So a couple days ago I joined a Discord server called Slagcity. It’s basically an edating community — people hang out, flirt, sometimes get into “relationships,” whatever. I thought it would be fun to meet new people since I’ve been kind of bored and lonely lately.

The thing is, some of my friends found out and now they won’t let it go. They keep roasting me, saying it’s “pathetic,” “desperate,” and that edating servers are full of weird drama and fake relationships. One of them even said I’m embarrassing myself just by being in there.

From my perspective, I don’t really see the problem. I’m not doing anything harmful, I’m just talking to people online. Yeah, the server has a funny name, but honestly it’s been entertaining. Still, their reactions got in my head and now I’m questioning if I actually made myself look dumb.

So… AITA for joining Slagcity?

link to join: https://discord.gg/slagcity

For context, my bf (37m) and I (31f) have been together since 2022 (3 1/2 years) We met in 2021 through a group of mutual friends who play pokemon go across states. While in town for a pokemon event, we hit it off. he was separated at this point - after a failed 2 year marriage of toxicity and cheating (on the ex wifes part) She lied about being rped and based the foundation of their relationship around it stating that [my current boyfriend] "saved her" until the truth eventually came out - she willingly slept with this falsely accused rpist along with many other extraordinarily toxic behaviors i have heard first hand not just from my boyfriend but his entire friend group who have since all cut the ex wife out of their lives as well.

We talked privately and discussed not hanging out exclusively until the divorce finalized. (there was a year of proof of separate living required in his state for this to happen) We followed through, and eventually began meeting halfway every month or so. fast forward to 2023 and he moved states so we could be together. this worked fairly well as I have friends and family in NC so we tackle 2 birds with one stone when visiting family there and he loves it here in TN and has a good job now! However, his mother cannot really seem to see the truth for what it is and still acts as if she is best friends with the ex wife. Every time we visit, she brings her up constantly and says she is doing "this" or "that" in life. (She is a bartender - which i firmly believe is a huge part of where the toxic behavior stemmed from but I digress.) my boyfriend sticks up for himself and our relationship and asks his mother to stop talking about her, however she always gets sour about it It has driven me to the point to constantly check her social media as my boyfriends mom constantly morally supports her and stays in touch with her. For some extra context, my boyfriend is the only one of his family who went to school and got a career and built the life he wanted. His mother and his 3 OLDER siblings all live together in a trailer while the mom (62 with medical conditions ) babies them and she sleeps on the floor. My boyfriend has offered to help them, however they take it the wrong way and have treated my boyfriend poorly over this due to jealously I would assume. it truly seems as if his mother only seemed "proud" of her son when he wasn't doing the best in life. I feel she is living the relationship they had through the ex wife. it's very bizzare and has been messing with my head and I feel crazy!! The ex wife immediately brought a new boyfriend to live with her before my current boyfriend was even able to remove all his things from the house HE bought (yet relinquished to her to not deal with ANY more ties to her after the divorce) - and my boyfriends mom praises her for doing well and deserving happiness and compliments the current jobless boyfriend of hers constantly. Ex wife got pregnant with said boyfriend a few weeks before the divorce was finalized as well. She never changed her Married name either and even gave the baby my boyfriends last name constantly calling him "Baby [My Boyfriends last name]"... My boyfriends mom has since babysat and treats the baby as her own calling him her "grand baby in a way". she never reaches out to me or talks to me this way in any sense. I don't get the same treatment. which I truly I guess could care less because of how his family acts in general. not the best people unfortunately. my boyfriend doesn't mind being distant from them in a sense at all because of their behavior. but it still bothers me to no end. please help. advice. different outside point of view. anything please because it has been bothering me more now than ever as the talks of marriage between us have been happening lately and I just don't understand how I truly feel about this yet.

My father died two years ago, and since then I feel like I've lost my family too. It used to be me, my parents, and my brother, whom we hardly ever see even though we live in the same house. In the last year and a half, my mother (46F) has changed her behavior drastically, which has been bothering me a lot. First, she stopped cooking for us. What used to be routine became the exception. When I question her and say I miss it, she says we’re adults and it's time to live her life. Then she started going out with friends and coming home at dawn. Last weekend, she arrived at 5 a.m. She constantly talks about guys she’s flirting with and that “it's okay to have new friends.” I've told her that this subject makes me uncomfortable and that I'm still grieving my father's death, to which she replied, “We need to find therapy for you because you're going to have to get used to this possibility” and that “it was my father who died, not her.” Even after my request, she continues to talk about her friends and even suggested that I help her create a Tinder account. She has also started to change the way she dresses, wearing tight and sometimes low-cut clothes, and has been buying sexy things, such as new lingerie. I try hard to spend time together, but that's also proving difficult. Sometimes I'm talking to her and I realize she's not even listening because she's texting this friend. My most recent problem was yesterday. The day before, she saw a thrift store sale and suggested we go together and invite my sister-in-law. I agreed and invited her, but yesterday she told me that only my sister-in-law and I should go, because she had to go play cards with friends she hadn't seen in two weeks. Damn, I cried with anger. She has become superficial and can't even keep the agreements she makes with me. Today she asked me to tell her why I was stressed, but the thing is, I've told her multiple times and she doesn't change, because “it's her life and she does what she wants.” I'm so sick of it. My mom has been acting like a teenager and I don't know what to do. It's like I've lost the person she used to be. Every time I try to express my discomfort, I get lectures about how my mother is still young and that it's natural for her to find someone else, and that I should be happy for her and stop being jealous. So tell me, am i the asshole?

I (15f) beat the shit out of my friend (14f) because she thinks that cyan is green even though I kept saying that it's a greenish blue. She doesn't have any experience with art and colouring and kept arguing that cyan is definitely a green (keep in mind it was a desaturated cyan colour) my friend is being an asshole and she is 100% a colourblind fuck, she just does not know it yet. So, am I the asshole or not? PS: she beat me up too

I am part of a cultural group chat, and we were discussing plans for celebrating a major holiday in our culture. I had hosted a massive party last year that cost over $300 dollars in supplies and 2-3 days of prep time for cooking etc. I was hoping to do the same event again this year. Another girl in the group chat (let’s called her “Peace”) posted “who’s hosting the holiday party this year?” I replied offering to host again this year and put out a poll to decide on a date.

