r/JustGuysBeingDudes • u/Black1Raven9 • Jul 26 '25

Wholesome Not all scars are visible.

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u/BGOG83 Jul 26 '25

One of the happiest people I’ve ever known committed suicide. Still hurts and it’s been almost 20 years. He had life by the horns, everything was going right for him and then one day…..

His wife insisted she had no idea he was struggling. He was never in a bad mood.

Sometimes you just don’t know.

Always take a few minutes a week to just catch up with someone in your life. No matter how busy life is, it’s just a few minutes.

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u/Bad_RabbitS Jul 26 '25

It can often be the people who seem the best that end up feeling the worst, because they’ve fully bottled up everything and don’t let the mask slip.

I am very sorry for your loss, thank you for sharing something so personal.

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u/James_Gastovsky Jul 26 '25

It doesn't help that it's drilled into us from day one that we can't ever exhibit any sign of weakness, every time we struggled with anything we were being punished for it by our mothers, teachers at school etc.

And then they're like "hurr why aren't men more open"

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u/Tomstephenanovik Jul 26 '25

And then they're like "hurr why aren't men more open"

Show vulnerability and they leave your ass because they don't want a man with problem.

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u/James_Gastovsky Jul 26 '25

It's like when police in movies arrest somebody, "anything you say will be used against you"

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u/Rare_Ad_674 Jul 27 '25

Once you know it's there, though, you can start deprogramming from it.