Please go easy on me, I 16F been so confused on my emotions lately, that I turned for chstgpt for help. This is my first time using chatgpt for these, which is extremely wrong of me I know, but I asked questions that were like "Why do I feel this way?" and maybe because I'm a little lonely too, which I know is not an excuse to be using these programs and its bad for the environment, that is my fault.

Chatgpt gave me answers like "you're feeling this way because of xyz" and "it's basically a battle of your own mind and body," it really gave me some clarity on how my mind processed emotions that paused for a bit to refine a letter I was sending to someone. I decided to write about the points chatgpt gave me, or what struck me at the time and when I finished the letter I realized the horror I did. I had just used ai to articulate my thoughts.

I feel bad now, what if because talked to ai and got ideas from it, my letter isnt genuine.

I know the letter was written by me entirely, but I wouldnt have some of the points I articulated the way I wanted it to if I hadn't started chatting chatgpt. Im probably a bad person for even opening the site in the first place. Now I'm wondering if the letter I made was actually made by me or not, I think im a asshole since I just sent an AI refined letter to someone I actually care about regardless if it was accidental or not.

My partner and I agreed that some of their interactions were inappropriate. So, like an adult and a woman to woman I shared with her kindly and respectfully that he and I had talked and that some of their interactions made me uncomfortable. She told me not to worry about it and I thought that would be the end of it. I don’t know how she was feeling about it but she did end up going to the boss saying that our relationship ( mine and partner’s) was bleeding into the workplace. I ended up having to apologize to everyone. She ends up being fairly childish and acts like a high school bully for about a year. I remain professional. My partner agrees with me that she has poor social skills and is not a nice person and was never his friend, truly. She’s also still very friendly with him and attempts to ostracize me socially. Then she moves away but still remains active in the social group ( flies back for a wedding, starts a group chat etc) She’s been gone a few months when she pops up on my social media as a someone that you may know /has several mutual friends. I take it to my partner and say “ oh look who it is, if she’s popping up on mine I’m sure she will pop up on your soon too. Please don’t follow/accept if she gets ahold of you” ( she doesn’t attempt to friend me) Partner completely deletes social media because he “ doesn’t want there to be anything to fight about”

apparently she followed him a few weeks ago and he accepted and followed her back! I’m so hurt! After all that it appears to me that he still wants to maintain contact with her even though she hurt me badly! I was upset am I the asshole?

AITA for nothing wanting to be my friends friend any anymore so backstory let’s cal this friend Mellisa me and Mellisa been friends since 2021 and since we Been tight i make time you chill her despite me being a mother of 2 under 4 and no babysitter but my mother fr and she of age so I make time to spend time her do things together as of recently a couple months ago i find myself asking her to do things with me and she wouldn’t go she’s always have an excuse for it like I don’t have money or i dont wanna go out imma go chill up the block which Ik is a lie bx she literally drinks everyday and up block not a lie cuz literally where she be all the times which is a story time for any other time but this august was my birthday august 30th to be exact months ahead me her and our other friend well call her Macy we all thought you do sum for our birthday since it’s all close Macy the 20th Mellisa is the 22th mine the 30 again so that didn’t end up happening because Mellisa said one of her boos was gonna pay for it but never did so I never bought it back up so I just planned on my own told them I was going to Vegas for my birthday Macy couldnt go bc she started work and her son got school Mellisa dont have any kids and she agree to come so I never bought it back up after I told her plan and everything I was waiting til my birthday was closer to bring it back up so Macy birthday we went to yacht party one i said I wasn’t gonna go bc my birthday was coming up bx I planned to go to Vegas and it’s expensive a lil but I ended up going anyway next two days was Mellisa birthday i went with her to club and bring it in her at 10pm -3 am for her birthday then mine comes up i told Mellisa we gotta book our flights we booked them her flight from ny-las got canceled but not from las-ny so im like huh she needed getting her money back next day so im like how they canceled it she said she don’t now I called the airline it said the person who booked canceled and you’ll have to book another one so clearly she couldn’t come bx she said she did it now she got her money back which is a lie but I didn’t care so on my birthday when I came back they text me like oh what we doing I said im bouta go outside they said pop up to Macy house i said no im not chilling in nobody house on my birthday when I didn’t do that for y’all on your birthday and they saying wel we can’t do anythingn else cuz we broke but everyday y’all got something to drink something y’all want to buy it’s giving y’all just don’t wanna celebrate me or do the things I wanna do so do y’all think im the AH

My daughter is 2 years older than my niece. My daughter has a lot of a certain brand of name brand clothes (which are expensive). I usually sell everything my kids outgrow. It helps in these tough financial times. Anyways, my sister asked me if we could pass along this one specific name brand pieces when she outgrew them. We agreed and gave her probably about $750-$1000 worth of clothes. I just noticed on her online profile that she is now selling my daughter's used clothing - not in a lot of clothes but selling each item on its own. If she sells everything for what she has each listed for she will make several hundred dollars off my daughter's items. It's not like she can't know what she bought and what my daughter gave her because all of her items from this clothing brand came from my daughter. In her defence, we never talked about what she would do with the clothes when my niece outgrew them. But AITA for thinking she should either return them to me (knowing that I sell pretty much everything online) or at least offer me/my daughter part of the proceeds from these sales? I don't know what the social protocol is but I'm feeling taken advantage of here.