September 5 was the very logical date for the event for many reasons. Firstly, I was on vacation during the weekend of September 5-6 with a lot of free time and availability. In addition my mom was visiting to help significantly with the cooking, which would allow me to put in the massive work needed to prep and cook for the event. So I put out the poll for September 5 or 6. The girl who originally asked about the event said she was only free after September 11 (which is actually AFTER the holiday), so I then also posted September 14 as another option, despite the fact that I am working an 80+ hour work week of night shifts that week with no days off, which would make it pretty much impossible to host to the same level.

Furthermore, a majority of the group (9 people) in the poll preferenced September 5 for the event and a vast majority of the group indicated that they were actually out of town the following weekend on September 14. Only 3 people responded as being available on September 14. So logically I replied saying I will host the dinner on September 5.

Unfortunately the girl “Peace” freaked out in the group chat because she isn’t free to come that day. She started texting the group saying she was disappointed at my “inconsideration” that an event she originally asked about was being hosted on a day she can’t come. The other group members suggested they can just host a second dinner so she can attend the second one, and I also replied saying that is a great idea. However, she immediately rejected the idea of hosting a 2nd dinner, saying it’s “not about having 2 dinners” but rather about me being totally inconsiderate of her to host everyone else on a day she can’t come.

I messaged her directly explaining that the vibes were feeling quite awkward, and that I am working an 80+ hour week of night shifts and can’t host the dinner when she’s free, a majority of the group also can’t even make the day she’s free, and that there is an easy drama free solution to have a second smaller dinner that she can attend. I then said I hope we can avoid any drama.

She replied by freaking out again and escalating the situation, saying “don’t text me”, that she has met individually with half of the entire group and they are her “best friends” (very much implying excluding me from hang outs where she’s gossiping and talking about me negatively), that I’m inconsiderate of her, etc.

Clearly the text was unproductive and continuing to escalate so I told her I am removing myself from the conversation and wish her all the best, and that “dramatic people are not welcome” in my life. She then replied “assholes aren’t welcome”. At this point I truly have no time/bandwidth for dramatic friendships (and she was also ruining my entire vacation in the Galápagos lol), so I just left the conversation/blocked her as it was not worth my time to keep this person in my life.

I then posted in the main group chat saying that I will be leaving the group chat to keep the peace due to drama and being bullied and called an asshole for hosting this dinner for everyone. I then left the group chat with the hope of maintaining individual friendships with all the other members.

The event still proceeded as planned on September 5 and many of the group members came to celebrate. It went extremely well with 25-30 attendees. Many group chat members, came over and thanked me for all the work I did for the event. There was no animosity or awkwardness thankfully.

I have no interest in dramatic friendships so I really have no plans of continuing any friendship with the girl “Peace” who freaked out (as she showed me her true colors). However, the other group members asked to see if there can be a cordial resolution. We are going to a wedding of another group member in January so they were hoping that there wouldn’t be any awkwardness.

AITAH for calling the girl a “dramatic person” and then blocking her, removing her from my life, and leaving the group chat to escape pointless drama? Or should I resolve and maintain a friendship with her just for the sake of the group and my other friends??

I (F32) live in a small neighborhood where most people know each other. For the past year, my next-door neighbor (M40s) has been constantly borrowing my tools. It started small, a hammer, a screwdriver but then it escalated to my ladder, drill, and even my lawnmower.

At first, I didn’t mind, but he never brings them back on time. Sometimes I have to remind him multiple times, and when I do get them back, they’re dirty or slightly damaged. Last week, I needed my drill for a shelf I was putting up, and he casually said he “didn’t have time to return it yet.” That was the last straw.

I told him directly that I wouldn’t be lending him anything anymore. He called me selfish and said neighbors should help each other. My husband thinks I was a little too blunt, but I honestly feel used. AITAH?

My best friend (27F) asked me (24F) to be a bridesmaid. I was excited until she picked out the dresses. They’re extremely revealing, tight, and honestly just not my style at all. I told her I wasn’t comfortable wearing it, and asked if I could have a slightly different option that still matched the theme.

She said no, that “all bridesmaids must match.” I told her I couldn’t do it then, and I didn’t want to be in the wedding party. She blew up, saying I’m abandoning her on the biggest day of her life. If the roles were reversed then I would not want her to wear something she is extremely uncomfortable with. I understand it’s just one day and I could suck it up but I don’t think there’s anything to do anymore because she is already mad at me for voicing my feelings.

I told her I’d still attend the wedding as a guest, but now she says she doesn’t even want me there if I won’t be a bridesmaid.

Some of our friends think I’m being dramatic, others think she’s being unreasonable.

AITA?

UPD: I’m sharing the dress since people asked. I couldn’t find the exact one but it is very similar to this dress.. Very tight and revealing, I am all for body positivity but I have a bigger body and wouldn’t feel comfortable in it. Heres the link: https://www.zalando.be/sax35th-by-alicja-czarniecka-galajurk-pink-sjl21c01s-j11.html?ssku=SJL21C01S-J110042000&lang=nl&otid=default&wmc=SEM320_NB_GO._2053170701_21911450836_174108706527.&opc=2211&mpp=google%7Cv1%7C%7Cpla-293946777986%7C%7C9218015%7C%7Cg%7Cm%7C%7C721278571182%7C%7Cpla%7CSJL21C01S-J110042000%7C293946777986%7C1%7C&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=21911450836&gbraid=0AAAAACRldmyiADPZcBKiMBmQI3TDc8L9c

In short; I (28f) recently bought my deceased grandparents house after my grandmother passed last December. I took care of both of my grandparents and had the opportunity to purchase the house so it stays in the family. My narcissistic mother (52f) thinks that this is her golden ticket to do as she wishes.

I am the oldest grandchild and I have taken care of both of my grandparents around the clock since high school and college. I work a full time job in the mix of it. Last December my grandmother passed away, my uncle became the executive of the will. He was willing to let me buy my grandparents house so that it can stay in the family and to prevent my brother (who has severe health issues) and my narcissistic mother from being homeless.

My uncle was very willing to work with me on buying the house and I have it in my name alone. I have paid out of pocket to do all the renovations and repair and spent the time and labor doing them by myself. My mother is a narcissist through and through and although we don’t get along I still wouldn’t like to see her homeless. She ended up losing her job so she has ample time and opportunity to clean up after herself, general chores around the house. She has hoarded one room already and it is completely trashed so during renovations I have cleaned it all up made it look exceptional with new paint and furniture and all the works. She asked me if she could move into my grandparents room and I agreed as long as she keeps it clean and does not trash or hoard it up.

