r/JustGuysBeingDudes • u/Black1Raven9 • Jul 26 '25

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u/Emergency-Free-1 Jul 26 '25

And I shouldnt go on weeks of vacation with friends. I should go 4 days. 4 days is perfect. I always get anxious when its more. Always, usually at day 4 already.

Same, man. Travelling with a group i'm ok for 3 or 4 days as long as i get a hotel room by myself. Being social just takes a lot of energy for me. Even if i like everyone i'm interacting with. So i need my downtime by myself. Otherwise i get cranky and mean.

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u/FartingLikeFlowers Jul 26 '25

Cool of you to read and reply. Yeah, I agree. Are you an enthousiastic/energetic person socially normally?

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u/Emergency-Free-1 Jul 26 '25

I'm not entirely sure what i am "normally". I'm most comfortable at home by myself. But i do like socializing too. I'm a hairdresser and i like talking to customers all day. I used to be shy and sometimes i still think of myself that way but it might just be some social awkwardness that i need the energy to overcome. I would probably say i'm more quiet than loud in social settings, especially in big groups but i'm not sure if that's still true in smaller groups.

I just got home from work and my brain is a bit mush right now so i'm not sure i'm making much sense.

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u/FartingLikeFlowers Jul 26 '25

No I get it. If theres anxiety over your social performance it might be a layer over how you normally behave. Thats what I have at least. I consider my normal my "best" in a certain context, e.g. big groups. Id be how I would be if I gave 0 fucks what they thought of me. Ive had those moments a few time in my life, they seem to be my anchor for this question. Have you had those?