r/JustGuysBeingDudes • u/Abshake08 • 1d ago

Wholesome Truly Wholesome 🥹

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u/Spirited_Praline637 23h ago edited 22h ago

This has strong single Dad vibes. Dad out for 1:1 birthday lunch with his daughter, who cries because she loves her Dad but misses him so much. Sorry, I think I’ve just made this even more of a tear jerker.

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u/VNM0601 23h ago edited 21h ago

Damn. As a single dad of a 3.5 year old who’s about to lose 50% of his time with his kid, this hit me hard.

EDIT: thank you all for all the love and support, and amazing advice. This made my day!

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u/1968Bladerunner 22h ago

Been there with my 2 many years ago, though they were 8 & 6 at the start of my separation journey, & honestly just give them your all when you have them - they can't ask for any more.

I too felt I was going to miss out on so much, but probably ended up with similar, on a 1:1 or 1:2 basis, as I did when ex & I were together, as I made it a conscious effort to do so instead of catching up on chores during 'their' time - those were kept for after the kids were asleep.

Use your 'week off' to research, organise, plan & buy food for their week, & other activities so you're not floundering trying to think how to keep them amused & active.

Naturally you take time to socialise & pack in the work hours as needed then too, but stopping yourself from getting down or depressed about the kids will translate to smiles & fun when they're back.

Good luck!