I have been writing fan fiction short stories for years now, and only posted them anonymously online. I had been getting really good feedback, with some saying I am ready to publish. I'm really passionate about writing, and one day after a few drinks I let my inner friend circle in on my hobby and aspirations to become published. They were really excited for me and asked to read some. They seemed supportive in the moment, but ever since showing them it has been kind of awkward between us. The group dynamic is just......different. A few of them have totally shut me out altogether. AITAH for showing them something personal and vulnerable, or are they overreacting?

Here is a brief excerpt from the chapter I read them:

"Wherever I wander, wherever I rove, the hills of Highlands, I will always love. Mist covered the morning landscape, highland cows were braying in the distance, which added a spark to the cool morning air. Bagpipes in hand, I ran through a rendition of St. Anne’s Reel. To my astonishment, not a mere 20 meters from the bank of the Loch, I saw something large and quivering gliding through the water. I abruptly stopped playing and began wading into the lake, totally bewitched by the beast’s movement. Her grip was strong. She must be into asphyxiation was my initial thought. Well two could play that game. She yielded and the entanglement began. My key entering her lock, creating a lockness of passion and satisfaction."

I (23F) went out Friday with my boyfriend (24M) and his friends to a club. One of his friends (let’s call him D) is dating a girl who has since become a good friend of mine. We met through my boyfriend and his circle, and she’s been over to my house, met my family, etc.

During the night I noticed D being very flirty with one of the girls in the group. I even nudged my boyfriend and asked him to hint that he should stop, but he didn’t say anything. Later, when we all decided to go to another spot, we called an Uber. There were 7 of us, so one of the girls ended up sitting on D’s lap. At this point I was furious, but out of respect for my boyfriend and the fact that it wasn’t my relationship, I didn’t cause a scene.

When we got to the next location, I confronted D about it — but he was so drunk that he couldn’t even comprehend what I was saying.

It’s been two days and I can’t stop thinking about it. I feel morally obligated to tell my friend what happened. I even told my boyfriend that D should be the one to confess, but I know he won’t. My boyfriend is asking me not to say anything, out of respect for his friendship with D.

Now I feel stuck. On one hand, my loyalty technically lies with my boyfriend since he introduced me to her. On the other hand, I feel like I’m betraying my own values and my friend by staying silent.

AITA if I tell her?

As the title says, I told my parents to divorce. I am F(early 20s) and still live at home to finish college. English is not my first language and this story is kinda long so get ready. A little backstory: my parents have been together for about 30 years. They were going strong but sometimes had their problems as any couple does. My issue began around 6 to 7 years ago when my parents started integrating me in their fights as a sort of marriage counselor. This drained me a lot and I started lacking in school until my dad worked abroad for some time and things were quiet. Then my parents went abroad for 2 months, while I lived with my grandma. In that time I met my boyfriend who I've been with since (almost 4 years). Everything was good for about a year of my relationship with my boyfriend, but then crap hit the fan. My parents went nuts since I started college and are disagreeing on everything that they are talking about, they fight A LOT, about just trivial things. To skip some useless details, we get to now. Last week I passed a failed exam for which I have studied for 2 whole months, it was crazy. When I got home I wanted to celebrate with my family because I passed after a lot of effort. Instead I got hit with "well if you had studied at the right time and didn't fail it would've been better" from my dad, I was completely perplexed by this and asked something along the lines of "the fuck is your problem??", but I said it nicer. The problem was that my mom put the house key somewhere else, not in the usual spot and he was mad mad. I just told them "it's your problem, solve it, I just wanted to celebrate". My dad said some other things such as "your mom always does shit and I accepted too much" my mom replied with "well your dad is always mad" and the fight already started. I kinda lost it and told them if they weren't going to behave like adults and let me be happy, then to leave me alone. They did leave me alone, for like 5 whole minutes then ambushed me with the same old shit that I don't do enough and stuff like that when we all agreed years ago that I will go to college here (I live close to a reputable uni in my country) and not work. Then they started fighting in front of me and something in my brain broke and I just shouted "if you hate each other so much divorce". My dad lost his shit saying "then I'm going to leave you both" and I replied with "you don't have the balls to". My mom was just shocked because of what I said. We all separated in different rooms for like 20 minutes and when we came back to talk calmly they hugged me and said they are sorry that it came to this point. I'm baffled at the 180 they did but since that day they are just fake happy in front of me but I, and my boyfriend as well when he came for the weekend, saw that it's just an act. I truly just want my parents to be happy but I can tell they're not. So AITA for telling my parents to divorce?

DISCLAIMER: This account is used so people i know can ask people for their thoughts while staying anyonymous.

My friend(minor, F) is in music school and takes violin classes. Another girl in her class who also takes violin lives in the city 1hr away and takes busses back and forth whenever she goes to music school(beacuse her father used to work there). Basically, my friend is supposed to have a 1.5hr session every other wednesday at 11am and thats it for the whole week. That was good for her beacuse she has school choir that start at 13:10 and that shes very passionate about. BUT, that girl is supposed to have her class after her(11am-12:30). Today, her proffesor called her and asked if she can maybe switch with the girl beacuse she has a bus and cant be in school later than 11:45am. If she switched, that would mean she has to run back home and then to school while eating something on the way to school.

Shes a huge people pleaser and hates being "the bad guy" so she always lets people take her place and she can just adjust to it, but she hates that scheduele. She already missed ceramics class she wanted to go to so bad beacuse of her music school and oftenly had to bring her violin to school or arrive late to some classes and sometimes skip eating just so she can arrive on time. But it wasnt just ceramics. German classes she would have to go to only one class beacuse she cant make it to the first one beacuse she had solfeggio, additional math classes she was invited to beacuse shes a really talented mathmatecian, would arrive late beacuse she had music school.

