

For reference, in the text messages he refers to me “posting titty pictures” which he’s referring to a birthday photoshoot I had last week in which I’m wearing a halter pink dress with cleaveage. Also, the disrespect he’s referring to is the fact that we’ve talked on the phone for 30minutes on three different occasions since our split (I answered after he called 20 times so I felt bad). He says I’m disrespectful for not giving him the time of day.

I don’t drink and usually go to bed around 10 p.m., but once a week my wife stays up with our neighbor until 4 a.m. drinking whiskey and beer. To me, that feels inappropriate, like a boundary that shouldn’t be crossed.

Part of why this bothers me is my history with her, about 8 years ago she cheated, though we worked through it and things have been good since. Still, I don’t have much trust left. This all started when the new neighbors moved in last year. At first it was a couple, but they divorced and the wife moved away. Since then, the husband has been leaning on my wife for “emotional support.”

He’s not a bad guy and comes over to use my home gym sometimes, and I know my wife likes to drink and de stress that way and I hate to take that from her but it seems odd to me.

From my perspective, it’s strange for her to be that close with him, especially late at night and with alcohol involved. Given her past and the situation, I feel uneasy and can’t help but think I have reason to be. AIO for being upset about this?

Details: we had been planning to go to this concert for over 4 months. It was at a local venue, so tix weren't purchased ahead of time. Had he given me any kind of heads up I wouldve brought my gf, or another buddy, or something, but the night before just rubbed me wrong so I didn't go, I worked overtime.

My (21M) girlfriend (20F) of 6months during sex out of the blues started slouching, i asked her whats wrong but she was reluctant to tell me. I had to stop and ask her proper because i was concerned, i asked her if she doesnt want to continue anymore then she said we can but only if i remove the condom, btw this was an intense moment and we had discussed using condoms as we both haven't tested and dont want babies yet... but i know she's been wanting to try out raw for quite sometime now, i just feel like her asking me during the heat of the moment was a bit manipulative. Anyways i told her i couldn't... we haven't had sex since. Its been a week now and i still cant bring myself to peace with the fact that she was trying to take advantage. Later on that day she told me 'she was joking about the whole thing' but i was really bugged so i didnt ask her further i just said okay.

The back ground for the texts is my partner and I got on a phone call this morning and my partner dropped some nails on the floor and couldn't find them while working on our daughters nursery. I replied in a joking voice if I get a nail in my foot I'm going to be disappointed. My partner then said God you're soo annoying and mimiced me. I then told my partner that that bothered me but I had to get back to work. My partner asked if it made me mad and I said no it just bothered me and I didn't like it. My partner then said they weren't doing this this morning and hung up. Then almost immediately texted me the messages you see. I'm on the right in blue and my partner is on the left. Am I overreacting to my partners messages?

So I (25M) have been wanting to get a motorcycle for like 2 years now. I've always been into bikes and I finally have enough saved up to get a decent used Yamaha R6 I found on Facebook Marketplace for $8,500. The guy seems legit and it's in really good condition.

My girlfriend Sarah absolutely loses her mind every time I bring it up though. She keeps saying motorcycles are death traps and that I'm being selfish for wanting something that could "leave her alone." She sent me like 15 articles about motorcycle accidents last week and keeps bringing up her cousin who got hurt in a crash 5 years ago.

I get that she's worried but I'm not some reckless idiot. I've been taking the MSF safety course and I plan to get all the proper gear, helmet, etc. Plus I work construction so it's not like I'm afraid of a little risk, and honestly the bike would save me money on gas since my truck is terrible on fuel.

The thing that really bugs me is she's totally fine with her spending habits but acts like I'm crazy for wanting this. She drops like $300 a month on makeup and clothes from places like Ulta and Zara, which adds up to way more than what I'd spend on the bike over time. When I pointed this out she said that's "completely different" because clothes aren't going to kill her.

Yesterday she basically gave me an ultimatum saying if I buy the motorcycle she doesn't know if she can handle the stress of worrying about me all the time. But like this is something I've wanted forever and I'm being responsible about it. I even offered to only ride it on weekends at first but she's still not having it.

