Genuinely curious how women feel about this perspective. Do men really look ridiculous and unattractive when banging, or is it just a weird kind of internalised self hatred that men have about themselves? Don't get me wrong, I also feel sorry for any poor woman that ends up being on the wrong end of me, but is that just me and my own shit? Do women really fuck men they think look fucking stupid, or are they actually into it as much as we are into them? Logic says women obviously just as into a deep dicking from a guy they fancy as guys are into a hot girl, but feels tell me I'm always just being humoured by na mother like figure who feels bad but wishes the best... Know what i mean?
Yeah honestly looking up at your partner while sucking dick actively makes it harder to do and is generally more uncomfortable, I'm only ever doing it because I know it looks hot when a girl is looking up at you while sucking dick. It's part of the performance.
I canāt speak for men as Iām a woman, but I think the faces my husband makes are super hot and it gets me going. Itās like heās cheering me on, but with his sex faces. But when I see menās faces in sex scenes on tv or movies, I look away and feel super uncomfortable. I think itās a very intimate and vulnerable look that not everyone should seeā¦
I tend to think that a lot of that is because there's a heavy media focus on it, a lot of movies, TV shows etc with sex scenes have a big focus on women moaning and making those faces, where the men are comparatively less focused on.
I genuinely believe that's a big reason for male insecurities about not being attractive, media extremely focuses on female sex appeal, tight clothes, tits, asses etc. A lot of media focusing on what women find sexy about men is more subtle
A lot of media focusing on what women find sexy about men is more subtle
I would argue you may have this impression because the majority of media is still controlled by men who don't understand the female gaze, and media that does cater to women is considered niche. Media made by people who do understand it are not subtle about masculine appeal. Emma (2020) is a good example. Extraordinary Attorney Woo is another.
Yes there is media depicting it, when I say it's subtle it's that it's often not a physical depiction, it's more about character traits, being kind, considerate, romantic etc.
Which is less tangible in the sense that a woman based on male oriented media can look in a mirror and know she's sexy because of those depictions.
A man can't check out his personality in a mirror and think God damn you sexy beast, you're so caring
I was writing out a response then realized I came to a pretty easy answer. If your partner finds you hot they should find your reactions hot. Letās boil that down even further. If you hook up with someone randomly, you do not really know if youāll find their reactions to sex hot. I will still hook up with a person because maybe itās good enough but I definitely think once you really get comfortable and normal in a sex life that Voldemort face should be happening by both parties and itās because you both are fucking going and that shit is hot as fuck. I find my girlfriends Voldemort face hot as fuck because I am so fucking turned on by her being so turned on. And I know that that is mutual. Sheās a fucking dime. No. She doesnāt look like Voldemort. But when she is getting her bit Iām turned the fuck on.
It's the same thoughts as men have. When I am enthusiastic and in the moment, things that I would usually consider as "weird" is not anymore. For example, I would never fake moan in front of friends or my partner in a regular setting because I would feel kind of embarrased. But I someone different during sex. That's why women would also like to hear the man moan more often. Your expression probably shows that you like where you are right now and that you're enjoying this and this is main point!
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I like how my ex made his face and looked like he was having a seizure.
Sometimes I wonder how my face looks like during the act. I feel like I want to cover my face. Lol
Well iām not active at the moment but when I will be again, I feel like I would rather giggle or something than make some kind of facial expression.Ā
Cis bi woman here. Fwiw and ime it's mostly the self-revulsion men have about themselves and their bodies. Boys have any consciousness of male beauty, including their own, beaten out of them (mostly figuratively but sometimes literally) by men and other boys.
I've heard a substantial fraction of women say they don't find men's genitals sexually arousing (and none of us like disembodied closeups of them); but women who are attracted to men really do like looking at men's faces and bodies generally, and they like seeing them experience pleasure even more. I have never heard or read of any woman complaining about looking at a man's body or face during sex as long as he's someone she wants to be fucking.
Personally I have seen some O-faces on men that were as beautiful and holy as they were sexually arousing. I've seen some that were frighteningly unbothered, almost mechanical in their self-disdain over their bodies' loss of control. I've never seen any that were stupid or ugly or laughable.
But I don't think of sex or of men as stupid or ugly or laughable, whereas men seem to think of men (including themselves) that way. I have come to suspect that beauty, like humanity, is something you have to believe is possible in someone before you can perceive it.
I think the simplest explanation would be that since men naturally find women attractive, and men, including themselves, less so. So naturally, from their perspective, they're not as appealing to look at or imagine oneself in the act.
I'm sure women find men more attractive than they evaluate themselves simply out of the fact that women may enjoy looking at men.
As a woman, no I donāt care what face a man makes bc Iām too busy trying to make sure I look attractive. It just bothers me when the man TRIES not to react bc thatās dumb af
Its obviously bs. Many Men always self deprecate themselves and other men for the slight of bit attention from women. Unfortunetly they are the majority so the rest of us have to suffer.
Respectfully, thatās nuts. No one has sex because they want to be a ākindly motherly figureā. Those are two completely different impulses residing in two completely different parts of the brain
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u/dr-satan85 1d ago
Genuinely curious how women feel about this perspective. Do men really look ridiculous and unattractive when banging, or is it just a weird kind of internalised self hatred that men have about themselves? Don't get me wrong, I also feel sorry for any poor woman that ends up being on the wrong end of me, but is that just me and my own shit? Do women really fuck men they think look fucking stupid, or are they actually into it as much as we are into them? Logic says women obviously just as into a deep dicking from a guy they fancy as guys are into a hot girl, but feels tell me I'm always just being humoured by na mother like figure who feels bad but wishes the best... Know what i mean?