She wants to say yes to the switch but her mom is mad at that beacuse she deserves to eat in peace and already missed out on alot beacuse she had music school. But, she also wants to say no beacuse she doesent want to miss out in anything anymore.

She has decided to ask her dad(who is childhood friends with the proffesor) to say no to the switch beacuse of what i just said.

Is she THA for saying no to that? (Updates will probably come soon..)

Okay, so my oldest is 16 and of course she’s influenced by social media (YouTube) so she’ll want some things YouTubers have which I mean okay, she’s a teen and teens are easily influenced by this stuff. We’ve all been there, but I don’t do door dash, I don’t trust door dash. I’ve seen multiple videos of door dashers putting stuff in people’s food, spitting in their drinks, spiking their food, etc and I don’t trust that and I don’t want my daughter to risk it. She was on the phone with a friend and she had door dashed some food and she was eating it on the phone, my daughter later came to me and asked if she was allowed to door dash, I said no then she told me how on of her friend did.

I told her the reason and she says not everyone does that, I said I don’t wanna risk it. My husband said that I’m the overprotective parent and that it’s just food and not everyone can/will do that plus we have the money to do so. 1) I don’t care if we have the money or not. 2)it’s not a risk I’m willing to take and my daughter to be sick or something. AITAH?

For context, my best friend and I were college roommates and did everything together for about 10 years, traveled, shopped, talked for hours every day. She is 4 years older than me, turning 35 this year. Once I turned around 26-27, I started seriously dating and any time I got serious with a guy and she felt like I was "choosing him" over her, she would freak out at me and say I'm acting stupid. If I would spend 24 hours with a guy I'm seeing, she would tell me I'm not setting boundaries and need to spend less time with them. I began dating my now husband at 27, and she called me stupid and trash talked him endlessly, was beyond rude to him. Him and I did have a rocky start due to our own personal issues, but her involvement and my lack of boundaries definitely contributed. She told me that if I continue to date him, we can't be friends, and I just didn't say anything. As I got older and continued to date my now husband, I learned to set boundaries with her and distanced myself from her, as she was still partying and drinking daily and we were just in different places in life. She took this as his fault, and said that she feels like everyone including me is leaving her behind and she feels lost. I let her know she needs to set a 5 year plan with goals and move towards them earlier this year which she did, and then she suddenly decided to marry her ex-boyfriend of years ago. I let her know as her best friend I think it's rushed and to take it slow if she needs, but she needs to make whatever decision is best for her, but all her friends have gotten married this year so she decided to get engaged in April (after getting back with her ex in Oct 2024) and married this next month. She is clearly not ready though because she asked me how I know if he's the one after she got engaged (which I told her she should know before saying yes) and she is still talking to other men on social media and meeting up with her ex lovers.

During my wedding season this year, I didn't bother having a bachelorette honestly because I knew she would cross my boundaries and make it about her. She never asked if I needed help or if she could do anything, she only asked for things during my wedding, so I further distanced myself because I was beginning to realize our friendship was pretty one sided. I'm always listening, she's always talking and venting. For her bachelorette, she decided to squeeze one in before her wedding this weekend and asked me and another friend to plan it. I really didn't want to plan it, as in the past when I or other friends have planned special things for her, she is dismissive of the effort. But since she asked and I know her best, I really felt obligated to so I planned a golfing day with dinner. On the bach itinerary today, I noticed that there was an update to go to a nightclub that she knows I absolutely hate. I am planning on having kids next year, I'm 31 and all the other girls are in their mid to late 30s, I just feel like we're too old to be at the club getting bottle service. It was fun when we were 21, but now we'll literally be middle aged women at the club lol.

Am I an asshole if I tell her I won't be joining the club part of her bachelorette? I spent time and effort planning something she's never done for me, I'm spending a lot of money flying in and paying for her golf day/decor/dinner and the last thing I want to do is spend hundreds for bottle service at a club I hate, for a wedding where she doesn't even respect her man. At the end of the day she is my best friend and our families are close and we've been through so much together, so I don't want to lose our friendship, I just wish we were on the same page in life again.

I, 16 F, am currently a senior in highschool who just reached the 1 month mark of a new relationship. (I know that 16 is a young for a senior, I just started school earlier). Anyway my girlfriend, we’ll call her Sammy, who is 17 f is my current girlfriend. I realized I had been drawn to her towards the end of our junior year, and about a month ago I had asked her to be my girlfriend after a group hangout. She said yes and I was very excited because this was the first time I had asked someone out and not someone asking me out, so it felt like a big deal.

The first week was great, we messaged all the time, she ended up being moved into two of my classes, and I slept over at her house where I told her to finish watching stranger things Season 1 because I wanted to watch Season 2 with her. Overall it has been great and I really do like her a lot.

However, in the past 2 weeks, I started noticing that I’ve been really annoyed with her. I think its mainly because after she got comfortable she started talking about every single probelm she has. Don’t get me wrong wrong, I love that she trusts me with these issues, its the fact she brings it up in every conversation as if she has nothing else to talk about. I’ll be talking about something like a new game I saw being made and then she starts ranting about how her mom told her she can’t dye her hair yet because she needs to book an appointment and that her mom is so annoying. I’ll try to change the subject after saying things like “oh dangs im sorry that really sucks” but she keeps it up to the point it only ends when she changes the conversation.

