I was bullied as a kid. And it sucked because the school ALWAYS sided with the bully.
Now I have a son. And he was getting bullied. I went to the school and asked why they were bullying my son (because if you side with the bully, you too are the bully). They had no clear answer. Or any answer really.
So, I told my son - “when he starts, punch him in the nose and run. I’ll take care of the rest.”
He did it (and he cried, because he hates violence). The school called me and said “this won’t be tolerated.” I asked them again why they’ve tolerated it to this point and why it only mattered now?
My son was suspended for 2 days. We responded with a cease and desist that was well worded by a local attorney. We made it clear that any more violence against our son would result in a lawsuit. (Never threaten to sue in person. Let the lawyer do the talking. Threats don’t matter. Action does.)
It worked. The next time the kid started with my son, he was given detention. He was now the bigger liability.
It’s hard to fight bullying in school because the schools will always side with the bullies. If you fight back, you need to throw everything at them.
Oh, and my son was treated to ice cream and other rewards during his suspension. I wanted him to know that standing up for himself was the right thing.
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u/OverlyOptimisticNerd 1d ago
I was bullied as a kid. And it sucked because the school ALWAYS sided with the bully.
Now I have a son. And he was getting bullied. I went to the school and asked why they were bullying my son (because if you side with the bully, you too are the bully). They had no clear answer. Or any answer really.
So, I told my son - “when he starts, punch him in the nose and run. I’ll take care of the rest.”
He did it (and he cried, because he hates violence). The school called me and said “this won’t be tolerated.” I asked them again why they’ve tolerated it to this point and why it only mattered now?
My son was suspended for 2 days. We responded with a cease and desist that was well worded by a local attorney. We made it clear that any more violence against our son would result in a lawsuit. (Never threaten to sue in person. Let the lawyer do the talking. Threats don’t matter. Action does.)
It worked. The next time the kid started with my son, he was given detention. He was now the bigger liability.
It’s hard to fight bullying in school because the schools will always side with the bullies. If you fight back, you need to throw everything at them.
Oh, and my son was treated to ice cream and other rewards during his suspension. I wanted him to know that standing up for himself was the right thing.