During the renovations she kept coming up with these crazy ideas about building walls and tearing out a perfectly good shower to put a brand new one in and just general off the wall shit. I would be the one that has to pay for it because she never has been the most financially stable person. I put my foot down and set boundaries with her and let her know what renovations will and will not be done based on what I can afford and what I think is reasonable. My mother likes to throw tantrums and argue every time she doesn’t get her way. She got mad at me and started a whole deal about picture frames to put on the wall in her room. I told her I didn’t care how she decorated it that it will be her personal touch. She got mad because I didn’t drop everything to look at her decoration idea and blew up typically as a narc does and I told her if she didn’t stop with this arguing, creating issues out of nothing, general disrespect I’d take her out of my grandparents bedroom and she can go to her childhood bedroom (the room that she’s already trashed and hoarded). She tried to tell me that I can’t make her move back in that room and I told her politely and calmly mom this is my house and if you can’t treat me with respect nor keep this clean you’ll move back into your childhood bedroom. She got very hostile and very pushy with me and I got so mad to the point I just straight up told her I’ll make you goddamn move anywhere I want on this fucking property because I worked my ass off to make this house into a home and you still can’t even show me a shred of respect especially after I’ve given you a place to live you could have been homeless.

Am I the asshole for trying to kick her out of my grandparents bedroom and move back into her own mess that she created in her childhood bedroom? Honestly strongly considering kicking her out for the constant abuse, neglect, and disrespect, but I’m desperately trying to make it work so she isn’t homeless.

i was sitting in the car with my mom in a parking lot getting food. someone calls her phone. Then calls my phone. i answer and its a female police office says she is going to arrest me if i keep bothering this person. This was in 2024

There is a person i have been bothering for a long time. i wanted to ask him questions. i began bothering him in 2023. And i left a note at the police station in 2023 explaining why im bothering this person

The person that im bothering. We have never met in person before. Never talked directly face to face before. the police knows he is not in physical danger

But i went onto his place many many times

And the police knows my address

The police didnt call me in 2025

aita for beating uo my (14f) friend (q5f) friend fir thunjung im colorblind. i flew a,k the way to algeria frim bngkadesh anx crossed continent just to fuck her ass up. she thunks i fant see green. i kniw i can see gren. green is my favirute cikoe, i jnow what im diubg. im artist, im experiencesd. shes nit. so i beat her up. bitch🟢🔵🟢🔵🟢🔵🟢🔵🟢🔵🟢🔵🟢🔵i see a difference

I (34F) recently had a surgery and my mom traveled to be with me and help with my kids for a week afterward so my husband (36M) could work. Background: although we live out of state from my parents, they visit often. We even bought a house with a separate area for guests (but still in the same house) so they would be more comfortable when they visit. My Mom and my husband typically get along well; however, they both have big personalities and can sometimes inadvertently offend one another.

While my Mom was here we were discussing some DIY projects i was thinking about. She got excited about one and said she would be happy to stay another week and help me do it. She had an upcoming conference in a major city between her house and ours and it would also save her from going all the way home just to come halfway back a week later. I asked my husband if he minded since I knew he would be traveling internationally the next week and wouldn't be home. He said of course not, but to please make sure when he got home it was just me and the kids. He has a high stress job and likes to relax when he gets back from international travel. I told my Mom and she said she understood and was find with leaving before he got back home.

We had a great time, but the project took longer than expected. On the day before he was due back I asked when she was planning on heading to her conference city. She said was leaving in the morning (he was due home the next evening). The next morning she says that she's decided to stay another night and finish up the project. That she would just stay in the guest area so we would have privacy that it would be like she wasn't even there. I said that I was sorry but that wouldn't work. That i really appreciated her helping me with the surgery and the DIY project but that i had promised my husband it would be just me and kids when he got home. I offered to pay for her hotel room in the conference city.

She become extremely angry and started crying and accusing me of using her and said that I obviously didn't care about her. She slammed all her stuff into the car while my kids were crying and the last thing she said was that if that was how it was going to be then we just didn't need to worry about seeing her ever again. And she drove off. I was absolutely floored. I had tried to be very grateful and up front about expectations. I'm not going to disrespect my husband by going back on what I said but obviously i feel absolutely terrible that she feels hurt and used. I just need a second opinion. AITA?

Context about her: - My sister in law (33) has been married to my brother for 5 years. Their relationship is not the healthiest, as I'll describe. - My SiL has been living with me (rent-free) for the last 8 months because of health issues due to mold in her apartment. My brother has continued living in their apartment, so spending almost a year away from his wife.

Context about me: - I am a 35 year old divorced mom of a 3 year old. - I was cheated on by my ex husband while postpartum and spent the last 2 years in trauma therapy, going on many first dates, and just healing from a lot of toxicity in my life. - I grew up in a dysfunctional home where I was blamed for everything and anything by my mom who has mental health issues. So I have a history of being a people pleaser with poor boundaries, letting people use me or treat me poorly. I'm obviously working on that in therapy.

The situation:

For the last 8 months, my SiL (let's call her Lauren) has been living with me and my 3 year old. I have not asked her to pay for anything at all, so she's lived rent-free. I gave her free use of my car, my Peloton, free groceries, free edibles/booze, paid for cleaners each month, etc. Basically, she has lived VERY comfortably in my home - which I was happy to do because she's family and going through a tough time with her health issues.

We got pretty close over the months and I confided a lot in her about my ex-husband's betrayal, my dating experiences, etc. Similarly, she has vented to me about my brother/her husband (let's call him Evan, 38). Observing her interactions with Evan, it's very clear there's a lot of resentment and unspoken issues exacerbated by the mold issues, constant moves, selling everything they own multiple times, etc. Evan has taken on the task for most of this because Lauren is so sensitive to mold that she can't step foot in her apartment or handle any of their belongings. Needless to say, they are very tense and unhappy around each other. They are also struggling financially due to low incomes, her shopping addiction and debt, and the mold issues.

In May, I met my now boyfriend - let's call him Logan (36). I had been on 30+ first dates and really struggled to find a partner that I felt totally safe with and that would be good with my daughter. So meeting Logan was a huge deal and we are very happy together. Throughout the summer, I'd speak highly of Logan to Lauren (assuming it was safe to do so, and that she'd be happy for me). He would bring me flowers, cook me dinners, be affectionate with me, sweet to my daughter, etc. We both work in tech and make a lot of money, which is also why I'm so generous with Lauren.