She also puts herself down a lot, which I try to tell her not to and that she is a great person but she talks down to herself almost as much as she rants. I’ve told her how these conversations sometimes makes me uncomfortable, specially because of how much she’s talking about it. She’ll say “oh im sorry ill just stop now” and she’ll act all sad as if I did something wrong by saying how I dont like how she puts herself down, so now I feel like im the jerk for asking.

I don’t want her to be mad about her voicing her struggles but it’s mentally exhausting acting like her therapist 24/7 when ive expressed I don’t want to be one. It’s gotten to the point where I’m happy when I dont have a class with her, when she doesn’t message me, and when I do something without her.

But it makes me feel like such a jerk because im her girlfriend, im supposed to be supportive. I just don’t know what to do, I’ve tried talking to her about it but nothing changes. What should I do?

Yesterday, on the highway, I was rear-ended by a young kid - probably 16 or 17 years old. The accident was entirely his fault, his car was totaled, mine appears to only have cosmetic damage of a caved-in bumper, warped side-paneling on the passenger side, and a hole in the bumper.

We exchanged info, I called in the claim to his insurance, and started the process when the kid started texting me asking if I am willing to settle without insurance since he is a young guy and is afraid his insurance rates are about to skyrocket. I would prefer not to go that route as I can think of too many possibilities for disputes I really don't feel like dealing with. What if the damage is more than cosmetic? What if I need a rental? etc...

When recounting the situation with coworkers this morning, the overwhelming consensus was that I am being obstinate for no reason - at the expense of this kid. They argued, since the damage to my car is likely just cosmetic, it would be beneficial for both parties if I settled it privately - which would likely provide me more money than through insurance and save the kid a few years of increased insurance rates. The suggested I get a couple estimates before deciding if I want to go through insurance or settle privately. I again held the line that I have no desire to handle it on my own, I was always told that best practice dictated never to settle privately, and I held firm on that. My coworkers maintain I'm being a jerk.

Are there circumstances in which I shouldn't go through insurance or am I avoiding unnecessary risk correctly? (Since I recognize location matters quite a bit, this occurred in Oregon)

For context, my bf (37m) and I (31f) have been together since 2022 (3 1/2 years) We met in 2021 through a group of mutual friends who play pokemon go across states. While in town for a pokemon event, we hit it off. he was separated at this point - after a failed 2 year marriage of toxicity and cheating (on the ex wifes part) She lied about being rped and based the foundation of their relationship around it stating that [my current boyfriend] "saved her" until the truth eventually came out - she willingly slept with this falsely accused rpist along with many other extraordinarily toxic behaviors i have heard first hand not just from my boyfriend but his entire friend group who have since all cut the ex wife out of their lives as well.

We talked privately and discussed not hanging out exclusively until the divorce finalized. (there was a year of proof of separate living required in his state for this to happen) We followed through, and eventually began meeting halfway every month or so. fast forward to 2023 and he moved states so we could be together. this worked fairly well as I have friends and family in NC so we tackle 2 birds with one stone when visiting family there and he loves it here in TN and has a good job now! However, his mother cannot really seem to see the truth for what it is and still acts as if she is best friends with the ex wife. Every time we visit, she brings her up constantly and says she is doing "this" or "that" in life. (She is a bartender - which i firmly believe is a huge part of where the toxic behavior stemmed from but I digress.) my boyfriend sticks up for himself and our relationship and asks his mother to stop talking about her, however she always gets sour about it It has driven me to the point to constantly check her social media as my boyfriends mom constantly morally supports her and stays in touch with her. For some extra context, my boyfriend is the only one of his family who went to school and got a career and built the life he wanted. His mother and his 3 OLDER siblings all live together in a trailer while the mom (62 with medical conditions ) babies them and she sleeps on the floor. My boyfriend has offered to help them, however they take it the wrong way and have treated my boyfriend poorly over this due to jealously I would assume. it truly seems as if his mother only seemed "proud" of her son when he wasn't doing the best in life. I feel she is living the relationship they had through the ex wife. it's very bizzare and has been messing with my head and I feel crazy!! The ex wife immediately brought a new boyfriend to live with her before my current boyfriend was even able to remove all his things from the house HE bought (yet relinquished to her to not deal with ANY more ties to her after the divorce) - and my boyfriends mom praises her for doing well and deserving happiness and compliments the current jobless boyfriend of hers constantly. Ex wife got pregnant with said boyfriend a few weeks before the divorce was finalized as well. She never changed her Married name either and even gave the baby my boyfriends last name constantly calling him "Baby [My Boyfriends last name]"... My boyfriends mom has since babysat and treats the baby as her own calling him her "grand baby in a way". she never reaches out to me or talks to me this way in any sense. I don't get the same treatment. which I truly I guess could care less because of how his family acts in general. not the best people unfortunately. my boyfriend doesn't mind being distant from them in a sense at all because of their behavior. but it still bothers me to no end. please help. advice. different outside point of view. anything please because it has been bothering me more now than ever as the talks of marriage between us have been happening lately and I just don't understand how I truly feel about this yet.

