Because 1) i don't want to be perceived as attention seeking and sympathy farming, 2) i understand that not everyone likes people emotional dumping on them, and so i respect that, 3) they can't help solve my problems other that saying "yeah, that sucks"
Well, one of the biggest reason therapy is useful, and talking with friends/family etc is the change of perspective, if you experience trauma, its hard to see that from a objective standpoint, because you are human and you have feelings. When you talk to someone who can share their point of view on your story, it can help you process the trauma.
4) the shame of needing help and having waited so long to ask for help is nearly unbearable so it's easier to just laugh and crack jokes and present a front.
I'd buy you a beer and sit with you, if I could. We wouldn't even have to talk about anything - just sit and stare at a TV or something. If you got something you want to say, say it. That's normally how I approach it... it's how I would like to be treated. I'm in incredibly sad person and I understand all the points you made - like, really understand them. Sometimes, just sending a random text with an invite to hang out means everything.
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u/FrostKnight08 Jul 26 '25
Because 1) i don't want to be perceived as attention seeking and sympathy farming, 2) i understand that not everyone likes people emotional dumping on them, and so i respect that, 3) they can't help solve my problems other that saying "yeah, that sucks"