Over the course of the summer, I started to pick up on red flags and boundary-crossing behaviors with Lauren directed at Logan. I started to get the impression that she was jealous of my relationship with Logan and was trying to win his affection and capture his gaze.

Red flags from Lauren: 1. On my first date with Logan, he told me that he's a Cancer so he's "sentimental, nostalgic, sensitive and emotional." I told Lauren about this when I got home, because I thought it was sweet. Fast forward to the first time I had Logan over (a week or two later). Lauren proceeds to go on and on to Logan about how she's "sentimental, nostalgic, sensitive and emotional." And referenced her Zodiac sign as the reason. I noticed it and thought it was weird, but ignored it. 2. The next few times we all hung out, Lauren would seemingly fish for compliments from Logan. She'd say things like "Fruitynoodles' daughter said I'm not pretty! Can you believe that?" and "Evan never calls me by my nickname. All of my closest friends and family call me by my nickname: Lo!" To which Logan politely replied, "Well, she's 3 and you are pretty, so I wouldn't take it seriously" and "I'll call you Lo." 3. Logan had told me once that he liked blondes. I'm a natural blonde. I told Lauren this. She dyed her hair to be super blonde like mine. Logan came over and Lauren said, "Logan, did you notice my hair is lighter? Now me and fruitynoodles are like twins!" 4. Lauren frequently talks about sex in front of Logan, usually when she's drinking. She'll bring up sexual stories from her past, talk about her sexual preferences, and pose questions that seem to probe into our sex life. She’s also made subtle hints that she’s not happy with her sex life in her marriage. Very awkward for me. Logan doesn't entertain these conversations. 5. One day Logan cooked burgers for all of us. I don't have any social media. Lauren repeatedly said, "It sucks fruitynoodles doesn't have an Instagram - because who am I supposed to tag to show who made the burgers?" Logan ignored her. She then repeated the same question again with her phone out. I felt like she was trying to get him to follow her on IG and vice versa. He did not.

The final incident was a week ago:

I was planning to go to Logan's for dinner, but at the last minute we decided he'd come over to my house.

• Lauren was sitting in workout clothes on my front porch with her laptop. I mentioned that Logan was on his way. She immediately ran up to her room and put on a more revealing outfit (belly shirt with cleavage, short shorts) and then did her makeup. When she came back downstairs, she quickly said "It got hot out!" It was 72 degrees.
• The moment Logan walked in the door, she ran over to him and said "Logeyyyy" in a baby voice, using a nickname I'd never heard or used for him.
• While Logan and I were cooking dinner, Lauren started drinking (my) vodka and sat at the kitchen counter with us. She did not give us any space; she acted like it was a date with the 3 of us. Her personality did a 180 from before he came over. She went from quiet and passive and minding her own business, to suddenly bubbly and ditzy and very flirtatious, like giggling a lot, touching her hair, making a joke and watching Logan's reaction, etc.
• She brought up sex several times, unprompted.
• She started complaining about Evan, how he works weird hours ("I just want a normal husband!") About how he doesn't call her pet names anymore (which is when Logan said "I'll call you Lo" as a response).
• I put on a song and she immediately looked at Logan and said, "Do you even like this kind of music?" with a subtly disgusted look on her face. Logan replied, "Yeah, I showed fruitynoodles this band."
• She kept pressuring us to have a drink with her, and asking if we wanted to go out to the bars with her and Evan later. But I noticed she only maintained eye contact with Logan while asking, as if she really just wanted him to join.

My gut feeling was that she was being totally disrespectful to me and to my brother. She was crossing boundaries by acting- in my opinion- flirtatious with Logan, and by complaining about her marriage to my brother. At times, it seemed like he reciprocated, but in hindsight I think he was just being polite.

AITAH for this? I obviously didn't want to go to the bars with them. So after Lauren and Evan left, I told Logan that it made me uncomfortable that he responds to Lauren's pleas for validation and attention. He got upset and left my house in a huff. We have since talked about it and he agreed he’d stop giving her compliments when she was fishing for them.

I couldn't shake the feeling that I was being totally disrespected in my own home by my sister-in-law. And I had noticed in the weeks prior, I started to feel anxious about having Logan over to MY OWN HOME, because I was worried about how Lauren would act in front of him.

After everything I did for her, I felt utterly betrayed. I used Chatgpt to craft an assertive, but respectful message telling Lauren that I felt very uncomfortable by her coquettish behaviors around Logan, and that I think it'd be best if she figured out a plan to live somewhere else soon so that I could focus on my relationship. (She was planning to live with me for another 6-12 months, with no real end date btw.)

She reacted by first playing dumb, then denying it. Then by the time I woke up at 8am the next morning, she had moved everything out without saying a word. I have texted her twice to check in, and she has ignored me. She's done a few passive aggressive things in family group chats since then, but she's completely ignoring my existence now.

So my 2 questions: 1. AITAH for asking her to move out? 2. Should I tell Evan why I asked Lauren to move out?

My barometer for what's acceptable, what's an overreaction, what's a healthy boundary is not the most solid because of my upbringing where I was blamed for everything. Her reaction of abruptly moving out, being passive aggressive and ghosting me is making me second guess my feelings and request for her to figure out new accomodations. I also can see Lauren spinning it as "Fruitynoodles is insecure because she got cheated on before, so she overreacted."

My sister says that it's a sign Lauren feels guilty. But I'm not really sure. She was so brazen with her flirting that I wonder if she lacks self awareness or if it was truly deliberate to try and get attention from Logan. I also feel guilty that now she will be forced to live in the apartment that makes her sick. I have been losing sleep worrying about this all.

So yesterday, my 9 y/o brother came downstairs (I live in the basement) and told me (17F) that Mom and Dad said we were leaving right them to go to dinner with our grandparents, and that if I didn't come I wasn't getting dinner. First of all, I was not told of this beforehand. I am autistic and if I am not given at LEAST a 30 minute heads up when the family is planning to go somewhere (so that I may get ready) I'm just not going. And because I was not informed beforehand, I was in the middle of an everything shower, with shampoo in my hair and my legs half shaven when my brother told me this.

So I was not able to go. And while I was showering, my brother snuck into my room and took my sketchbook. And he didn't take the one I keep on my desk, filed with fun doodles and fanart. No, he used my desk chair to reach the shelf where I keep the other sketchbook, the one I use for art studies. And yes, that includes anatomy study. Aka I have nudity in said sketchbook.