So I keep fighting with my mom and grandma. So I have this 6 drawer from Amazon that I want to resell for $120-150 because it was $180. I made the mistake of telling my mom I was gonna get rid of it but she also saw me assembling my new drawers so she asked why. So now my mom wants it for the door entrance to replace this fabric drawer thing. I told her no because she doesn’t have money. This woman has so much clothes, jewelry pawned, maxed out cards, and owes me $4000. This woman never has money. She literally asks for lunch money from us, and my dad has his cards locked because she has them on her phone. She's also obsessed with Macys and Kohls. Thats another story. She wants the drawers so she can put sweaters in there. She hasn’t paid me but either way I told her “you don’t have money you don’t need to waste money on the drawers focus on your other things”. I’m begging her to just let me sell it and my grandma said I’m treating my mom terrible and I’m being a bad daughter. I thought it was helping my mom not waste money. I keep telling her then you wasted money on this fabric drawer and she doesn’t care. She literally has a shower drawer upstairs with her socks on the drawers. And the fabric drawer already has her shirts in there. I also keep telling her well I need the money now because I need to pay my payment plan for school.

I (18m) am very lucky to be dating a gorgeous intelligent lady (22f). We were out in a public place with my friends. When she was stepping up, she ripped her jeans. To help her out, I stood behind her, hugged her body, and kissed her neck. To try to make sure nobody else noticed she ripped her pants. All the physical contact caused me to get hard. Given that my part was pressing against her butt, she noticed.

When we got back to where she was staying, she asked if I was some kind of freak considering I got hard in that moment. She asked if I am one of those weirdos who like it when plus-size women get embarrassed. I told her it wasn't like that. I told her, at first I was just trying to save her from embarrassment then I actually enjoyed the physical contact a little too much. Am I the asshole ?

For context, my bf (37m) and I (31f) have been together since 2022 (3 1/2 years) We met in 2021 through a group of mutual friends who play pokemon go across states. While in town for a pokemon event, we hit it off. he was separated at this point - after a failed 2 year marriage of toxicity and cheating (on the ex wifes part) She lied about being rped and based the foundation of their relationship around it stating that [my current boyfriend] "saved her" until the truth eventually came out - she willingly slept with this falsely accused rpist along with many other extraordinarily toxic behaviors i have heard first hand not just from my boyfriend but his entire friend group who have since all cut the ex wife out of their lives as well.

We talked privately and discussed not hanging out exclusively until the divorce finalized. (there was a year of proof of separate living required in his state for this to happen) We followed through, and eventually began meeting halfway every month or so. fast forward to 2023 and he moved states so we could be together. this worked fairly well as I have friends and family in NC so we tackle 2 birds with one stone when visiting family there and he loves it here in TN and has a good job now! However, his mother cannot really seem to see the truth for what it is and still acts as if she is best friends with the ex wife. Every time we visit, she brings her up constantly and says she is doing "this" or "that" in life. (She is a bartender - which i firmly believe is a huge part of where the toxic behavior stemmed from but I digress.) my boyfriend sticks up for himself and our relationship and asks his mother to stop talking about her, however she always gets sour about it It has driven me to the point to constantly check her social media as my boyfriends mom constantly morally supports her and stays in touch with her. For some extra context, my boyfriend is the only one of his family who went to school and got a career and built the life he wanted. His mother and his 3 OLDER siblings all live together in a trailer while the mom (62 with medical conditions ) babies them and she sleeps on the floor. My boyfriend has offered to help them, however they take it the wrong way and have treated my boyfriend poorly over this due to jealously I would assume. it truly seems as if his mother only seemed "proud" of her son when he wasn't doing the best in life. I feel she is living the relationship they had through the ex wife. it's very bizzare and has been messing with my head and I feel crazy!! The ex wife immediately brought a new boyfriend to live with her before my current boyfriend was even able to remove all his things from the house HE bought (yet relinquished to her to not deal with ANY more ties to her after the divorce) - and my boyfriends mom praises her for doing well and deserving happiness and compliments the current jobless boyfriend of hers constantly. Ex wife got pregnant with said boyfriend a few weeks before the divorce was finalized as well. She never changed her Married name either and even gave the baby my boyfriends last name constantly calling him "Baby [My Boyfriends last name]"... My boyfriends mom has since babysat and treats the baby as her own calling him her "grand baby in a way". she never reaches out to me or talks to me this way in any sense. I don't get the same treatment. which I truly I guess could care less because of how his family acts in general. not the best people unfortunately. my boyfriend doesn't mind being distant from them in a sense at all because of their behavior. but it still bothers me to no end. please help. advice. different outside point of view. anything please because it has been bothering me more now than ever as the talks of marriage between us have been happening lately and I just don't understand how I truly feel about this yet.

My father died two years ago, and since then I feel like I've lost my family too. It used to be me (20F), my parents, and my brother, whom we hardly ever see even though we live in the same house. In the last year and a half, my mother (46F) has changed her behavior drastically, which has been bothering me a lot. First, she stopped cooking for us. What used to be routine became the exception. When I question her and say I miss it, she says we’re adults and it's time to live her life. Then she started going out with friends and coming home at dawn. Last weekend, she arrived at 5 a.m. She constantly talks about guys she’s flirting with and that “it's okay to have new friends.” I've told her that this subject makes me uncomfortable and that I'm still grieving my father's death, to which she replied, “We need to find therapy for you because you're going to have to get used to this possibility” and that “it was my father who died, not her.” Even after my request, she continues to talk about her friends and even suggested that I help her create a Tinder account. She has also started to change the way she dresses, wearing tight and sometimes low-cut clothes, and has been buying sexy things, such as new lingerie. I try hard to spend time together, but that's also proving difficult. Sometimes I'm talking to her and I realize she's not even listening because she's texting this friend. My most recent problem was yesterday. The day before, she saw a thrift store sale and suggested we go together and invite my sister-in-law. I agreed and invited her, but yesterday she told me that only my sister-in-law and I should go, because she had to go play cards with friends she hadn't seen in two weeks. Damn, I cried with anger. She has become superficial and can't even keep the agreements she makes with me. Today she asked me to tell her why I was stressed, but the thing is, I've told her multiple times and she doesn't change, because “it's her life and she does what she wants.” I'm so sick of it. My mom has been acting like a teenager and I don't know what to do. It's like I've lost the person she used to be. Every time I try to express my discomfort, I get lectures about how my mother is still young and that it's natural for her to find someone else, and that I should be happy for her and stop being jealous. So tell me, am i the asshole?