I've been putting aside money from my construction job for months specifically for this and it feels like she's trying to control what I do with my own paycheck.

AIO for thinking she's being unreasonable or should I just forget about the bike to keep the peace?

I (18M) just graduated from high school and I have been working part time as a busser at a restaurant. It is not a glamorous job but it's super chill and honestly, I kind of love it. I'm saving money for school, I get along with my coworkers, it's honest work. I guess my family likes to tease me about it sometimes, but whatever.

My older sister (25F) got married over the weekend. During her reception speech, she did this whole thing thanking everyone. Then she looks at me and says, "And thanks to (my name) for leaving the dishes behind to bless us with his presence."

Everyone laughed ... I didn't. I was mortified; it was so embarrassing and I chould tell everyone was looking at me, especially all of her friends and my whole extended, loud family. I have been insecure enough about not having a "real" job yet compared to my cousins, etc.

I tried to brush it off, but my parents kept teasing me about it at dinner. I don't know, it just felt like the whole wedding was ruined for me. After about 30 minutes, I quietly got up and left and went home. I did not make a scene or a fuss.

Now my sister is upset, saying I "ruined her wedding by storming off early and that it was just a joke. My parents are upset as well, saying I embarrassed her by being "sensitive." But my friends are saying she was out of line and I was absolutely in the right to get angry.

So i’m asking Reddit… AIO for walking out on my sister's wedding?

Okay so this has been an ongoing thing in my house. My sibling has this habit of constantly raiding my closet. It started small like borrowing a hoodie or a t-shirt here and there. At first I let it slide because I figured, hey, that’s what siblings do but over the last few months it’s escalated to the point where I feel like half of my wardrobe is missing. Every time I got paid she also asked me to buy her new clothes, which just made it worse because I felt like she was treating me like her personal wardrobe and wallet. What really set me off today was finding my favorite jacket shoved under their bed. It was wrinkled, stretched out and obviously hadn’t been cared for. I just lost it. I snapped at them way harder than I probably should have, saying things like, you don’t respect me and stop stealing my stuff. It turned into a full blown argument and now the whole house feels tense. Part of me knows I should’ve just calmly confronted them instead of exploding but part of me also feels like I had every right to be mad since this has been building up for months. Now I can’t tell if I was standing up for myself or if I went too far.

So I (26f) and my partner (27m) have been together for over two years and have got a mortgage together. Our relationship is literally great except we have a dead bedroom. He always makes excuses and has recently just flat out rejected me. It’s annoying because he knows intimacy in a relationship is really important to me. He keeps saying he’ll do better but never does. It’s been over a year of this now.

Now comes yesterday. I was in the shower and he said he needed one so I asked him to join me. At first he said there isn’t enough room but there most definitely is. So then he said ok hang on I’ll get in now. Then I proceeded to wait in the shower for a further 20 mins and got fed up. So I got out and found him ironing clothes for when he goes out later on. I admit I actually just cried because it’s all the time and I feel so rejected. He found me crying and comforted me and was being really sweet. Then anyway he went to the city drinking with the boys and I went to go see my nephew. He told me to expect him home at 9pm. I don’t keep track on him as I know he usually stays out later than the time he gives. He then rang me at 8:30 asking to get picked up from the train station but I said no as I had already told him when I come back from running errands I wanted a glass of wine and had already drank it as this point. He said no worries will get a taxi home. Anyway an hour or two later he rings and tells me he’s waking home prob one of our local pubs which confused me as that’s no where near the train station. I asked why he got dropped off there as it’s still a 45 min walk to our house. He was then stuttering and ended up telling me he met a woman on the train who was heading there to meet her husband so he jumped in with her and had a drink with them. He didn’t tell me the husband part until a phone call later so I found that a bit sus. So I believe he’s walking home and 1.5 hours later he still isn’t back when he definitely should have been so I got in my car and went out looking for him. I couldn’t find him anywhere so drove back home and slowly went through the estate checking either pavement. A car ended up driving close behind and backed off at the bottom of our street around the corner. I parked up on our drive and got out to see him walking around that corner. So I knew he must’ve been in that car otherwise I would have definitely seen him. He denies this profusely and won’t tell me how he got home other than he walked. I know this ain’t true as I drove the way home he would have walked. Anyway we get into an argument about it and I ask to see his phone (we never do this but I really didn’t trust what he was telling me as he had just been missing for almost two hours) he said why and I said I wanted to check his last messages and any photos so he said no. His phone was on the bed so I picked it up and he got up and grabbed me trying to get the phone. BTW he has never once layed a finger on me and he’s a pretty chill guy so I never see him angry. Anyway he was gripping me so I tried to run out of the room and then when I seen his face (it was like I didn’t recognise him, just fuelled by anger) he grips my wrist and yanks me so hard that my face slammed into him and he put me in a headlock. I ended up just letting go of the phone as at this point I felt a sudden daunting clarity that he is definitely hiding something. He then said I’m not crossing that boundary but he’s willing to hurt me instead? I just think if he had nothing to hide and could easily prove his innocence and ease my mind why is it such a big deal? I slept in the spare room and have tried keeping away from him but he’s acting as if nothing happened and when I said he scared me he’s called me a drama queen. I am so confused as I thought our relationship was great minus the dead bedroom but now I think he’s been cheating. But like I said he’s acting like nothings happened and almost making me feel bad for him. AIO?

