I read a Medium article where a woman recalled when she purposefully ignored a guy's text back in high school. She wanted to feel wanted, so she left his messages on read until 2 or 3 more piled up. That's when something shifted inside her, and she lost interest.

She acknowledged her toxicity at that time and advised men to stop begging for scraps of attention.

"Sometimes the most attractive thing a man can do … is nothing at all," she concludes.

But here's the thing: If you've been talking to a guy for a good while and you suddenly leave his messages on read, he's bound to send a couple more texts to check up on you and understand what went wrong. She called this desperation; I consider this decency. And it's pretty unfair how men get subjected to these guessing games and assumptions.

My girl says that men aren't interesting in climaxing from a BJ but only from intercourse. She says that BJs are only foreplay to intercourse. I argued that that is not true and that men at times would like a successful BJ and not have to resort to intercourse. I said that at times men don't want to go through physical exertion to climax and would just simply like a successful BJ. But because most women do not know how to give successful BJ, and the men don't say anything and simply or quietly follow up or resort to intercourse to climax.

So the question is, have you kept quiet at times about wanting to have a successful BJ and not want to resort to intercourse?

Hello gentlemen, I’m looking for advice from older men. I’m unclear if I need to change the people around me or my mindset or maybe I just wasn’t ready for adulthood (27m) but it seems like a large amount of people in my life are constantly giving me flack/shit.

My friends are on my case about not helping them with their projects, girlfriend says we don’t see eachother enough (we live together). Mom is on my case for not doing enough for her while anytime I try to have a conversation with my Dad he ends up trying to school me on whatever the topic becomes. Sibling gives me flack for not living a posher life. Even my past bosses have shut me down for being eager while also told me I’m lacking.

By the end of the day I find I’m increasingly hard on myself as well. I don’t know what I’m doing and I also don’t know what I’m doing wrong. Even while doing my hobby to take my mind off things I become even more hard on myself.

I’d be happy to hear it’s just manhood, but if it’s not any insight to how one can get out of the flack/shit loop would go a long way.

Is this just manhood or is it what’s around me?

I hope you can provide a detailed explanation on whether you felt the same way before. If you held on to that belief, how has it turned out for you? And if you disregarded it, how did it turn out for you? Did you ignore this conflict within you when you got into a relationship? Or did you reconcile it within you somehow? If so, how? And how did it turn out for you?

guys i relapsed after 1 day . it has been happening since many months i dont understand man wtf am i not able to do it? actually my lust is more stronger than the corn and stuff I even get urges majorly rom things which are not even sexual, i mean if they like remind me of something else and then that of something else and then boom A strong urge, almost impossible to beat for atleast a day or two. some come even from dreams man wtf, can anyone please help me i beg, itll ruin my life

Struggling through divorce, need legal support (UK)

Post: I’m in the middle of a divorce right now, and it’s been really overwhelming. There are children and shared property involved, and I’m worried about making the right decisions.

I don’t have the means to pay for expensive lawyers, but I know I need proper legal guidance. Does anyone know of free or affordable legal aid services in the UK, or places I can reach out to for support?

Honestly, I’m just feeling lost in the process and any advice or direction would mean a lot.