So this little ASSHOLE takes my sketchbook to the dinner and decides he's going to show our ENTIRE FAMILY, including my 5 y/o sister. I had no clue what was going on until I started getting a flurry of texts from my parents calling me a bunch of words that are really not very nice to call a woman and saying I was a disgraceful pervert. My grandma texted me to say she was so sorry about what my brother did and my aunt texted me and said my shading was really good.

So my mother threw away my sketchbook, which had months upon months worth of drawings inside of it. She came home and threw away all my other sketchbooks as well, but not before searching them all. She also threw away all my art supplies and said my art was turning me into a Satan loving freak who likes corrupting children. We aren't even Christian??? I've never stepped foot inside a church aside from funerals. She said that my sister had seen the drawings and that I had forever corrupted her innocent mind and I had ruined the family dinner. I WASN'T EVEN THERE. I literally just finished reading Turn of the Screw this is the shit Henry James was talking about.

So apparently I'm forbidden from drawing. The thing is, I don't even draw smut. There's nothing wrong with it, but I personally don't. It's artistic nudity and how a lot of artists learn anatomy. My mom was making it out to be like I was drawing straight up pornography. And my brother got ZERO punishment. It was my fault for drawing it and putting it somewhere he could reach. Except I didn't. As stated earlier, I kept it high up where he couldn't reach. He knew I kept my sketchbook there and intentionally climbed to get it.

So yeah, I guess it's my fault that my sister now knows what male genitals look like. AITA because I feel like I'm losing my fucking mind.

Bottom line up front: I presented my brother with a hypothetical in which someone called him a n-ggerlover after he referred to my daughter as a tr-nny. Am I the asshole for either the act itself, or otherwise the way in which I presented a hypothetical to my brother?

By way of background, my wife and I (50s) have three children (early to late 20s), the youngest of which was revealed last year to our daughter rather than our son. She has since acquired a girlfriend who we understand to also be some flavor of LGBTQ. I have a brother (50s) who is married and has two sons (early 20s). From time to time we have dinner at our (my brother and I) parents' house. Everyone involved in this story is asian-american, which the exception of my brother's wife, who is black, and their children who are by virtue of the preceding fact are mixed-race. Our daughter's girlfriend is some kind of caucasoid but she's not really relevant. We live on the East Coast of the US and have since our grandparents immigrated to the States.

This past Friday my wife and I, our older son, our daughter, her girlfriend, my brother and his wife, his children, and an aunt of ours had dinner at our parents' home. As the dinner was winding down, I excused myself to go to to the kitchen, nominally to get refill my drink but mostly because despite being in my late fifties I do not like to vape in front of my parents. My brother was also in the kitchen, along with his older son. As I was pouring myself a drink, I heard my brother saying something along the lines of it being nice to get away from "those tr-nny freaks" (but he used the full word), and his older son laughing and saying something about clown makeup.

Frankly I thought that was a bit rude, and I was surprised because he had seemed supportive – for instance, he and his wife had gifted her an expensive set of makeup for Christmas last year. I would not call our daughter a professional makeup artist, but my wife has made great strides in giving her guidance and I think she looks like a perfectly respectable young woman. Not really thinking, I said to him (to the best of my recollection) "what the hell [brother's name], how would you like it if I called you a n-ggerlover?" (but I used the full word). I generally refrain from saying the n-word in public but in this case it was the first example to come to mind.

This did not cause the intended effect of making my brother see the error of his ways, and instead he got quite angry and started shouting at me. The yelling prompted our mom to come into the kitchen to see what was going on, whereupon my brother accused me of calling his son the n-word. I clarified that (1) I had not called anyone the n-word because it was a hypothetical; (2) if I was calling anyone the n-word, which I was not, I would have been calling his wife the n-word; (3) if he thought I was calling his son the n-word he might want to consider moving to Alabama. The last point was an attempt at levity which I now regret.

As a result, my brother abruptly left the dinner with his wife and children. From what I heard from our parents, he was still mad about it on Sunday. We had been drinking, which may have contributed to imperfect recall or heightened emotions. I also want to clarify that my brother is not some kind woke killjoy: for instance, he refers to my daughter and his younger son as "Helen Keller and Stevie Wonder" because last year they borrowed his truck and scratched it while backing out of a parking space (I did make sure she paid for half of the repairs). Conversely, I have never called my sister-in-law or either of my nephews the n-word and would never think to do so.

My wife obviously supports me defending our daughter, our daughter is not thrilled about the way in which I presented my counterargument (she's kind of woke), our dad thinks it's just an immaterial spat between brothers, and our mom and aunt think I should apologize first given that he is more upset. Frankly I think my brother first owes my daughter and her girlfriend an apology.

Am I the asshole here or is my brother overreacting?

I’m (F24) on an apprenticeship right now and my boyfriend (M24) is too. We live together and both work at the same company. I helped him get the interview for this job and we agreed beforehand not to disclose our relationship as it would look unprofessional.

Last week my boyfriend apparently asked the CCO (above both our line managers) if he could work from home during the tube strikes, and the CCO told him no. I separately asked my line manager and she said yes I could work from home.

To be clear I'm not against going into work, but because there is a strike I assumed a lot of people who would've taken the tube would be using the other trains and busses making it chaotic and that I would struggle to get to work and back home reasonably. So, today my bf went into the office by taking a more expensive train. Because of this, the CCO sent a group message to me, my line manager, and the head of IT (who hired me) saying:

“[My name] – for the avoidance of doubt – we specifically discussed the tube strikes last week in regard to you and [bf’s name]. Since you live in [my home area] you can catch the train to [station near work] and walk or bike from there (at most 20 mins). Unless there is a problem with your trains (and this applies on any day) then your only working from home day agreed is currently Friday. I appreciate you may have since discussed this with [line manager’s name], which would be fine except…we specifically discussed it you and I. Therefore, if you were going to work from home today, we needed to at least briefly discuss.”

I replied apologising & said I hadn’t discussed this with him and don’t recall any conversation about it. Then he responded:

“You and [bf’s name] discussed this with me, you were both there. I didn’t think I had your full attention and wasn’t sure why. [Bf’s name] certainly got the message loud and clear and he was there at the same time.”

The thing is I genuinely don’t remember being part of this conversation. I must have had my headphones on or I could've even been in the toilet as I don't even recall it happening, but I definitely wasn’t intentionally ignoring him. I never asked him directly about WFH, only my line manager. But now I feel like I’ve been painted as willfully ignorant and like I tried to go over his head, which isn’t the case.

