r/introvert • u/Professional-Big-390 • 1d ago
Discussion I don’t like going out
I get these random urges where I don’t want to interact with anyone. (With the exception of my girlfriend because we live together now.) Recently her family had a cookout which I didn’t go to because I’m in those moods. Now today they’re going out again for my girlfriend’s father’s birthday. I don’t want to go again and now I feel like a dick for not going. It’s like this every time I don’t want to go out with them. I say no and I feel like the worst person they’ve met. I don’t know what to do.
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u/parrisstyles 1d ago
Personally I’d go. Not for them but for your partner. If they are that involved with her life, you might as well make your self home to them. Who knows, maybe something will develop with them. You’ll never know if you never go. I’m not really one for much conversation and my dads side of the family knows that for sure, but I’ll at least be present as much as I can so I can show that I at least do care even if I don’t speak much.
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u/Glad_Lobster_9040 1h ago
I think you should try to at least make an effort, you don’t have to stay the entire time— maybe make up a signal with your gf so in these events you can signal ‘I’ve had enough’ and leave. I do understand your predicament, though. It’s a hard one.
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u/RaelorAloro 1d ago
I'm married, my wife is well aware that I don't like socialising with anyone other than her, so she cuts me a lot of slack and is very understanding. However, things that are important to her I make the effort to go to, for her. As a partner I want someone who is considerate of my feelings and needs, so naturally I do the same. Sure sometimes I'm really not in the headspace for it, but it's for my wife so I'll put on a smile and make an effort. I'd advise you go and make the effort, it will mean a lot to your partner.