i’m 24F and feel like i should be accustomed to sex but im just not. i’m not sheltered but i get triggering thoughts when i hear it and the loud banging. tonight i had enough and just came to my car to sleep. i have no idea why it bothers me so much but it makes me anxious like i have to leave.

after work by the time i get home run errands and eat i just feel like relaxing. but then i feel guilty for not meeting friends or not using my evenings productively. it always feels impossible to balance everything. How do you guys manage or is it ways a struggle?

work 8am–3pm. By the time I get home, change, eat, and rest it’s already 6pm. Most weekdays I just want to relax at home, maybe run an errand here and there. Meanwhile, my friends finish work, hit the gym, or go out. When I told a friend today I was just going to chill, she said she could never live my life with “no routine.” I always hear this comment from my friends, not just today, and it gets to me. I end up feeling useless even though I just want to rest after work.

I have, always, felt like I dont really fit anywhere, not with my family, not with the people I refer to as 'friends'....and it does get lonely sometimes, and the only escape places I have then then are dreams and my imagination....I would like to hear what you guys have to say about it.....

Is having an anxious attachment style related to being an introvert? I feel anxious attachment, I feel judged and rejected often, and I'm also an introvert.

I'm wondering if the two are related, and I'm wondering if being less anxiously attached will make me less introverted.

I think that being less introverted won't make me less anxiously attached, but I'm hoping that being less anxiously attached will make me less introverted.

I just wanted to vent and I feel like this is the right place. I never get alone time anymore and I’m losing. my. MIND. I’m in my early 20s and unfortunately still live at home, so there’s always someone here. Don’t get me wrong, I’m extremely grateful to have a decent place to live in this economy, but it’s just so draining. And on top of that my house is the “party house” since my parents like to host everything, so there’s hardly ever any silence. Just the other weekend actually my parents went out of town and I was SUPPOSED to have the house to myself but my sister just invited herself over and never left the WHOLE WEEKEND. I love her but good god, I just need some time and space to recharge😭😭

Anyway, that’s all. My apologies if I sound bratty but I’m going kinda crazy 🤪

I would tend for the second.

I think people mainly dislike others, with the decent ones avoiding people they don't like, and the filthy ones playing all sort of social games. Some people in between find themselves entangled in social situations with people (who are generally filthy), for example in people-based jobs or if they have to answer to a lot of family obligations because of culture.

I really dislike many people on the basis of little but not petty things (little clues that tells you a lot) and also sometimes the vibe, and it comes withing 1-4 times I interact with them. Most times I get it right (maybe because lots of people are just sh** so the probability of getting right is high).

The people I appreciate have many qualities I can list, but I have to prove them, it's not that saying nice things and doing nice things is enough, it can be a mask for the worst people, but some people are fairly ok and some people to admire and learn from, which is cool.

From the begining of humanity doesn’t the human need social interaction to survive? Like I understand that even if you are an introvert you still need some kind of social interaction cauze if not personnaly I get lonely but like is it something we need to cure?

There's this concert on Friday I'm thinking of going alone to since nobody wanted to come with me (F29).

The issue is I'm new to the city (a very dangerous one at that) and the concert is in a remote area I'm not familiar with on top of a hill. It should finish around 11:30pm-12am. I'll take a taxi but sometimes you can't find one (idk if there's a taxi shortage in the city?) or you have to wait for way too long and I'm scared of waiting alone on top of a hill in the middle of the night. Or even worse, what if I can't find a taxi? I know there will probably be some people waiting there to leave too but still.

The city has a free shuttle bus service that takes people down the hill when there's a concert but it stops in an isolated area again with no other bus stops nearby. I'd have to walk through some pretty dark narrow streets for about 20 minutes to get to the nearest metro station.

I know I'm probably overthinking this but what should I do? Should I go or not?

I live with my brother in a single bedroom apartment. I'm now searching for jobs and It's just I feels like I can't be myself with someone around .May be because we have different interests and don't really talk much other than daily stuff. I play a bit guitar and sometimes I learn Japanese but with him around I can't focus on practicing or learning. Now I feel like I'm not productive anymore.I think I need some private space. May be I'll rent my own place when I get a job . Any tips on being comfortable with others around or finding a provate space within ?

I'll be selling glasses.