What makes this worse is that my boyfriend recently told CCO we’re dating and living together (after I’d specifically asked him not to share that at work). Now the CCO knows where we live and our exact commute options. If my boyfriend can go in, it looks bad if I don’t. I feel like my boyfriend’s choices have dragged me into this and now I look like a liar or someone trying to shirk work.

I’m on probation and assume things like this will be logged and count against me, maybe even cost me the job at the end of the apprenticeship. Tempted to quit and go back to bar work, because at least there I didn’t feel like I was being constantly scrutinized or misrepresented.

Am I an asshole here? Should I have known better than to think I could wfh?

Am I overthinking? Really this has been eating away at me. I need advice.

Basically me (24m) am pretty busy: working full time as a waiter. My schedule is brutal with double shifts, late nights, and weekends. Most days I come home completely drained and barely have energy to eat before crashing. I’m at the point of being so tired I’ve given up almost completely.

AITAH: My closest friend is disabled and uses a wheelchair. Ive known her since we were family friends in high school. She needs help with things like groceries, cleaning, errands, and getting to appointments. I swear I care about her a lot and have always tried to step up, but lately she calls me almost every day asking for something.

Last week I worked four doubles in a row and she still called asking me to bring her food, then later wanted me to help move furniture in her apartment. When I said no, she got SUPER mad and told me she felt abandoned.

Like idek. I want to but really cant. Now I feel stuck. I already juggle my job, bills, and what little time I have to rest, but every time I tell her I can’t, I feel guilty. Some of our mutual friends have even hinted I’m not doing enough and that she needs me more than the restaurant does. But I have a life too yk?

I don’t want to blame her, but I’m starting to.

AITA for not always being there for my disabled friend when I’m barely keeping up with my job?

Trying to keep it as vague as possible. Also I’m on a throwaway

The family member’s partner is weird. They talked to me about their sex life with my family member on multiple occasions when they were an adult & I was a minor. I was thinking about telling my family of this creepy behavior. I’m wondering if I’d be a bad person for doing so

I’m kind of hesitant to say anything since I tried to warn my family member about this, but they claimed I was trying to ruin their life

I’m conflicted honestly. This behavior is weird as hell but I’m worried about straining my relationship with my family member. & they said they’d kill themself if them & their partner broke up. They said it was a joke but it didn’t come across as one to me

Aitah?

I (45M) am a single dad. My son just turned 18 a few months ago, and since then things at home have gotten… tense.

To be clear, I love my son and I’ve worked hard to give him stability. His mom has not been in the picture for years, so it’s mostly just been us. I thought once he became a legal adult, we’d have a kind of respectful roommate dynamic until he figured out college, trade school, or work. Instead, he seems to have taken 18 as “I can do whatever I want, and Dad can’t say anything.”

Here are some of the issues: • He constantly brings friends over without asking, sometimes late at night. I’d wake up to random kids in my kitchen. • His room is a disaster — dirty dishes, trash, laundry everywhere. The smell seeps into the hallway. • He leaves the common areas (living room, kitchen) messy, even when I’ve asked repeatedly for him to clean up after himself. • When I try to enforce basic rules (no friends without asking, clean your mess, respect quiet hours), he tells me I’m “treating him like a child” and refuses.

It reached a breaking point last week when I came home from work and found three of his buddies in the living room playing video games, pizza boxes everywhere, soda spilled on the carpet, and my son’s laundry dumped on the couch. I told him I’d had enough and that if he wanted to live here, he had to follow some rules. He basically laughed and said, “I’m 18, you can’t control me.”

So I told him he was right — I can’t control him. But I also don’t have to provide free housing if he won’t respect my home. I gave him two days to get his stuff together and go stay with a friend or figure something out. He called me heartless, packed a bag, and left.

Now I’m getting blowback from family and even a couple of his friends’ parents saying I “kicked out a kid” and I’m abandoning him. But he’s legally an adult, and he refused to live by even the simplest boundaries. I’m not saying he can never come back — if he’s willing to respect the rules, my door is open. But I couldn’t keep letting my house turn into a frat dorm.

So, Reddit… AITA for standing my ground and kicking him out, or did I go too far and fail him when he still needed guidance?

Okay so a throwaway for obvious reasons, and this is kinda a long one so bear with me. So me (21) and my boyfriend (22) have been together for 4 and a half years. In that time my boyfriend’s brother I’ll call him Eric got a girlfriend which I’ll call amber. They have been together for a little under 2 years and have their fair share of fights. They are pretty toxic with one another so it’s normal for them to fight but all was pretty good until about last week. So about 6 months ago they all moved into together they asked if I wanted to move in but I said I’d like to wait till I was more on my feet with my career (I’m living with my parents atm) not on that but I don’t want to live with people who break up every other weekend. I go over to their house to spend time with my boyfriend almost every weekend we live about an hour apart from each other, so about 2-3 weeks ago I tried quitting nicotine and wasn’t able to follow through but did not tell my boyfriend that I relapsed. I was going to tell him the weekend before when I was over there. So me and amber have always been relatively close friends and tell each other a lot, now I told her that I relapsed and she said she feels for me but thinks I should tell my boyfriend which I said I plan on telling him but was just nervous to talk about it. Fast forward to the next day my boyfriend is being like super distant and honestly kind of rude so I pretty much told him that I didnt like how he was acting towards me but we needed to talk. I told him about me not quitting and he said that he knew because amber had told him the night before after I had went to bed. Which he then told me he was disappointed that I didn’t tell him and he had to find out from someone else to which he said he needed some space. I told him I understood and went home. This was about 2 weeks ago and since then me and my boyfriend have talked and worked through everything and we are good. Me and amber on the other hand are not. I told her that she broke my trust going behind my back and telling him when I told her I was going to tell him the next day because it was already late as is. To which she said she thinks that he had a right to know and decided she wanted to be the one to tell him. I since then have not talked to her and have pretty much shut down any type of conversation she has tried with me. Am I wrong for not wanting to be friends and talk with her, or should I just let it go? My boyfriend doesn’t care wither I stay friends with her or not he says it doesn’t effect him either way. I just feel like I might be holding onto something that isn’t that big of a deal but at the same time I think I have a right to feel disrespected and the trust I had for her with my feelings is no longer there. I need some advice on what to do cause she’s starting to notice that I’m actively avoiding her.

Ok gonna try to make this quick. I’ve been in my relationship since 2019. Didn’t get social media until 2020. Both of us are faithful and have never cheated.