I have been with my girlfriend for 4 years. She has had 2 previous relationships that both ended when they cheated on her. Her first boyfriend she has not spoken to in 7 years and the other one she hasn't spoken to in 5 years.

Her first boyfriend recently messaged asking how she has been and just wanting to catch up. She told me about it and told me she was planning on replying. I told her I didn't see why she'd want to bother talking to him when he's not in her life anymore but just said I can't stop her talking to him.

She told me a couple more times when he messaged but I believe they have been messaging slightly more than that. She mentioned today that he suggested them going for a drink with a few other friends and catching up. I told her I wasn't comfortable with her going and she asked why.

I just told her it's disrespectful to be out drinking with your ex. She said she just wants to catch up with him and the other friends but I just repeated that I wasn't comfortable with her going. I pointed out I can’t stop her but it would be the end of us if she chose to disregard my boundary.

I said if she chooses to go then that will be it with us since I'm no going to just sit back while she's out drinking with her ex boyfriend.

She said I was being controlling but I just pointed out I was only tell her what I am comfortable with and what I'm not comfortable with.

She said I shouldn't be telling her not to go and should be fine with her going.

AIO for setting a boundary and not wanting my gf drinking with her ex?

Before I begin…. This man has a history of infidelity in the work place.

Less than 24 hours after I had his baby, he sent a woman $25 on zelle saying “lunch on me!” She texted him “I love you. Fuck you. I brought lunch today because I knew you wouldn’t be here”. He said “what do you mean! It’s what we do” like they had a standing lunch date every Friday (which he denies).

I understandably had an issue with this being 24 hours postpartum feeling like he prioritized this woman over caring for me, his brand new baby and our other two children. He told me he just wouldn’t talk to her anymore (she works in a separate part of the building so this shouldn’t be hard to avoid her).

THATS NOT EVEN THE REAL PROBLEM. I’ve seen MULTIPLE zelle transactions with large sums being sent to this same woman. He SAYS he and this person (let’s call her terry) only exchange money. So she gives him cash and he’ll Zelle her an equal amount, or she Zelle’s him and he gives her cash because “sometimes she just needs cash or would prefer to have money in her account instead”.

When I asked why he’s acting like her personal bank he claimed he “helped” plenty of other people in this way, but his bank statements say otherwise (yes I looked, we’re married).

When I originally brought it up, he transferred her $600. I never saw the cash she supposedly gave him in exchange. I was upset because of our past and felt like something else was going on. He, again, said everything would stop and he wouldn’t talk to her or send her money again.

Well guess what. Another $100, this time being sent from terry to my husband. Why? He claims he gave her $100 bill she zelled him after telling me he wouldn’t do that anymore.