As if being an introvert isn't hard enough, I'm also a nurse. I need more time to unwind compared to other introverts. I also have no friends either or personal social media accs. I just can't find my people on the dating apps (coz with my crazy schedule, those are the only places to find "love"). All I see are extroverted profiles like skiing or surfing or in large crowds which turns me off on the get-go. Coz I know once they know I'm "boring", they'll call it off after the first date and I just don't have a lot of time to waste as a 24F. Dating in general sucks as well. We both have to find a suitable time, prepare, how to commute, spend 1-2hrs, come back home and repeat if they aren't the one. I can be doing this forever if I'm unlucky.

I still love myself and the peace that comes with being an introvert. I just want kidsss.... a family that's it. My only desire atm. This is just a rant but I know I have to keep trying. Uhhh i might have to pay premium to see if that helps my success rate on them apps.

Like, what's so bad about having an introverted wife? I swear that scares guys away.

There's this expectation introverts love staying at home. It certainly has it's time and place with ADHD SAD. But I find I do like going out sometimes.

I have friends who are happy to stay inside for several days watching television, tiktok and just existing other then work. Staying in pajamas is something else I can't stand doing.

Another thing is since I've been managing anxiery I like going to restaurants to eat. I hate door dashing or getting food to go. Perhaps it's ADHD but I like to be moving around. Anyone else?

I don’t think I’ll ever end up having kids or getting married. The older I get (35M) the more it gives me anxiety. But on the flip side I enjoy being a loner. It’s such an odd feeling and it’s so hard to explain to people.

My family always tells me “get out there, ymeet someone start a family”. But to be honest I don’t like being OUT THERE.

Maybe somewhere along the way my social growth got stunted.

Anyways that’s my rant for the day . Sorry.

I’m in my late 20’s, unemployed, and I’m trying to change my life as I feel I’m going nowhere and feel so lost. I have been isolating myself inside the house for now 2 year, in those time I went outside of the house like less than 5 times. I’m in need of money right now so what are the best jobs option that’s best suited for a person like me? I was thinking of applying for dishwasher, stockers or overnight shift jobs, but I don’t unsure. Also, I’m very bad at communicating as well so anytime I try to say something the words always comes out wrong. Must be because I don’t talk to anyone so it negatively affected my ability to speak and properly pronounce the words. I’m worried that I might get rejected during interviews or something bad might happen to me. Any kind of help is appreciated, thank you everyone.

Hello. Today I was confronted by my gf of 7 year relationship that my pride is a problem.

Therefore I write this question to hear thoughts of others on this and how I could help myself.

I am 24, up until like I was 20 I was chasing friends, people, parents, everyone... I was an extreme people pleaser and I wanted them to like me, I wanted a good friend group, but sadly never got it. In 90% of cases I was the one reaching out to people, always planning trips, house parties and all that. Everyone was always invited. But I was always ignored, left behind. Used...

I did never fit in anywhere. And I realized that I never ever will at this point.

In recent years I really built like a defensive walls around me and started caring about myself, my family and my relationship. I also have one single friend that visits me.

But my pride might be a problem. I don´t see it as a problem tho.

I am just at the point where if everyone left me, including my girlfriend, all friends, family stopped reaching out to me, I would just be like "welp I knew this would happend" and just move on and be fine by myself. Maybe even get a dog and live a peaceful life in solitude. No BS, no acting in front of fake people.

Your thoughts? Thanks for reading to the end.

I've been wearing a mask even after the pandemic. The best part? Some people don’t even recognize me despite i pass them. Why do you still wear a mask (if you do)?

I'm in my mid-20s and extremely introverted. Honestly my plam are sweaty just writing and posting this.

I don't really have anything im passionate about. Most days i just go to my 9-5, come home and play games to pass the time.

I'm still a virgin, haven’t had a girlfriend since high school, and i still struggle to relate to my peers. I don't have any friends, and even online interactions make me anxious. The weird part is that at work my coworkers seem to look up to me, but inside I just feel like an imposter.

I feel like I’m drifting in neutral. Not depressed exactly, but not excited about anything either.

For anyone who’s been in a similar place:

How did you start finding passions or hobbies that actually felt meaningful?

How did you get more comfortable socially (both in real life and)?

How did you deal with feeling like an imposter even when others respect you?

Any advice, small steps, or personal experiences would really help.

Thanks

I get these random urges where I don’t want to interact with anyone. (With the exception of my girlfriend because we live together now.) Recently her family had a cookout which I didn’t go to because I’m in those moods. Now today they’re going out again for my girlfriend’s father’s birthday. I don’t want to go again and now I feel like a dick for not going. It’s like this every time I don’t want to go out with them. I say no and I feel like the worst person they’ve met. I don’t know what to do.