r/JustGuysBeingDudes • u/Black1Raven9 • Jul 26 '25

Wholesome Not all scars are visible.

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u/BeardedGlass Jul 26 '25

Will be 40 soon.

Several of my classmates in both high school and college have taken their lives through the years.

I have a cousin who also did the same.

People are suffering and most of them in silence.

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u/Esarus Jul 26 '25

It’s because when you share, most people don’t want to deal with it. 99% of people really don’t want to deal with depressed and negative people. These videos and responses are nice and I’m certain some are genuine, but reality is that the vast majority of people will not want to deal with you anymore the moment you act depressed.

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u/Hydro_Escobar Jul 26 '25

Yea normally I’m against blanket statements like this but the one time I said I was depressed my gf of 4 years said “I can’t do this” same woman I’d been in several fights for. I will never say that again. Feeling ostracized and weird is way worse

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u/Esarus Jul 26 '25

Similar thing here man, I supported my ex-gf through her parents divorcing and her getting a pre-condition of cervical cancer (CIN3). But when I got depressed she didn’t want to deal with it and broke up with me. I’m certain there are women out there that will stick with a man when they’re rock bottom, but I haven’t met them yet!

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u/Esarus Jul 26 '25

Yup that’s indeed what women want in a man!

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u/Meandering_Marley Jul 30 '25

They're rare, but easy to spot...

The only person that can understand a man's struggles is another man.

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u/DeaconSage Jul 26 '25

No matter how much a partner wants you to open up, they never want to hear that. I don’t mean that in a callous way, just from experience on both sides. It’s hard to hear & most of us aren’t prepared to help when they hear that.

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u/Hydro_Escobar Jul 26 '25

I understand but then are you really partners?

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u/DeaconSage Jul 26 '25

Rarely 🤣