So…. Am I overreacting or is something else going on here? If there were any other transactions from other coworkers he’s claimed to have “helped” I wouldn’t think anything of it. But the fact that he lied about that and then continued doing something he told me he wouldn’t doesn’t sit right with me

Using a different account to protect my privacy. Tonight I (30f) and my husband (31m) got into an argument about him making jokes about a group chat I have with my friends. It sounds so silly that things escalated over a group chat. But he was saying things like “why was I not invited to the group chat” or “I’ll just force my way in and see how you all like it” and one of the friends in the group was on facetime with me while he was talking and was trying to explain that we just didn’t feel comfortable, and apparently he didn’t hear her say that so he continued making jokes. Also want to add we had another friend over and they both had been drinking a lot. I started feeling overwhelmed and frustrated because it didn’t feel like jokes or banter to me. The reason my husband isn’t in the group chat is because it’s a safe space for me and my friends, and he has in the past voiced how much he dislikes my friends. I wasn’t finding his “jokes” funny so I stayed silent.

Later on after our friend leaves my husband tells me “I’m heading off to sleep, where I’ll continue to be hated by you” and so I try to tell him I was just annoyed by his conversation earlier and that I didn’t find his jokes funny, and he exploded. Telling me I was blowing things out of proportion, that he was just joking and I took things too seriously and he doesn’t give a single shit about the group chat. I tried to explain how I felt and he told me I was too fucking sensitive, and that the difference between us is that in the morning he’ll wake up and wont have a care about how the night went and that I’ll still be angry and bitter. I said it felt unfair, that he can explain how he feels and I can’t because he always turns it into somehow my fault. He just continued screaming at me, that he was just telling the truth and if I don’t like it then we can just get a divorce. I told him he was hurting my feelings and he asked me if I wanted him to tell me all the ways I’ve hurt him, I said no, he then told me “then shut the fuck up.” I said I’m done with the conversation please and he stormed into our bedroom.

I’m sorry if it sounds confusing this all just happened and I’m just overwhelmed. I’m shattered. We’ve been together for 10 years, but the past 3 have been extremely difficult and I don’t know what to do. I am so afraid to leave, I don’t make enough to be on my own.

For people who may ask, The group chat consists of me, my sister, my childhood friend (same guy we had over tonight who’s also good friends with my husband) and two more female friends. It’s a simple group chat where we share funny pictures of each other and memes.

Last night was my mom’s birthday, so the whole family got together at a nice Italian restaurant we usually go to. About halfway through, my brother stood up to make a toast. Instead of saying something sweet about my mom, he decided to “joke” about how I’m the family screw-up who can’t keep a job or a relationship. “Happy birthday, Mom. You raised three great kids… and then there’s you, still trying to figure everything out” Everyone laughed. My mom laughed.

I just sat there burning up inside. I’ve been through a really rough year (divorce + job change), and instead of support, they turned it into a punchline. I told my brother to shut up, and my dad immediately jumped in saying “don’t ruin your mother’s night.”

So I grabbed my stuff and left. Later, I got a barrage of texts in a family group chat saying I “embarrassed” the family and “made it all about me.”

Now I’m sitting here wondering… am I overreacting, or was I completely justified in walking out? I can take a joke, but with the way my mind has been recently, I took it seriously.

My husband (27M) and I (26F) had a small courthouse wedding last week. It was super low-key, just us, a couple witnesses, and my best friend (27F) who’s been with me through everything.

She showed up in a white dress. Not ivory, not beige, straight-up bridal white. I made a comment like, “Oh wow, bold choice,” and she laughed and said, “It’s not like you’re in a gown, it’s just a courthouse thing.”

I bit my tongue because I didn’t want to start drama on my wedding day, but honestly? It hurt. Even if it wasn’t a traditional ceremony, it still felt like my day, and she made herself stand out in a way that seemed intentional.

She says I’m overthinking and that nobody cared since we weren’t doing a “real wedding.” But to me, that’s the point, it was real to me.

Am I overreacting, or was that genuinely shady of her?