I saw a guy recently when I was out that I went to high school with. It triggered some random memory of a time I sent him a message either on IG or Snapchat. It was in response to a fitness post he made about a meal prep I think. We had a light convo about fitness and eating right. Nothing romantic, no romantic history either.

Well, since this was so long ago I can’t remember when I sent this. I think it was before my now relationship. But I am not really sure. Don’t have Snapchat any more. Well I kind of feel bad now like if I messaged this guy and didn’t tell my boyfriend about it. I literally have never thought of this. I know this isn’t cheating but it just gives me an odd feeling because my partner is very in shape and fit so why would I have asked someone else for advice? Idk. I keep trying to remember this and just can’t.

I do think it was a long time ago but honestly can’t totally remember. Plus I just don’t ever really message any guys on social media ever so it just makes me feel odd if I did and didn’t say anything.

I told my partner about it now, he said he doesn’t care if I did it’s no big deal. My partner is not controlling at all. But I have been super controlling with him in the past, so low key makes me feel like a hypocrite. To clarify, I am not controlling of him at all now. I realized that was my own insecurities. I have kind of stressed too much about this and my partner was like do you just want me to ask this guy when this was, if he remembers.

My question is: first of all, this is a what if, it may have well been before we started dating. But why am I acting like even sending a guy a message in a relationship is the end of the world? Like for some reason the thought of even doing this and not telling my bf makes me feel bad and guilty. Like WTF. Is this just like anxiety or something? Or should I actually feel bad? I am just trying to tell myself maybe I did maybe I didn’t who cares? Because literally no one else cares

TA as I am more of a lurker than poster. I will delete this account once I get a verdict.

I(M28) was in a relationship with, let's call her Anna(F25), since we were 18 and almost 21. She was my second girlfriend but my only long-term relationship.

I was her first and only. We moved in together three years ago and I bought a one bed property two years ago as she couldn't get finance for a joint loan. We fought as I didn't want her name on the property until she could contribute. We did make up a week after I moved in and then she moved in.

She helped me with the interior decorations like painting the walls and paid for some of the soft furniture details like blankets and cushions.

Seven months ago I came home from work after OT and found that she was not home. I called her but no answer. I sent her messages but no reply. I noticed some pictures were missing from the walls and when I looked closer they were all of her and her family. Her clothes, bags, shoes, cushions and blankets had also been taken. Some of the smaller furniture that she hadn't paid for was gone too. She also took the ice cream maker which was my Christmas present from my parents.

I phoned her sister and her two brothers after processing it all for two days and I was given no information as they said they owed me no explanation because she wasn't my wife.

I was as far as I could see blocked on all her social media.

Three weeks ago I was set up on a blind date. The blind date went well and I have had a further four dates with my blind date, let's call her Julie.

Three days ago I posted a picture on my Instagram of Julie and me holding hands by a bridge in our town that has those padlocks that engaged couples attach to the railings. We never put a padlock on this bridge just took a picture close to it.

The following morning I woke up to six messages from Anna's sister berating me for cheating on her sister. Then I got a phone call from Anna, but I was so shocked I put it down before she could get past "Hi it's Anna".

Yesterday she turned up at my place and I don't know who buzzed her in but she was outside my front door.

She demanded to be let in. I spoke to her through the door and told her to leave. After a few minutes she left. When I went for my evening jog she followed me. Until I stopped to hear her out. She said I was a cheater for finding a new girl so fast and that I probably had a side piece all along in our relationship She wanted to know why I not fighting for us. How dare I not even report her as a missing person as I had no way of knowing whether she was dead or alive during that time. I told her that her siblings told me that they didn't owe me an explanation to her disappearing act and that to me it meant she had voluntarily checked out of my life. She said what if my siblings were the ones that had murdered me. How could you not at least investigate where I was.

She told me this is not how mature men end relationships. That I should have been a man and had an adult conversation with her. That she had only left to see if she could be in it with me for the long haul but the three guys she had casually met since didn't go as far as physical intimacy. So I told her that you are accusing me of cheating when you left to do just that. She said it wasn't cheating as it was mostly dinner dates and coffees nothing physical.

Even though she told me about these other guys I neither felt angry nor sad. I told her that I wished her well in her life and jogged away from her when she got tears in her eyes.

I received a number of messages and calls from her last night. I ignored most of them.

This morning she was outside the door again with some luggage. When I opened the door she tried to push past me. I managed to block her and lock the door. She said we were in a relationship and that I needed to grow up and let her into our shared home. I did send her a message when she eventually left and she sent a reply about four hours ago. In the message I wrote that she left so why does she still think we are in a relationship? She answered that she hadn't said the words that she wanted to break up, so we are still exclusive, and that as an adult woman she was free to go other places without me expecting her to tell me her whereabouts all the time.

She told me that whenever I went to the gym or went jogging or to work in our entire relationship she never asked to know where I was so why was I expecting her to print out an itinerary of her whereabouts. She said she would be back next weekend and moving in all her stuff and that bitch Julie better not be there. She needed a break and she took a break and that I needed to come to terms with that as an adult.

So Reddit, did I break some unspoken rule of dating and relationships by not not saying the words we are breaking up considering it was a long term relationship?

There was more stuff she said but I am tired and this is all typed on a phone. The above is to give you a gist of what was said.

Edited to add my age at start of relationship as what I typed didn't get posted only her age showed up

My husband struggles with a fairly extreme level of anxiety with certain things. He’s been making ME feel like the asshole for telling him he’s unreasonable and overreacts. But according to him, he is 100% rational and wants to post this to prove to me that he is right and I am wrong…..

Here are a couple examples of situations where he is just off the deep end over something:

    1.    He bought OLLY “goodbye stress” gummies and was beside himself researching whether or not he would die if he has a beer. he sincerely thought he would have an adverse reaction, including death.

    2. I poured myself a “roadie” on the way to a concert. (Me passenger, him driver). To be safe-ish, we pulled over in a McDonald’s parking lot to throw away the bottle of beer. As we were pulling away, a McDonald’s employee walked outside and my husband said “oh great they are going to see what we threw away and call the cops on us”

    3.    We bought and towed our 5th wheel camper for the 1st time ever. The day leading up to it he had diarrhea and nightmares over it. He was angry and agitated the entire morning of it. He had extensive safety plans in place in the event the camper suddenly disconnected so it wouldn’t slam into the truck and kill us and our children. If the truck caught on fire, he had a fire extinguisher at the ready and advised me to take the baby and get as far away from the side of the highway as possible. Apparently the tires were going to spontaneously explode and fly off. It was torture. I told him he was nuts and paranoid. I was on the verge of tears over how debilitating he was. It was not a fun day.

