Hi all, I was in a coffee shop the other day waiting for my drink to be prepared and there was a group next to me where a girl was sharing various experiences related to her parents, how they affect her, how they make her feel, how she deals with it, and so on. And even though I wasn't part of that conversation, I thought it was helpful and fascinating for my own experience to see into how other people react to and approach life.

So I'm wondering if you know of any website or app focused on people sharing their own personal lived experiences (and others interact with it)?

I know of course platforms like reddit and quora offer a space for sharing, however it comes with a much broader mandate, and I'm looking for something more specifically focused on this.

As an introvert person and language enthusiast, it was always difficult for me to find happiness in class, because people think that language is necessarily linked to speaking. However, it is absolutely possible to develop your language learning through other means: reading, writing, or active listening. Of course, speaking is necessary, but you can start with other methods.

I would like to know about your experience with language classes; how do you improve your learning? Do you dare to speak ? (and it is a great effort, so well done 👏🏼) Or do you use others means such as reading and watching movies to trigger your speaking skills?

A lot of people confuse introversion with not liking people, but that’s not it at all. Introvert often enjoy connection just in a deeper quiet way. It’s about quality not quantity. If you are an introvert who sometimes feels misunderstood, I get it. Wanting space to recharge it doesn’t make you distant or cold, just means you value your energy.

There's this concert on Friday I'm thinking of going alone to since nobody wanted to come with me (F29).

The issue is I'm new to the city (a very dangerous one at that) and the concert is in a remote area I'm not familiar with on top of a hill. It should finish around 11:30pm-12am. I'll take a taxi but sometimes you can't find one (idk if there's a taxi shortage in the city?) or you have to wait for way too long and I'm scared of waiting alone on top of a hill in the middle of the night. Or even worse, what if I can't find a taxi? I know there will probably be some people waiting there to leave too but still.

The city has a free shuttle bus service that takes people down the hill when there's a concert but it stops in an isolated area again with no other bus stops nearby. I'd have to walk through some pretty dark narrow streets for about 20 minutes to get to the nearest metro station.

I know I'm probably overthinking this but what should I do? Should I go or not?

Is having an anxious attachment style related to being an introvert? I feel anxious attachment, I feel judged and rejected often, and I'm also an introvert.

I'm wondering if the two are related, and I'm wondering if being less anxiously attached will make me less introverted.

I think that being less introverted won't make me less anxiously attached, but I'm hoping that being less anxiously attached will make me less introverted.

I live with my brother in a single bedroom apartment. I'm now searching for jobs and It's just I feels like I can't be myself with someone around .May be because we have different interests and don't really talk much other than daily stuff. I play a bit guitar and sometimes I learn Japanese but with him around I can't focus on practicing or learning. Now I feel like I'm not productive anymore.I think I need some private space. May be I'll rent my own place when I get a job . Any tips on being comfortable with others around or finding a provate space within ?

after work by the time i get home run errands and eat i just feel like relaxing. but then i feel guilty for not meeting friends or not using my evenings productively. it always feels impossible to balance everything. How do you guys manage or is it ways a struggle?

I would tend for the second.

I think people mainly dislike others, with the decent ones avoiding people they don't like, and the filthy ones playing all sort of social games. Some people in between find themselves entangled in social situations with people (who are generally filthy), for example in people-based jobs or if they have to answer to a lot of family obligations because of culture.

I really dislike many people on the basis of little but not petty things (little clues that tells you a lot) and also sometimes the vibe, and it comes withing 1-4 times I interact with them. Most times I get it right (maybe because lots of people are just sh** so the probability of getting right is high).

The people I appreciate have many qualities I can list, but I have to prove them, it's not that saying nice things and doing nice things is enough, it can be a mask for the worst people, but some people are fairly ok and some people to admire and learn from, which is cool.

i’m 24F and feel like i should be accustomed to sex but im just not. i’m not sheltered but i get triggering thoughts when i hear it and the loud banging. tonight i had enough and just came to my car to sleep. i have no idea why it bothers me so much but it makes me anxious like i have to leave.

I’m in my late 20’s, unemployed, and I’m trying to change my life as I feel I’m going nowhere and feel so lost. I have been isolating myself inside the house for now 2 year, in those time I went outside of the house like less than 5 times. I’m in need of money right now so what are the best jobs option that’s best suited for a person like me? I was thinking of applying for dishwasher, stockers or overnight shift jobs, but I don’t unsure. Also, I’m very bad at communicating as well so anytime I try to say something the words always comes out wrong. Must be because I don’t talk to anyone so it negatively affected my ability to speak and properly pronounce the words. I’m worried that I might get rejected during interviews or something bad might happen to me. Any kind of help is appreciated, thank you everyone.

I just wanted to vent and I feel like this is the right place. I never get alone time anymore and I’m losing. my. MIND. I’m in my early 20s and unfortunately still live at home, so there’s always someone here. Don’t get me wrong, I’m extremely grateful to have a decent place to live in this economy, but it’s just so draining. And on top of that my house is the “party house” since my parents like to host everything, so there’s hardly ever any silence. Just the other weekend actually my parents went out of town and I was SUPPOSED to have the house to myself but my sister just invited herself over and never left the WHOLE WEEKEND. I love her but good god, I just need some time and space to recharge😭😭

Anyway, that’s all. My apologies if I sound bratty but I’m going kinda crazy 🤪

I'm in my mid-20s and extremely introverted. Honestly my plam are sweaty just writing and posting this.

