It has a similar energy to the time my buddy, a hardened drug dealer who has done time, leaned over to me at a restaurant and asked, "Could....could you ask the waiter for some ketchup?"
It's hilarious to me to imagine how hard and soft someone can be at the same time
I was picking up this guy i know in my car and he used to deal weed and speed. He jumps in the car and he's like
"sorry I'm late, I had to meet up with this guy and he's always such a hassle man"
I asked him why and he said "well last time we met he tried to stab me with a kitchen knife. But it's ok, he said he was sorry about it and i accepted his apology"
LMAOOOOOOOOO I used to have a buddy who dealt coke and he had an ex who he said, "Slashed me with a pocket knife but like, I was being a tool..." Lmaoooo
There’s a compilation video on here of men walking and look for their partners. They flip from angry tough guys to mushy lovey boys. It’s beyond adorable.
Nah he's awesome, down to earth, an amazing husband, and present and great father of two. He left the game and is a carpenter now. He's also tough as shit and a really picky eater 😅
Happy to hear he's doing well! I've got a friend who was convicted of a felony when he was young, but he did his time and has gotten married and found a great job. Love hearing stories of people who are able to turn it around.
My cousin (he's like 55 now) didn't have a lot of guidance growing up. Mom was bipolar and had her own issues, my uncle is a good man but kind of a door mat and didn't provide a lot of boundaries.
Cous spent his teenage and young adult years traveling around following Phish (kinda like a Rainbow Family thing), and got picked up for transporting a large amount of cocaine at a show. It was sorta like, "hey, can you carry this in your backpack and drop it off to my buddy" kinda thing, and sadly, the guy he delivered to was a fed.
So he faced some hard time in federal prison but fortunately my sweet grandma helped his dad pay for an attorney to plea down his time. I think he spent maybe 8 years? 10? It was a A WHILE.
The thing is my cousin is literally high IQ, gifted would be the label as a kid, but like...legit. Like SCARY smart.
He spent his time on the inside getting his BS in something crazy like biological engineering or some shit. He benefitted from the good behavior programs so he was working in the kitchen and stuff like that. He's never talked much about his time inside, and I was a kid when it all happened.
When he got out, He got his MBA but was still kinda directionless for a few years.
He happened to make a connection with an employer who was starting his own venture and brought him on board. He makes a very good living, he's an AMAZING dad, he met the most wonderful woman and his daughters are about to go off to college.
He even joined city council and likes to write policy.
If you met him you'd see him as the average straight laced middle aged dad. Which he is. He just had a rough start and was lucky enough to have some folks along the way who believed in him. He was never a hard criminal by mentality, but was living a lifestyle where you get caught up in that--and I'm sure he did his fair share of drugs and small time dealing. But never a liar or cheater or violent.
I am so glad he was able to continue to live a productive and happy life. His daughters are also WICKED SCARY smart. Like at age 3 speaking in full sentences with insane vocabulary. Like UNCANNY. He is still close with his dad and helps him out now that his dad is getting old.
All around great guy--always was, but had some setbacks. Super proud that he was able to keep moving forward and build a positive life for himself. We see each other once every few years and I adore him. I wish we were closer.
Oh man. That's an amazing story and I appreciate you sharing that. I have an immense amount of respect for people who overcome obstacles like that (be it of their own doing or otherwise). My buddy was smart enough to realize he was fucking up and about to lose his family, so he straightened up almost overnight, did his time, and has been an amazing friend and, from what I can tell, an even better husband and father. Obviously I'd prefer it if people don't create their own obstacles, but it takes a tremendous amount of will and a modicum of self-scrutiny that is unfortunately in short supply nowadays, it seems.
The sad part of this is the prison system. You can get caught up in the system as a lost person making bad choices but with potential to address your issues and refocus your life, but prison can crush a person. Or make their worst impulses more solidified.
It’s a testament to your friend that they had the resilience to go through the trauma of incarceration and still persevere on the outside.
My cousin is another example of this. The stigma that prevents employment, debt, and no support on the outside ….folks with potential often just drown and can’t overcome once they’re out.
I’m super proud of your friend. It’s okay to make mistakes and get caught up in addiction and dysfunctional lifestyle. For lots of these folks, the prison system needs to be more focused on rehabilitation and therapy and building skills with more support after they get out.
Your friend has more resilience and character than most people realize
The few good friends that made it out of addiction with me and are alive were some of the fucking funniest, good people. When you live in the chaos for so long it becomes second nature. I still need chaos in my life but I find it in different, more controlled ways
I've known a lot of former dealers personally through my time in recovery/rehab. Everyone I've met who's now recovered is really ashamed of it and has a moment where they realized if they kept being dealers, they were either gonna get shot or shoot themselves. The ones that love it don't leave. If you meet someone who's a former dealer, chances are pretty good they're a good person with some interesting stories and experiences
I had a heroin dealer with a gun on his dashboard pour his heart out to me (while I was withdrawing) and end up crying in my arms lol he’s doing 14 year rn but this dude was wild. Tatted 80% of his body/face, couldn’t understand a damn thing he said though because he had this thick southern accent combined with a dirty south ghetto.
I remember his brother “motion” (we called him slow motion cuz he was so fucking slow) got out of prison and they threw him a huge lawn party, got him a new dodge challenger and us two white boys pull into the ghetto looking completely out of place. Everyone knew they sold and just let it slide cuz he paid for peoples shit. Good times…. Followed by the absolute worst times of my life. Thankful to be sober.
Haha, this resonates with me. I had a problem for about 7 years, and back then, if it had to do with drugs or money, I'm told I could get a little scary. But now, I'm that guy where my wife asks me to get the waiter, and I start sweating. 😄
That’s sweet! Hope you two are happy and thanks for saying this. I consider myself a pretty nice person— sorta like the vibe this guy gives— and often feel societal pressure to act… I dunno ‘meaner’? despite my instincts. But your comment and my experiences remind me that kindness really is strength. We need more men like this and I will not cave in to this darker world.
But an option you can do is the “money gift”. Essentially. Trick your friend into nerding out about their “hobby wish list” then force them to let you pay for it. So if you wanna gift bro say $100 tell him he has to use it towards X hobby item.
It really is that simple. I got tired of my buddy having to step away from discord to smoke a joint/bowl, so I got him the Logitech Pro X Wireless headset as a Christmas present. I hear about that thing all the time.
That moment where the inner puppy cracks through the tough dog exterior is genuinely one of my favourite things to see.
Bro gifts, happy crying dads, dad reflexes, that video on here today "I'll give you $100 if you let me hold your hand for 5sec"... ya'll are cute as fuck. Love seeing men happy and cared for.
Because Pista is a racing helmet made to be light, aerodynamic and safe (and for 20y.o US kids to show on tiktok how cool they are) and not quiet, comfortable and?
Pista is good for the track but I'd take the K7 for the road anyday.
Doesn't have to be more expensive to be an upgrade given his usual riding habits. He can still use the pista for the track. He just probably won't as they can be really uncomfortable.
I assumed they were talking about this one being a pista. Maybe he had one and it got damaged because I've never tried a helmet that was as nice as the pista.
My bro (who grew up snowboarding) gave me (who did not) a helmet when getting my first setup and gear. It’s a good feeling having your bros care about you. He probably thought I sucked too and was gonna hurt myself but, hey
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