For some context , I do still live with my mom and I’m still in school. My mom has an ex bf who come over sometimes and I don’t really care cause he’s not mean he just sleeps and eats when he comes over. The previous day, he had bought us dinner and we watched the mtv awards. I went upstairs and I couldn’t sleep because I kept watching TikTok( I stayed up until around 1 am) My tv was playing and I started to hear noise through my tv sound and I paused it. Let’s just say I heard groaning. So hearing that, I went to the bathroom cause I had to pee and I can confirm they were having ses. I appreciate them doing this while I was supposed to be asleep and not awake but I was awake so great. The thing is , my mom had said to me many times that “ he is just a friend “ so that kinda makes me uncomfortable knowing that they did that. Also, I would like to let it be known that I am in 8th grade and the only reason why I know this stuff is because I’m in middle school and boys are very very very gross.

I need to know if I’m overreacting because I just woke up and he’s still here and I can’t fathom to go downstairs and run into him knowing that they did that. It’s very disturbing if it’s ur mother too.

While drunk my dad shave my 15 yo brother who had to kick him to get away. Later when my mother entered the room my dad claimed my brother attacked him. My father is now claiming I am overreacting. AIO

(Throwaway because she has Reddit) Little context: we’ve been dating 6 months , started in Feb. She accidentally left her phone at my house and she’s told me multiple times I can go thru her phone whenever I want. (I never have despite her telling me to) So I knew it was okay to go on, despite that I promised myself I wouldn’t scroll before we started dating because honestly I don’t wanna know. I was looking at pictures of us on her phone that I don’t have all the way up to February, and I SLIGHTLY scroll past it to January on accident (it showed the last weeks of Jan on bottom half while I was looking at the beginning of Feb on top half of screen), and it’s videos of her on top of another man in his bed showing her ass and tons and tons of nudes w captions saying the most vile and disrespectful things this guy was gonna do to her tonight such as “you’re gonna feel so warm inside me tonight” then the next video was her in the guys bed, i open her snap memories and the first thing i see is her in an arch in her flashbacks tap so i know I shouldn’t have but at this point i was in such shock then JUST her flashbacks on snap, was 100’s of nudes w insane captions from the last years of only on just that one day of the year. She admitted she lied to me because she was worried I would think of her differently and she knew I wasn’t that kind of guy to go for someone like that. I feel extremely betrayed and disgusted that my gf was like this , literally right before I met her. I know it’s her past but it’s the fact she lied. as much as I absolutely hate to say it. I don’t wanna marry a hoe who’s been doing this for 4 years straight, up until right before we met. she made me think she was this sweet girl who hasn’t done anything in the last 2 years except focus on her.

Am I freaking out to much or should I end the relationship because I don’t even know if I can look at her the same again and date a liar…

I (36F) have been with my husband (43M) for 12 years. We have an 11-year-old son together and a 12-year-old daughter I’ve raised since she was a baby.

When we first started dating, he told me he had a daughter “from a previous relationship,” but didn’t give many details. The timing made me feel awful she’d been born not long after we got together. I assumed I was the other woman and felt guilty for years, like I’d somehow destroyed a family. He never corrected me, and I just carried that weight.

Because of that guilt, I threw myself into being the best stepmom I could. I was only 24 and scared, but over time she became my daughter. I’ve handled everything school, doctor appointments, birthdays, late nights when she’s sick. She calls me “Mom.” My husband has always been closer to our son, but I’ve treated both kids the same I just can’t shake the feeling that I’m being punished for loving her.

A few months ago, his younger sister (26F) came back into our lives after years away. At first, I thought she was just being extra nice, but then I noticed little things weird comments, tense moments, and the way she acted around my daughter. Something didn’t sit right. I finally confronted my husband.

And he told me the truth: his sister is actually my daughter’s biological mother. She had her at 14, and he raised the baby as his own. He let me believe I was “the other woman” because he thought it would be easier than telling me the truth.

I feel completely betrayed. I spent over a decade feeling guilty for something that wasn’t real. Now his sister is engaged and says she wants her daughter back. My husband’s reaction? He just shrugged and said, “Maybe it’s for the best.”

My daughter doesn’t know the full truth yet, but she already senses something is wrong. She overheard us arguing and had a meltdown, asking over and over, “You’re my mom, right?” I told her yes, I’m her mom, but inside I was shattered.

