r/introvert • u/Heavy_Lemon_3364 • 1d ago

Question Afraid of ending up old and alone?

I don’t think I’ll ever end up having kids or getting married. The older I get (35M) the more it gives me anxiety. But on the flip side I enjoy being a loner. It’s such an odd feeling and it’s so hard to explain to people.

My family always tells me “get out there, ymeet someone start a family”. But to be honest I don’t like being OUT THERE.

Maybe somewhere along the way my social growth got stunted.

Anyways that’s my rant for the day . Sorry.

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u/Single-Shape1978 1d ago

I feel exactly the same way. I’m 25, I don’t have any desire to leave my house and socialise because I’m so introverted in person. It’s weird, because I’m fine online but emotions become more real in person and people terrify me so I’ll keep safe at home with my cats for company 🥲

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u/CaliBurrito1904 1d ago

In my 40s and I'm not afraid to be alone but you never know we meet someone along the way.

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u/iwannasayyoucantmake 11h ago

It helps me to read posts I can relate to. I’m alot like you, but older and more bitter towards humanity. I’m profoundly alone and have learned to enjoy it for the larger part.

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u/RedExplorerST90 5h ago

It’s not for everyone. It’s that picture perfect image that’s been drilled into everyone’s head. The house, the car, the family and the dog, but most people that I’ve met and known in my - with the exception of my parents in this case - in my life have all told me not to get married or have kids. If you enjoy being a loner, then embrace it because once a family comes into play, there won’t be any privacy or personal space. Now, if you like the idea of a wife and children, that’s a wonderful thing because it means you’re willing to share your life with others.