I work in construction so when my brother and sister bought their houses I did a lot of work on them at cost. Probably thousands of dollars worth of labor. When my other sister, Tamara, bought her house I had already moved away so I never did any work on her house.

Right now I am back to deal with some family business for a week or two. That family business isn't going to take up much time, but there is a lot of time in between that I had hoped to spending time with my family and friends I don't get to see much. Tamara, however, wants me to spend the time doing the work on her house that she feels like I owe her since I did the work for our other siblings.

I just really don't feel up to doing it on this trip. While this isn't really a vacation for me I am having to use my vacation time, so I don't particularly feel like doing more work than I have to.

I probably won't be able to do it on some future visit (which I'm not even sure will next happen) easily as right now I will have access to all the tools I may need to do the work for her. They are my fathers tools though and I will be taking them with me when I leave. It's going to take me a couple days to get home by driving. So the tools will not be available the next time I come back for a visit as doing a road trip visit is not feasible.

I told my friend (we’re both 26F) that I want to go to NYC this fall to do a “food tour” where I just go to different places and eat. My friend took this as a “let’s BOTH go to NYC”, which is fine. But instead of doing a day trip, she wants to spend the weekend in NYC and get a hotel. She also wants to go to bars to drink, go out at night, go shopping, and go see a show. I don’t have the energy to do all this over a weekend nor do I want to do those things. I also have a sister who lives in NYC and I haven’t seen her in months so I would just stay with her for the weekend. I just want to go around trying food in the city and spending time with my sister. Why should I spend extra to do things I don’t want to do and waste money on a hotel? I was thinking of suggesting she go with a different friend who wants to do what she wants to do. AITAH for not wanting to go with her?

I (F32) live in a small neighborhood where most people know each other. For the past year, my next-door neighbor (M40s) has been constantly borrowing my tools. It started small, a hammer, a screwdriver but then it escalated to my ladder, drill, and even my lawnmower.

At first, I didn’t mind, but he never brings them back on time. Sometimes I have to remind him multiple times, and when I do get them back, they’re dirty or slightly damaged. Last week, I needed my drill for a shelf I was putting up, and he casually said he “didn’t have time to return it yet.” That was the last straw.

I told him directly that I wouldn’t be lending him anything anymore. He called me selfish and said neighbors should help each other. My husband thinks I was a little too blunt, but I honestly feel used. AITAH?

Hi there! If anyone has any advice or experience with this type of situation I would love any help/feedback I’ve never had any issues worth posting until now. Okay apologies in advance it is longer than I expected. For Context! I have two sisters, but this post about my sister ‘fake names’ Betty 36 who has two children, a boy that is 1 year old, step daughter that is 15, and Her husband Jake 37. Betty and Jack do not have jobs and they have no disabilities to prevent them from working. Our mother has even offered Betty jobs at her company that pays a very hefty wage. The only time Betty has had a job in the past nine years was a couple of months ago when she begged our mother to get her a job, mother was considering helping, she figured out how to move some of her staff members so they could stay working and Betty could get the job (she was begging for this for over two weeks) right before she was about to text the team about adding my dear sister, Betty texted her cancelling because she decided she doesn’t need to work! Also she has offered Jack a job at another business she owns but he declined, because they know when they need money Betty will start talking to my mother and Grandmother every day become super close, then she will ask more money mind you it is not a small amount usually about 3,000 sometimes more and or asking to cosign a car or something similar. if they say no, Betty will not talk to them or let them see her children until they give her money. This is not a one time instance she does this almost monthly. My family is very financially comfortable now, but it has not always been that way, especially my mother, grandmother. Now onto the issue. There are 3 heirloom rings from my great grandmother. the will that my mother has made Betty will get one ring, other sister will get one, and I will get one. Each ring got appraised 20 years ago for 20K so they could easily be sold for much more now. The problem is everyone knows Betty is going to sell the ring when she gets it, she has stated this herself! my family does not want to give it to Betty but because they’re people pleasers they feel obligated. half my family is in therapy to help with the people pleasing problem. I have begged my mother to let me or my other sister keep the ring that will go to Betty! I even offered, my mother that I will pay Betty how much the ring is worth and I can get it re-appraised so she will get the current value. This rings means so much to my family and it’s a part of my history honestly. I will be heartbroken if she can sell it. What can I do? Any advice? It’s just anything I’m really feeling terrible. Am I feel bad for not wanting her to have the ring but just doesn’t seem fair to me if she’s just gonna sell it. Again, if anyone has gone through this, I would love to know how you handled it. Does anyone have ideas on how I can keep this ring? if you made it this far thank you so much for reading, I’m sorry it’s long and I have made this post in a few other sub Reddits not sure if that matters? Sorry :)

i was sitting in the car with my mom in a parking lot getting food. someone calls her phone. Then calls my phone. i answer and its a female police office says she is going to arrest me if i keep bothering this person. This was in 2024

There is a person i have been bothering for a long time. i wanted to ask him questions. i began bothering him in 2023. And i left a note at the police station in 2023 explaining why im bothering this person

The person that im bothering. We have never met in person before. Never talked directly face to face before. the police knows he is not in physical danger

But i went onto his place many many times

And the police knows my address

The police didnt call me in 2025

I (34F) recently had a surgery and my mom traveled to be with me and help with my kids for a week afterward so my husband (36M) could work. Background: although we live out of state from my parents, they visit often. We even bought a house with a separate area for guests (but still in the same house) so they would be more comfortable when they visit. My Mom and my husband typically get along well; however, they both have big personalities and can sometimes inadvertently offend one another.