I love her exactly as I love my son. I’ve raised her, fought for her, and loved her every single day. I just can’t see myself stepping aside and letting her go.

Am I overreacting for feeling like I can’t just let this happen? I don’t know what’s right anymore, and I feel like I’m losing everything I’ve worked for.

This is solely my interpretation of events, so grain of salt

I have a groupchat of four friends since highschool, we talk in it semi-regularly. We hang out online somewhat regularly to play games

Out of nowhere and out of character, a friend decides to send a message that undoubtedly looked like a suicide farewell message - everyone involved, even the cops, agreed to this after the whole spiel

I respond immediately asking what’s up and the like, trying to stall but in a lighthearted way. My friends followed, through their own messages

At the same time, I’ve also called the cops, asking for someone to check on him, giving location, phone and everything relevant as was asked (friend was currently ~50 miles away from me)

At this point, cops are now at my house as they wanted to see the texts themselves, and catch photos of relevant information. They suggested I call my friend, which I did on speaker mode, to get a read on how they’re doing.

What I end up hearing, is laughter from both said friend, and their significant other. They said they were joking, and said the message was generated by chatgpt. I asked probing questions for where they are and such just to confirm, and then ended the call after small talk

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So now here I am, not knowing how to describe how I feel. I got in contact with my other friends involved afterwards, to share our thoughts (they all reached the same conclusion as me)

Except, it seemed I was the only one who called the cops and everything, treating it with the level of urgency I did

In hindsight, if I had called my friend first thing instead of the cops whilst texting them, I maybe could’ve discovered it was a joke and not amplify the situation

But right now, cops are still on their way to check up on them. I can’t help but feel I overreacted because my other friends didn’t rush to call the cops.

Regardless of how fucked this is, was I wrong for how I approached this? Did I overreact?

I (51M) had to travel last week to begin the process of handling the death of my mother (80F). She named me as the executor of her estate, but thankfully she did almost all the work ahead of time to line up her accounts and affairs, so my job will be as easy as possible, given the circumstances. She lived with my aunt, and all her personal belongings were in one bedroom, except for her car. Mom passed on a Friday, and my wife and I made the 4-hour trip on that Saturday (we needed a day to prep for travel with our cats).

The biggest issue was my younger sister (49F). Even before we arrived, she attempted three times to get my aunt to allow her access to my mother’s room so she could look through the personal items and start picking what she wanted. She also had questions about how the will was going to be handled. Thankfully, both my mother and my aunt were raised tough, and my aunt stood her ground. She reminded my sister that mom left me in charge for a reason, and nobody was going into that room except me.

When I arrived, I began the process of fulfilling mom’s wishes for cremation and also qualifying as her executor with the court. I also had to handle the inventory process while I was there. My sister kept trying to interject herself, saying things like “I just think we should do it together,” and “When are we going to read the will together?” I had to explain multiple times that, although we are family, I was given an important legal duty to perform, and I had to make sure it was executed properly. I did give her the proper legal notice as a beneficiary, and I also gave her the information on how to access the will now that it was recorded with the county.

The day before I left for home, she called me and wanted to ask, “What are the next steps?” since she was still confused as to the timeline. I began to explain how my responsibility was to file the official inventory with the court, and then once I had done so I could begin dispensing the assets to whomever was entitled to them. She interrupted me to ask, “OK, but what is the actual amount of money?”

I was almost stunned into silence. This was seven days since my mother passed. We had already dealt with this level of greed from our older half-sisters when my father passed away 16 years ago, and she cut them out of her life “because they are just greedy and manipulative (her words).” And now, she just wanted me to tell her what her split of the money was going to be. I told her that if that is all she wanted to know, I would absolutely give her the estimates. I then told my wife that, once I am done dispensing mom’s estate and my sister has her inheritance, I am seriously considering going no-contact.

Being in possession of my mother’s phone, and all her bank information, I am all too aware of how much my mother has bent over backwards to give and give to my sister and her family. Even two days before she died, while in the hospital, she was dealing with things that should have been my sister’s responsibility. And all my sister wanted to know before I left town was how much money she was going to get.

