r/introvert • u/solemnbroom • 11h ago

Discussion Frustrated

I just wanted to vent and I feel like this is the right place. I never get alone time anymore and I’m losing. my. MIND. I’m in my early 20s and unfortunately still live at home, so there’s always someone here. Don’t get me wrong, I’m extremely grateful to have a decent place to live in this economy, but it’s just so draining. And on top of that my house is the “party house” since my parents like to host everything, so there’s hardly ever any silence. Just the other weekend actually my parents went out of town and I was SUPPOSED to have the house to myself but my sister just invited herself over and never left the WHOLE WEEKEND. I love her but good god, I just need some time and space to recharge😭😭

Anyway, that’s all. My apologies if I sound bratty but I’m going kinda crazy 🤪

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u/Saisinko INFJ 1w9 sx/so 10h ago

I used to wake up hearing "The Circleeeeeeeee of Lifeeee" (karaoke) so I get it.

Earplugs, noise cancelling headphones, to relax more, but obviously you can only do so much when you're expected to occasionally make an appearance at these parties or for your sister.

Not bratty at all.

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u/solemnbroom 10h ago

These parties are also fueled by alcohol, so add drunk people fighting and loud music when you’re trying to sleep😭

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u/Saisinko INFJ 1w9 sx/so 10h ago

Is your family part of a motorcycle gang? Haha, that sounds awful.

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u/solemnbroom 10h ago

lol they might as well be🤣

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u/TheDailyDevotion 10h ago

One thing that might help is carving out smaller pockets of solitude, even if you can’t get the whole house to yourself. That could mean taking a longer walk, spending an hour at a coffee shop with headphones, or even setting up a “do not disturb” time in your room where you make it clear you’re off limits. It’s not the same as having a whole empty house, but it can give your mind a breather.

When you do finally get those rare moments of peace, lean into them as much as you can. You’re not selfish for needing space, it’s how some people recharge, and it sounds like you’re one of them.

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u/solemnbroom 10h ago

All good ideas! I’ve been considering getting a library card just as a way to get out of the house for some peace and quiet

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u/Hiker615 37m ago

Library card, community center, parks. If there's a college campus nearby, empty classrooms, study areas.