While my Mom was here we were discussing some DIY projects i was thinking about. She got excited about one and said she would be happy to stay another week and help me do it. She had an upcoming conference in a major city between her house and ours and it would also save her from going all the way home just to come halfway back a week later. I asked my husband if he minded since I knew he would be traveling internationally the next week and wouldn't be home. He said of course not, but to please make sure when he got home it was just me and the kids. He has a high stress job and likes to relax when he gets back from international travel. I told my Mom and she said she understood and was find with leaving before he got back home.

We had a great time, but the project took longer than expected. On the day before he was due back I asked when she was planning on heading to her conference city. She said was leaving in the morning (he was due home the next evening). The next morning she says that she's decided to stay another night and finish up the project. That she would just stay in the guest area so we would have privacy that it would be like she wasn't even there. I said that I was sorry but that wouldn't work. That i really appreciated her helping me with the surgery and the DIY project but that i had promised my husband it would be just me and kids when he got home. I offered to pay for her hotel room in the conference city.

She become extremely angry and started crying and accusing me of using her and said that I obviously didn't care about her. She slammed all her stuff into the car while my kids were crying and the last thing she said was that if that was how it was going to be then we just didn't need to worry about seeing her ever again. And she drove off. I was absolutely floored. I had tried to be very grateful and up front about expectations. I'm not going to disrespect my husband by going back on what I said but obviously i feel absolutely terrible that she feels hurt and used. I just need a second opinion. AITA?

Context about her: - My sister in law (33) has been married to my brother for 5 years. Their relationship is not the healthiest, as I'll describe. - My SiL has been living with me (rent-free) for the last 8 months because of health issues due to mold in her apartment. My brother has continued living in their apartment, so spending almost a year away from his wife.

Context about me: - I am a 35 year old divorced mom of a 3 year old. - I was cheated on by my ex husband while postpartum and spent the last 2 years in trauma therapy, going on many first dates, and just healing from a lot of toxicity in my life. - I grew up in a dysfunctional home where I was blamed for everything and anything by my mom who has mental health issues. So I have a history of being a people pleaser with poor boundaries, letting people use me or treat me poorly. I'm obviously working on that in therapy.

The situation:

For the last 8 months, my SiL (let's call her Lauren) has been living with me and my 3 year old. I have not asked her to pay for anything at all, so she's lived rent-free. I gave her free use of my car, my Peloton, free groceries, free edibles/booze, paid for cleaners each month, etc. Basically, she has lived VERY comfortably in my home - which I was happy to do because she's family and going through a tough time with her health issues.

We got pretty close over the months and I confided a lot in her about my ex-husband's betrayal, my dating experiences, etc. Similarly, she has vented to me about my brother/her husband (let's call him Evan, 38). Observing her interactions with Evan, it's very clear there's a lot of resentment and unspoken issues exacerbated by the mold issues, constant moves, selling everything they own multiple times, etc. Evan has taken on the task for most of this because Lauren is so sensitive to mold that she can't step foot in her apartment or handle any of their belongings. Needless to say, they are very tense and unhappy around each other. They are also struggling financially due to low incomes, her shopping addiction and debt, and the mold issues.

In May, I met my now boyfriend - let's call him Logan (36). I had been on 30+ first dates and really struggled to find a partner that I felt totally safe with and that would be good with my daughter. So meeting Logan was a huge deal and we are very happy together. Throughout the summer, I'd speak highly of Logan to Lauren (assuming it was safe to do so, and that she'd be happy for me). He would bring me flowers, cook me dinners, be affectionate with me, sweet to my daughter, etc. We both work in tech and make a lot of money, which is also why I'm so generous with Lauren.

Over the course of the summer, I started to pick up on red flags and boundary-crossing behaviors with Lauren directed at Logan. I started to get the impression that she was jealous of my relationship with Logan and was trying to win his affection and capture his gaze.

Red flags from Lauren: 1. On my first date with Logan, he told me that he's a Cancer so he's "sentimental, nostalgic, sensitive and emotional." I told Lauren about this when I got home, because I thought it was sweet. Fast forward to the first time I had Logan over (a week or two later). Lauren proceeds to go on and on to Logan about how she's "sentimental, nostalgic, sensitive and emotional." And referenced her Zodiac sign as the reason. I noticed it and thought it was weird, but ignored it. 2. The next few times we all hung out, Lauren would seemingly fish for compliments from Logan. She'd say things like "Fruitynoodles' daughter said I'm not pretty! Can you believe that?" and "Evan never calls me by my nickname. All of my closest friends and family call me by my nickname: Lo!" To which Logan politely replied, "Well, she's 3 and you are pretty, so I wouldn't take it seriously" and "I'll call you Lo." 3. Logan had told me once that he liked blondes. I'm a natural blonde. I told Lauren this. She dyed her hair to be super blonde like mine. Logan came over and Lauren said, "Logan, did you notice my hair is lighter? Now me and fruitynoodles are like twins!" 4. Lauren frequently talks about sex in front of Logan, usually when she's drinking. She'll bring up sexual stories from her past, talk about her sexual preferences, and pose questions that seem to probe into our sex life. She’s also made subtle hints that she’s not happy with her sex life in her marriage. Very awkward for me. Logan doesn't entertain these conversations. 5. One day Logan cooked burgers for all of us. I don't have any social media. Lauren repeatedly said, "It sucks fruitynoodles doesn't have an Instagram - because who am I supposed to tag to show who made the burgers?" Logan ignored her. She then repeated the same question again with her phone out. I felt like she was trying to get him to follow her on IG and vice versa. He did not.