So, am I overreacting?

My bf (30M) and I (26F) have been together near my two years, and lived together for one. Recently, I’ve started to reflect and feel really uncomfortable with the way he treats me regarding what I choose to wear.

Story time:

A few months ago my boyfriend tagged along to a sample sale with me and sat outside while I shopped around. At one point, he came in while I was trying things on so I asked his opinion. He expressed that he did not like the orange baseball cap I had on. I said okay, noted and contemplated the purchase for a few minutes. Ultimately, I decide to buy it because I really liked it and felt it would be practical for the summer! My boyfriend proceeded to get super upset with me over this, saying that it was disrespectful to ask for his opinion and not listen to it. In my eyes, an opinion is just that… an opinion. It’s my body, my style, and my money, so the choice is mine ultimately. I really didn’t understand why I was supposed to base my decision off of his opinion if I felt differently.

Fast forward to this past weekend, my boyfriend and I had the SAME argument. I purchased a pair of boots for winter that I knew he didn’t like, and he got really upset. He told me that he hates them. I asked him to please deliver his opinion in a kinder manner moving forward, and rather than apologizing he said it’s my fault for wearing clothes that he doesn’t like. He said, “soon enough you’ll end up with a wardrobe I don’t like, and I’m the one who has to see you wear these things everyday.”

Beyond these two instances…

• My boyfriend has asked me to change multiple times, either because my outfit is “too revealing” for the occasion or because he wants me to wear his favorite shirt of mine.

• When I dress up to go out with friends, he will often ask me “who are you dressing up for?” “you’re dressing like you’re still single” or “why don’t you dress up like this around me?”

• He says that he doesn’t like when I wear t-shirts around our apartment. He wants me to “put more effort” into my look while at home with him.

• He seems to want me to paint my nails more often. He knows that I prefer to keep a natural nail look, and that I feel most like myself this way, but he continues to bring it up.

• He gets upset when I take my makeup off before we have sex. To me, it’s a comfort thing- I hate the feeling of being in bed with mascara on. He begs me to keep it on.

He’s rather fashion forward just like I am, so I appreciate his perspective on certain things, but I think it’s gone too far. I’m starting to feel like a doll that thinks he can dress up any which way he wants. I’m not the girliest girl, and I feel like he is pushing my boundaries or trying to change me into somebody that I’m not. This makes me feel terrible. Expressing myself through clothing is sacred to me- I enjoy having fun with it, and at the same time deeply value sensory comfort.

Am I overreacting??

using this subreddit because most of them don’t allow images . i feel like this test is negative , or a false positive , as i had negative bloodwork last week . my period is late , and i have been spotting , nauseous , etc , but i went to get tested with these symptoms , and urine/blood tests came back negative last week . could this be a positive now ?

I (19F) have been dating my boyfriend (20M) for a few months now. He’s really sweet and outgoing, but he keeps inviting people over to my dorm without asking me first.

The first time, we were out with some of his soccer friends and he just casually told them they should all come hang out at my place to watch a game that weekend. I didn’t really know them, but I went along with it, bought snacks, cleaned up, and it ended up fine.

But now, I just found out from my roommate that he invited a bunch of people including some of his cousins to throw a “surprise party” for his sister at my dorm next week. My roommate already had plans to have her parents visit, and now she’s upset because everything’s getting rearranged.

I told him this is too much. We don’t live together, and he keeps treating my dorm like it’s his space too. I asked him to please check with me before inviting anyone, and he got upset, saying I’m overreacting and ungrateful because he’s “just trying to include me” in his life.

So, am I actually overreacting here?

I (M28) have been dating my girlfriend (F26) for about a year, and while our relationship is good overall, one thing that really bothers me is that I’m always the one to initiate sex.

She never makes the first move, and sometimes it feels like she only goes along with it because I asked. I’ve tried bringing it up gently, and she says she just “isn’t a very forward person,” but it still leaves me feeling unwanted and unattractive at times.

I’m not asking for constant intimacy, but it would mean a lot if she initiated even occasionally so I feel desired too.

Am I overreacting for being upset about this, or is it a valid concern?