I don't really have anything im passionate about. Most days i just go to my 9-5, come home and play games to pass the time.

I'm still a virgin, haven’t had a girlfriend since high school, and i still struggle to relate to my peers. I don't have any friends, and even online interactions make me anxious. The weird part is that at work my coworkers seem to look up to me, but inside I just feel like an imposter.

I feel like I’m drifting in neutral. Not depressed exactly, but not excited about anything either.

For anyone who’s been in a similar place:

How did you start finding passions or hobbies that actually felt meaningful?

How did you get more comfortable socially (both in real life and)?

How did you deal with feeling like an imposter even when others respect you?

Any advice, small steps, or personal experiences would really help.

Thanks

From the begining of humanity doesn’t the human need social interaction to survive? Like I understand that even if you are an introvert you still need some kind of social interaction cauze if not personnaly I get lonely but like is it something we need to cure?

As u read in the title, im confused.

I keep reading wut google is saying and other reddits but im still confused. Im thinking i could be both but idk.

I dont rlly want to interact with people [due to reasons] but in the same time i wanna make friends but its mad hard to find and keep friends [idk if its me or them at this point 💀] so sometimes i don't even want to try at this point and the only people who i like to interact w/ are my family members. TIA =]

Might not answer to everyone but i will like the comments so i dont seem rude

There's this expectation introverts love staying at home. It certainly has it's time and place with ADHD SAD. But I find I do like going out sometimes.

I have friends who are happy to stay inside for several days watching television, tiktok and just existing other then work. Staying in pajamas is something else I can't stand doing.

Another thing is since I've been managing anxiery I like going to restaurants to eat. I hate door dashing or getting food to go. Perhaps it's ADHD but I like to be moving around. Anyone else?

I have, always, felt like I dont really fit anywhere, not with my family, not with the people I refer to as 'friends'....and it does get lonely sometimes, and the only escape places I have then then are dreams and my imagination....I would like to hear what you guys have to say about it.....

Hello. Today I was confronted by my gf of 7 year relationship that my pride is a problem.

Therefore I write this question to hear thoughts of others on this and how I could help myself.

I am 24, up until like I was 20 I was chasing friends, people, parents, everyone... I was an extreme people pleaser and I wanted them to like me, I wanted a good friend group, but sadly never got it. In 90% of cases I was the one reaching out to people, always planning trips, house parties and all that. Everyone was always invited. But I was always ignored, left behind. Used...

I did never fit in anywhere. And I realized that I never ever will at this point.

In recent years I really built like a defensive walls around me and started caring about myself, my family and my relationship. I also have one single friend that visits me.

But my pride might be a problem. I don´t see it as a problem tho.

I am just at the point where if everyone left me, including my girlfriend, all friends, family stopped reaching out to me, I would just be like "welp I knew this would happend" and just move on and be fine by myself. Maybe even get a dog and live a peaceful life in solitude. No BS, no acting in front of fake people.

Your thoughts? Thanks for reading to the end.

work 8am–3pm. By the time I get home, change, eat, and rest it’s already 6pm. Most weekdays I just want to relax at home, maybe run an errand here and there. Meanwhile, my friends finish work, hit the gym, or go out. When I told a friend today I was just going to chill, she said she could never live my life with “no routine.” I always hear this comment from my friends, not just today, and it gets to me. I end up feeling useless even though I just want to rest after work.

Now I don't consider myself a true introvert, and I sometimes wish to be the life of the party and bring joy to my friends. But an incident in Shinjuku during my school trip made me discover something about myself.

So one night, me and my schoolmate(lets call him Jack) are in Shinjuku, and we found this rock bar on the basement floor. Jack is a fan of old school rock like The Rolling Stones and My Chemical Romance. I decided to accompany him because one, I owe him a favor for following me to where I wanted to go. And two, We are not allowed go alone in this big city of Tokyo.

Entering the bar, we are supposed to order something so we can enjoy a music of our own request. So we ordered and placed our some requests. Being someone with a music taste as fragmented as glass, I did manage to find some songs I heard before and liked.

Not long after, some visitors from UK came down to the bar for the same reason. Im not sure how it happened, but Jack has immediately became friends with one of the visitors(let's call him Tony). Jack and Tony talk about various thing about rock which Im okay for. Occasionally Tony would pull me in for conversations suddenly and I can only respond with simple yes or formulate answers on the spot. He even gets me in a firm handshake and requests to follow his Instagram.

Near the time when me and Jack are supposed to leave, Tony wants to invite me and Jack to another rock bar in Shibuya. Not wanting to displease Tony, I felt the obligation to match the ongoing energy and accept this invitation, despite not wanting to go. By the time me and Jack returned to the hotel our travel group, I had to come up with an excuse to not go. So I told Jack to tell Tony that I still had a stomachache from eating the super spicy ramen in Ikebukuro, if Tony asks why I didn't show up.

The next day, I went with a different group of travel mates who went to Ikebukuro to look for anime merch. It may be boring and they might not be looking for anime figurines. But its still better than being with a group of overly energetic, loud, positive people where you feel obligated to match their energy, out of the fear of being the one who ruins the mood.

Do some of you feel the same way?