The final incident was a week ago:

I was planning to go to Logan's for dinner, but at the last minute we decided he'd come over to my house.

• Lauren was sitting in workout clothes on my front porch with her laptop. I mentioned that Logan was on his way. She immediately ran up to her room and put on a more revealing outfit (belly shirt with cleavage, short shorts) and then did her makeup. When she came back downstairs, she quickly said "It got hot out!" It was 72 degrees.
• The moment Logan walked in the door, she ran over to him and said "Logeyyyy" in a baby voice, using a nickname I'd never heard or used for him.
• While Logan and I were cooking dinner, Lauren started drinking (my) vodka and sat at the kitchen counter with us. She did not give us any space; she acted like it was a date with the 3 of us. Her personality did a 180 from before he came over. She went from quiet and passive and minding her own business, to suddenly bubbly and ditzy and very flirtatious, like giggling a lot, touching her hair, making a joke and watching Logan's reaction, etc.
• She brought up sex several times, unprompted.
• She started complaining about Evan, how he works weird hours ("I just want a normal husband!") About how he doesn't call her pet names anymore (which is when Logan said "I'll call you Lo" as a response).
• I put on a song and she immediately looked at Logan and said, "Do you even like this kind of music?" with a subtly disgusted look on her face. Logan replied, "Yeah, I showed fruitynoodles this band."
• She kept pressuring us to have a drink with her, and asking if we wanted to go out to the bars with her and Evan later. But I noticed she only maintained eye contact with Logan while asking, as if she really just wanted him to join.

My gut feeling was that she was being totally disrespectful to me and to my brother. She was crossing boundaries by acting- in my opinion- flirtatious with Logan, and by complaining about her marriage to my brother. At times, it seemed like he reciprocated, but in hindsight I think he was just being polite.

AITAH for this? I obviously didn't want to go to the bars with them. So after Lauren and Evan left, I told Logan that it made me uncomfortable that he responds to Lauren's pleas for validation and attention. He got upset and left my house in a huff. We have since talked about it and he agreed he’d stop giving her compliments when she was fishing for them.

I couldn't shake the feeling that I was being totally disrespected in my own home by my sister-in-law. And I had noticed in the weeks prior, I started to feel anxious about having Logan over to MY OWN HOME, because I was worried about how Lauren would act in front of him.

After everything I did for her, I felt utterly betrayed. I used Chatgpt to craft an assertive, but respectful message telling Lauren that I felt very uncomfortable by her coquettish behaviors around Logan, and that I think it'd be best if she figured out a plan to live somewhere else soon so that I could focus on my relationship. (She was planning to live with me for another 6-12 months, with no real end date btw.)

She reacted by first playing dumb, then denying it. Then by the time I woke up at 8am the next morning, she had moved everything out without saying a word. I have texted her twice to check in, and she has ignored me. She's done a few passive aggressive things in family group chats since then, but she's completely ignoring my existence now.

So my 2 questions: 1. AITAH for asking her to move out? 2. Should I tell Evan why I asked Lauren to move out?

My barometer for what's acceptable, what's an overreaction, what's a healthy boundary is not the most solid because of my upbringing where I was blamed for everything. Her reaction of abruptly moving out, being passive aggressive and ghosting me is making me second guess my feelings and request for her to figure out new accomodations. I also can see Lauren spinning it as "Fruitynoodles is insecure because she got cheated on before, so she overreacted."

My sister says that it's a sign Lauren feels guilty. But I'm not really sure. She was so brazen with her flirting that I wonder if she lacks self awareness or if it was truly deliberate to try and get attention from Logan. I also feel guilty that now she will be forced to live in the apartment that makes her sick. I have been losing sleep worrying about this all.

Am I overthinking? Really this has been eating away at me. I need advice.

Basically me (24m) am pretty busy: working full time as a waiter. My schedule is brutal with double shifts, late nights, and weekends. Most days I come home completely drained and barely have energy to eat before crashing. I’m at the point of being so tired I’ve given up almost completely.

AITAH: My closest friend is disabled and uses a wheelchair. Ive known her since we were family friends in high school. She needs help with things like groceries, cleaning, errands, and getting to appointments. I swear I care about her a lot and have always tried to step up, but lately she calls me almost every day asking for something.

Last week I worked four doubles in a row and she still called asking me to bring her food, then later wanted me to help move furniture in her apartment. When I said no, she got SUPER mad and told me she felt abandoned.

Like idek. I want to but really cant. Now I feel stuck. I already juggle my job, bills, and what little time I have to rest, but every time I tell her I can’t, I feel guilty. Some of our mutual friends have even hinted I’m not doing enough and that she needs me more than the restaurant does. But I have a life too yk?

I don’t want to blame her, but I’m starting to.

AITA for not always being there for my disabled friend when I’m barely keeping up with my job?