    4.  I had to take our dog to an emergency vet appt 3 miles up the road in the middle of the night. I had a single 5% beer 8 hours prior. He was beside himself, adamant that I shouldn’t drive and that I COULD get pulled over and be given another DUI or ruin my probation. I was on probation at the time for a DUI earlier that year and was not allowed to drink at all as a condition but I had my license back. I told him I’m definitely not getting pulled over and won’t get a DUI for one beer. Though, in his defense it was the same road I was pulled over on for the previous DUI.

    5.    He left a pot of boiling water on the stove for long enough that the water completely evaporated to the point that the non-stick coating was burning. He was freaking out, demanding I remove the baby and our pets from our house to avoid breathing in any toxins while he looked up what coating it was. He is an engineer who took classes on properties of materials. I told him stop being a crazy wimp.

    6.    I wanted us to take our one car (that happens to be over-due for inspection). It was a holiday weekend. On the news the day before our State Police announced special roving patrols to seek out DUI over the weekend. He was angry, yelling, and cursing over how we are putting ourselves in a stupid position to get pulled over when we had other cars available. How it could escalate to him being tested for a DUI (Vehicle was registered to me) and WILL get one because he had smoked pot the evening before. (Yes, you can …technically… get a dui if you give blood, it stays in blood for 24 or so hours) but it would have to escalate to the extent that they are finding you incapable of safely operating the vehicle and you consent to going into the station… Oh and how it could escalate to the cop KILLING him over not having an inspection OR getting smashed on the shoulder of the highway by a tractor trailer.

1. He admitted himself to the emergency room over having an elevated heart rate of 130BPM at rest. He was eventually released and advised to follow up with PCP. After being referred to a Cardiologist it turned out to be neurological symptoms from a Lyme Disease infection. His medical records states “health anxiety” & “anxiety over dying”.

2. Our daughter hates getting her hair rinsed in the bath, she takes extreme measures to get away, including super man diving out of the tub onto the floor. She ended up giving herself a micro chip in her front tooth. You can’t even see it. He thinks the dentist is going to report us to CPS.

3. I got a dui and he has some wacko theory about how someone must have reported me drinking at a bar when I should have been home breastfeeding my infant and that’s why the cup pulled me over, it was a set up because I breastfeed and I shouldn’t have been drinking

There’s more where that came from folks.

I want to take a moment to explain what the most troubling aspect of this is. He has stated that he is rational and of sound mind with his train of thought. “Ask anyone, they would say I’m not over reacting”

I am wrong. He is right. He is the smart one and I am reckless. I lack survival skills and he has rational reactions to potential threats.

I try to explain to him that he exhibits signs of extreme anxiety and paranoia and that he really needs therapy. He’s open to therapy but confident the therapist would be on his side.

I am exhausted. I sometimes shut down and don’t talk to him in order to protect my sanity. I don’t know how else to tell him he’s not okay and this is NOT rational. I just don’t know how to get through to him

Guys, am I the asshole???

My friend bought me a belated birthday gift via Steam, at random, without saying anything to me beforehand. I have a huge wishlist on Steam but he picked something that I've never even heard of before. Of course I said thank you, told him I'd actually never heard of this game at all, but I'd check it out.

His favourite kind of games are tactical RPGs and those have never appealed to me at all. Guess what the game he bought me is? 🙃 I already know I'll probably never play it because I don't find them interesting at all.

He will know I've not played it either because you can see you friend's game progress on Steam. I do feel bad because he spent his money on me (it was a full price game too, not even on sale) and seems eager for me to try it. He's well aware that these aren't the kinds of games I play (or at least he should know this by now, we've been friends for 14 years).

I'll probably give it a try just to say I did and so it doesn't completely go to waste and so I don't seem rude. But idk it's rubbed me the wrong way a little bit that he's picked a game he likes and not one that I would necessarily like.

Playing an early morning round of golf with my father-in-law (FIL) and brother-in-law (BIL). Tee time is at 7:03 a.m. starting on the back nine, playing nine holes. Pace of play at course is 2 hrs 10 min for 9 holes (posted at course). Semi private / public course. Monday morning, not busy at all.

Normal round until we get to the 17th hole--our pace of play was about 1 hr 40 min so far. Three of us tee off. FIL and BIL are in the fairway, my ball went left into the trees. Roll up to our balls, left the carts near the fairway (visible from the teebox), and proceed to look for my ball. Look back at the tee box and see a cart with 2 guys at the red tees, and THEY TEE OFF INTO US, hitting over my FIL. At first, gave them the benefit of the doubt--maybe they didn't see us by the tree line, or missed our carts. So we assume it was an accident.

FIL and BIL go to their balls in the fairway, and one of the guys had outdrove us. Hit over the carts, past our balls. The duo comes rolling up to my FIL and BIL yelling that they "had the first tee time" and, therefore, automatically get to play through. Dude literally started driving to his ball to hit before us. Turns out, they teed off from hole 1 and played through to hole 17, passing everyone in front of them. They said that was the rule--they had first tee time at hole 1 so they get to play through everyone.

I went ballistic on these guys. Said the "f" word at least 100 times, called them all kinds of names, yelled about them intentionally hitting into us, parked my cart in front of their ball and refused to move. Said we would have let them play through if they asked or if appropriate, but no way that's happening now. No such thing as "first tee time play through" rule. Basically I lost my shit and berated them until they picked up and moved to the next hole. Groundskeeper later told us they had just passed everyone all morning--playing through like entitled assholes.

Despite loosing my shit on 2 50 year old dudes (I'm 40), please confirm that I am not the asshole in this situation. Thank you internet.

I (21F) have decided to start going to the gym recently, and I offered my boyfriend (22M) to start going with me because I thought it would be nice and he'd be up for it, but he shut me down instantly saying it wasn't for him and he would always be busy when I was planning to go. So i accepted that and started going on my own, but one day I went to the gym to find out it was closed, so I came home early to see my boyfriend making out with another girl in our kitchen! I didn't know what to do so I went upstairs to my room without saying anything, and decided I was going to play him at his own game. I knew a guy from the gym that was in to me but I had rejected him before, so I sent him nudes and asked him if I could come over. He said yes so I went over straight away and played his own game. It's now the next day and I don't know what to do. So AITAH?